I love my boyfried so much! We have been through so much together that i feel like nothing can brake us apart. We use to live together with 2 other roommates (his friends, i should of known better) we got in a fight and he kicked me out!! Well now the other roommates say i'm not allowed in the house because they think we're going to get in a fight one of these times and the cops will be called, He's actually listening to them!! I have a boyfriend who never stands up fo me! I stand up for him all the time and he never does the same... Do you think i'm being 2 sensitive? What do you think? Whenever i say anything to him about he say's "GROW UP, GET OVER IT"
2007-10-16 09:08:46 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We broke up when he kicked me out, I took him back.
2007-10-16 09:09:27 · update #1
Drop him. Find a guy that will stand up for you and defend you. Find a guy that loves you as much if not more than you do for him. Cry, watch sappy movies, eat pints of ice cream, whatever it takes to get over this douche and move on.
2007-10-16 09:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by MrMyers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it is over. As hard as it may seem, it is time to puts some plans in place for you, not him.
It sounds as if both of you have some growing to do, both in terms of personal growth and relationship growth. "Living together" arrangements sound like convenience arrangements, not a commitment to one another. You need to look at what you had hoped to achieve from this past relationship and how you will take the lessons learned into a new relationship. You don't want to repeat the same issues with someone else and end up in the same situation again.
Determine where you want to be in five years, not where you wish you were tomorrow. By projecting out you will se much clearer where you want to go and the means by which you can get there.
Right now you need a hug, a listening ear, someone who cares. This is NOT your exboyfriend. Talk to someone in confidence, someone more mature whom you can trust.
Time will heal your hurt and you will find love again.
2007-10-16 09:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bearman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're boyfriend doesn't sound like much of a catch, sorry to say.
It sounds to me like it's your boyfriend that needs to take his own advice and grow up. You will never solve any issues if you can't communicate properly, so the sooner your b/f learns this the better.
In the meantime, if you can't make a decision about your b/f at least be aware that he's hurting you by robbing you of your self-esteem. When you bring something up for discussion and are blown off, he's disregarding your feelings and making light of what you consider to be important issues. Over time you end up questioning yourself and losing the ability to stand for what you believe.
2007-10-16 09:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, you're definitely not being too sensitive.
He sounds like he doesn't know what loyalty is, and I don't know how much you want to be with someone like that, honestly. You may think you love him, maybe you do, but if he would kick you out, and then when you got back together still agree with his roommates that you shouldn't even be allowed to be in the house, he doesn't sound like he holds you in too high of a regard.
2007-10-16 09:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm I understand how you feel.. I was in the same situation. well only the part that your boyfriend doesnt stick up for you... but hay. If he doesnt put his foot down then forget him. The question I have for you, is why is it that his friends feel if you come back its you who is going to bring the cops? Maybe you have a rapport with them allready and they feel that is just redundant with you! If thats not the case, then your boyfreind needs to grow up and be a MAN.. hes being a lil sissy letting his friends run over him. Is he with them or with you?
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him it hurts to know that your bf doest protect you! If he doesnt change for you, then why even bother.. Dont waste your time and move on. You will find a man who defends you! Good Luck!
2007-10-16 09:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi its always easy to suggest dumping him but he is just being influenced by these guys. You need to get him on his own,,,...what was the fight about...are you completely innocent..??.anyways the best thing to do here is to walk away ...im not saying forever....he will wake up to himself..he will miss you feel sorry for himself an all that .it may take a few days or week,,,give him a month....if you hear nothing forget him....he is probably to wrapped up with his mates and if he is this easily lead well you better of giving calling it a day.
2007-10-16 09:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ross 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't on the lease - you can't expect his roommates to put up with bickering and quarreling, and if they had legitimate concerns, he did the right thing.
Don't live with a guy until you're married - or at least until you can live alone. No single guys want to share living quarters with a gal they fear will end up having the police called in. None. I'm not a guy - and I wouldn't want that, either.
2007-10-16 09:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by Zasu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we can really love someone, but if they dont really make us happy most of the time, ask your self if it is really worth being upset over. A boyfriend is supposed to be your best friend and like family. You deserve to really be treated well, and this doesnt sound healthy. BTW-- no you are not too sensitive at all!!!
2007-10-16 09:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He kicked you out over a fight?! Hon, fighting is frequently what couples do!!! Love isn't always a rose garden.
He sounds vastly immature. Tell HIM to "grow up", stop taking his roommates' side over yours, and to get back with you when he does.
2007-10-16 09:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domicile and living arrangements take presidence because it is a group and the majority or 100% rule. Also Contracts regarding payments for expenses. Matters of the heart are personal.
2007-10-16 09:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋