My fiance and I want to get married now and have the public ceremony later. Is that alright?
2007-10-16 09:23:14 · 14 answers · asked by lulu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You bet! Your public ceremony would be a vow-renewal no need to get another license. But do not let that limit you to what your ceremony could be. You still can have the same ceremony your heart desires, you will just not sign another license. You could use a Marriage Certificate. Your minister or officiate should have them. Blessings, Chaplain Debby
2007-10-16 19:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suspect that you're going to get different answers to this. In my book, you have only one wedding to the same person. You choose EITHER a private ceremony nor OR a public ceremony later, but not both. You can't keep getting married over and over again until it turns out like what you want. You have the wedding you have, and that's it. If you're already married, you can't have another wedding. I also think it's really tacky to expect people to pretend you're not already married and then throw a traditional wedding later, with showers, presents, a poufy dress and all. As for vow renewals, I suppose those are OK on a small scale and after 25 years of marriage, but not next year. Either marry now under the circumstance you have, or marry later under circumstances that are more favorable (I assume money is the issue).
2007-10-16 16:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
it's "ok" - sort of. As long as you realize that your ceremony will actually be a renwal of vows, not a wedding. The wording/ceremony will be different. And depending on your religion, may have different meaning/requirements.
Before you make that leap, talk to your Priest/Pastor and talk about your options and how it may effect your faith. This is especially important if you are Catholic.
Also realize that once you are married, you no longer "qualify" for the bridal shower or bacheloretty party. So if you do elope, now is the time to have them... not later.
Furthermore, people will be less likely to bring a gift to your Renewal of Vows, if that matters to you.
ADDED: Don't go trying to make it a secret, that's just a dumb suggestion. First of all, it's public record and listed int he vital statistics in the paper. Secondly, everyone who attends the pretend "wedding" will KNOW what's going on because as I said, the wording will be different, and an officiant cannot pretend you aren't married. So don't listen to that suggestion.
2007-10-16 16:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As long as those invited to your ceremony next year KNOW you are already married and it is actually a renewal of vows ceremony.
2007-10-16 17:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you are married you cannot get married again, you can have a vow renewal, lots of people do that for special anniversaries but it is not a wedding. It usually takes a similar format to a wedding but it still is called a vow renewal.
2007-10-17 08:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I know someone who did this. Wanted to get married soon but due to grad school and personal issues doing the large ceremony wouldn't have been practical. They did a private civil ceremony and will do the public one in a year and a half. Nothing wrong with this at all. If people ask, just explain that you want to have time to plan so that the big day is just as you want it. Congrats!
2007-10-16 16:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
No. It is rude to invite guests to re-enactment that is not a real wedding.
The only real ceremony is the one that changes you from being single to being married. Fake re-run weddings are bad manners.
If you want to celebrate a year later, make it an Anniversary Banquet, not a re-run ceremony.
2007-10-16 16:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I HATE REDOS!!!
Why do it twice? Why can't you just wait until next year?
Sorry, I am bitter about this and actually stop talking to friend who is currently performing a big redo. Why get married and then want a big shower, bachelorette party and a huge white wedding? It's stupid and people don't care- your already married and living together. Do it once and do it the way you want!
2007-10-16 16:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
It's fine, as long as you call the "ceremony" what it is - the vow renewal.
2007-10-16 16:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It's OK only if you keep it a SECRET marriage. People who are already married don't have weddings, period. However, if no one KNOWS you are already married, you can get away with it.
2007-10-16 16:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋