We have been together for two yrs now and it still has not change, its actually worse. When I say hello or speak to him he doesnot respond. Won't even tell his father what his issues are. I have never mistreated him in anyway, he just doesnot want to accept me. My boyfriend tells me I must set him straight. and tell him he needs to respect. and donot go out of my way whatsoever... I need help?
Any advice?
2007-10-16 09:13:27 · 9 answers · asked by Teresa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His dad needs to step up not you 2 yrs isnt really that long compared to 14 yrs. Give the kid a break. Im sure it's really hard but you have to let it go. Once he's out of puberty and turning into an adult im sure he will mature and change.
2007-10-16 09:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jordan 24 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If anyone's going to "set him straight", it should be his father, not you. Secondly, don't hold your breath. It's hard to win a teen over, and if his mind is made up about you there is little to nothing you can do to change it. Lastly, whenever you get involved with someone who has children, like it or not, they are an integral part of your relationship. If you can't deal, don't take things any further.
2007-10-16 16:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell the bf its HIS son and HE has to set the boy straight. 1st the private, non-threatening talk alone with him, then you both have the same altogether. Get him to say whats on his mind. Hes still hurt by the divorse, separation or death of his mother and in today's rickety world, kids his age should not be left to smolder.
Be advised - you'll be doing this scene alot.
2007-10-16 16:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by miladybc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UM if i were him and some woman who wasn't my mom tried to tell me i NEED TO RESPECT HER or tried to "set me straight" i'll tell you I'd be acting the same way. So i think you need to try to be a friend - no buddy buddy let him get away with stuff- but just someone who isn't trying to tell him what he has to do because you have no right to do that.
2007-10-16 16:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by gm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been dating this guy for two years and the situation has not improved and has actually gotten worse? Read what you've written and take your own advice, drop this guy and his kid, both are trouble and the son will eventually tear you apart. Save the heart ache from getting any worse and drop this guy ASAP.
2007-10-16 16:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his father told you to set him straight, what parenting class did he attend. obviously the child is having issues with you taking his mothers place, maybe you guys could attend counseling together.
2007-10-16 16:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by scott A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont talk to him..act like he isnt there. If he doenst want to open up to you....its not your problem. And Tell your boyfriend that you dont want to waste your time trying to get to know the kid. He is a stubborn 14 year old...there isnt anything you can do.
2007-10-16 16:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Have you tried sitting down with him and asking why he resents you so much and letting him know you're not trying to replace his mother?
2007-10-16 16:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have to deal with it... his kid his problem. And if your boyfriend loves and respects you, you should be able to go to him and he should take care of it!
2007-10-16 16:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kalli 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋