my fiance just got back a week ago from working out of town in mobile for 3 weeks. the 1st nite he got back a woman named catherine called & he took the phone and ran, i suspected cheating at this time, this was on sunday. i made him call the girl back & tell her to never call again. but the name that popped up on phone was cat, he called cat2. which made me think he never calld her. he has a phone wit a plan but last fri. i caught him messing w/his prepaid phone. so the next mornin i look through his pockets and find his old sim card & stick it in the phone & find out he has been talking 2 her all week! i call the girl & find out he slept with her numerous times, took her out, & she is a stripper w/a kid & another 1 on the way! he finally admitted everything but says he made the biggest mistake of his life & wants a 2nd chance, so i told him 2 call cat & end it w/her. he said he needed time to think b4 he did anything. if he wants me back why doesnt he end it w/her?
2007-10-16 08:13:51 · 33 answers · asked by cami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think he knows what he wants. but he didnt mess up once, he was with her the whole time he was down there!! so he had alot of sex w/her & she is a stripper w/a kid!! he i dont think i should give him time think 2 end it w/her. he should either want me or her, & if said he wanted me so why doesnt he just pick up the phone & end it with her??? we were 2gether for 3yrs, he spend 3 weeks with her. he didnt just have sex w/her once but over and over and i cant deal. im going to the dr. tomorrow 2 get medicice 4 my nerves. thats how upset i am. he asked for 2 days 2 think about everything, but he should automatically choose me. should i give him 2 days 2 end it with her? should i stay or go? i think i should go.
2007-10-16 08:19:30 · update #1
Well I have some recent experience in these matters. I found out my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex (what else is new, ugh) First time ever. We only went out for about four months as of now. But he easily said that he would end all communication with her. He never took time to think about it. And I think it should caution you a lot that he had to think about ending it with slutty stripper when he has you, who am sure is a wonderful woman. So if he has to think about it, I hate to say that I think your trust may be gone with him and he should be fighting to say he really wants you and made a mistake with her. There should not be a time to figure out if he should stop speaking to her or not. If he loves you he will make the decision that he can easily never talk to her again. If you do give him a chance at all though, make sure that you talk about why he needed to keep talking to her. What does he think is missing in your relationship that he had to get from her. Good luck.
2007-10-16 08:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. You know what his actions are saying? HE HAS ZERO RESPECT FOR YOU. He thinks you're a pushover and that he can get you back by playing the old "Oh, I'm so sorry, I promise I'll never do it again" routine. He wants to have a little wifey to come home to while still getting to play with the other girls when wifey isn't around. If you forgive him now, you're telling him it was OK for him to cheat on you, and I can chisel it in stone that he'll cheat on you again if you give him the chance. You deserve MUCH better than that. Give him his ring back, tell him exactly where he can shove it, and kick his sorry @$$ to the curb. If you don't, he'll bring you nothing but misery and heartache for the rest of your life.
2007-10-16 08:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he probably don't want to end it with her. He might want his cake and eat it too. If he loved you so much and wants a second chance, then he would end it immediately. If the girl is pregnant, is the baby his? If it is, then maybe that's why he needs to think about it. Sure, give him time to think. Give him all the time that he needs while you move on with your life and find someone better. You don't deserve this.
2007-10-16 08:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by bitterly_sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know ho you feel. Me and my boyfriend recently went through this. He cheated because he thought i cheated with my best friend. It hurt like hell excuse my language. That was the worst feeling in my life. He is the only man that i ever loved like this and i KNEW that we were supposed to be together. SO we talked it out. Im still with him and engaged. But im not telling you to stay. If he says he needs to think then you think long and hard. If your heart tells you to leave then you leave but think about everything. Is it gonna be wrth giving up everything. 3 years is a long time to give up on a relationship. Think honey and i mean think but dont let this man tskr your pride and digintiy. Dont let him bring him to your lowest point. You be strong for you and take care.
2007-10-16 08:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by *!Its Shay!* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, fiance' and already cheating. This doesn't sound so good. If he's thinking about it, he's not ready to end it w/her. He wants his cake and to eat it to. I would leave now; this is likely going to be a lifelong pattern of behavior that will only make you miserable. It sucks now; just think if you were a couple of years into a marriage: home, kids, etc...
2007-10-16 08:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Laura G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the boy's butt to the curb. He obviously can't be honest with you (translation: LIAR) and wants to have his cake and eat it, too. He lied to you twice (that you know of); what will stop him from doing it again? Once a guy cheats, he shows his true colors.
Don't waste your time with this loser. You deserve someone who will treat you with dignity and respect, treasure you, and value you as a friend and partner.
Life's too short to waste it with a guy that doesn't appreciate or respect you.
I would never be able to trust him again
2007-10-16 08:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by holey moley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have two choices. If you can handle your fiance sleeping around, then stay with him (don't get married though). If you can't handle your fiance sleeping around then you will have to do ther leaving. The one thing you cannot do, (which is the thing you most want to do) is get married, and then hope he's faithful. Not gonna happen. Bottom line, either live with it, or leave the situation.
2007-10-16 08:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by hatch coltraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cami listen to me. LEAVE. No second chances because a second chance will turn into a third and a fourth. I know you don't want to do it, but for your own life happiness you must end this relationship. If you can't trust someone, how will you ever be happy with them? You know what you have to do, now go do it.
2007-10-16 08:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. im so sorry this is happening to you! i know its tough and part of you really doesnt want to, but you really need to get out of this relationship.
if he REALLY wanted a 2nd chance, he wouldnt hesitate about ending it with that skany chick.
you deserve so much better than that anyway, your a woman!
be strong and do what will be best for you in the long run.
good luck!
2007-10-16 08:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're even asking yourself the question whether you need to stay or leave....um, i think you may have been hit on the head. the only reason you would be staying with the skeez if if you actually like to be cheated on, because that's all youre going to get from him. leave him now so you can move on and find someone who will treat you like a princess and never have you even wondering if he's being faithful! you need someone who will respect you and love you like you deserve!!
2007-10-16 08:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by LondonFalls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋