My boyfriend and I are both pretty shy in the bedroom. I am shy in general, and haven't had that many relationships, so I am not confident at all when it comes to sex. I feel like he is having the same problem. When we do have sex, it is wonderful, but I am starting to get frustrated because it only happens probably twice a month because we are both just waiting for the other person to make the move. I love him and I love every other part of our relationship. I don't want to make a big deal about it, because he is sensitive about his sexual performance anyway...What can I do to spice things up? I feel really stupid and inexperienced, even though I'm in my mid-20s. What can I do to overcome my shyness?
2007-10-16 08:26:17 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be a little more assertive, and don't be afraid to get a little freaky!!! Just remind yourself that sex is and should be FUN!!! Concentrate on the feelings and sensations involved rather than focusing on being self conscience. Basically, you need to ALLOW yourself to have fun. Explore each other, talk about it, tell each other what you like. Don't be afriad to open up to him. Afterall...he's seen you naked!!! What's there to be afraid of??? ;)
2007-10-16 08:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that once you start to initiate it gets much easier. You don't have to walk up and tell him that you want to have sex it can be just simple things like giving him a little more affection than usual, if there is something that you know really gets him going work into that. or you can bring home massage oil and offer a back rub, or run a bath for him and wash his hair although don't let it become habit for him, I think the little things work better and are more satisfying because there is more foreplay, and discussion involved for those whom are shy it is a great way to find out what makes each other crazy, in a good way that is. you would be surprised how well the little things work with out seeming trashy but yet you will get your point across
2007-10-16 08:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Meesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem when I first started out, even though I was a pretty confident person (I was happy with my body etc.) What helped me to overcome this sexual shyness, was imagining myself as someone else - someone sexy; someone confident. It might sound silly, but once you've got your mind in the right place the rest will follow. It worked wonders for me, and I was eventually able to drop this 'persona' and start being myself. :] Good luck!
2007-10-16 08:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 08:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a few drinks first...both of you. Alcohol is definitely something that causes you to lose your inhibitions. Don't get fall down drunk. You'll know when to stop. After a certain amount of drinks, you'll start feeling sexy and acting sexy.
2007-10-16 08:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by veesmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think about anything jus pretend that your somone else and one night while hes lying down jus hope up on em and start griding on em and we will be like WHOA.. Then therre you go jus act freaky
2007-10-16 08:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Drew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just going to have to tell yourself, I want sex tonight and lay on his chest and start rubbing his chest down to his Oscar Mayer,,
start doing it more often and not just in the bedroom, play with him, show him alittle bootie etc while in the kitchen or while watching TV go down on him and such,,
Practice makes perfect
2007-10-16 08:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is shy..then you are going to be more assertive, even if you do feel weird initiating sex. Then soon you'll get more comfortable with each other.
2007-10-16 08:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound odd, but it works...
Start sleeping in the nude, all the time......
once you get used to being naked, things get better..
if you are used to talking to him on the phone before you go to bed, get undressed first...
2007-10-16 08:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will fix this. Tell him how wonderful things are for you. His ego will swell when he knows how he satisfies you.
2007-10-16 08:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋