Ok I have been with this guy for 2 years+ we were engaged and i have gone through hell with him... from cheating to drugs to drinkin.. i stood by his side as he overcame these demons.. Ok well latley he's been working cutting wood and seling wood for winter all day he'll leave at 8am and i won;t see him till 8pm.. ok i understand but he don't even act like he misses me he works all weekend.. never offers me to go with him. he never wants to spend time with me. (unless its for sex) if i even offer to hang out.. something comes up and he has to "work" he's always abusing me emotionally and i feel like nothing to him.. so i left him today.. was that the right choice is he going to change?? or am i just gonna sit here and hope he calls and says sorry??
2007-10-16 07:42:22 · 12 answers · asked by panther 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You made the right decisions... You will most likely be waiting around for him to call and if and when he calls he won't be sincere. You really have to stand your ground and stay away from him for a while if you want him to make a change, otherwise he is just going to walk all over you. Take a break from him and focus on yourself in the mean time.
2007-10-16 07:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by ToOtSyGiRl7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont sit there in hope. go do something fun, and if he calls then he calls - but i hope you dont go back to him. this will give him the idea that no matter what he does, you'll always go back to him - which in turn will lead to worse things happening perhaps. it's hard and difficult to get past someone you've been with for so long, but you deserve better. live for yourself right now, not him.
good luck... call up some good girl friends, and have a girls night out, i think you're in need of one!
2007-10-16 14:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by ☮ Thanks a Heap Coyote Ugly ☮ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't just change overnight, too me it sounds as if you did everything you could so there is no use feeling guilty about it. You sound like a person who needs more attention than he is willing to give, let him go and find someone who wants to be with you.
You're a good person for putting up with his demons, you've probably helped him more than you realise
2007-10-16 14:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do woman get themselves involved with alcoholics and drug addicts? Try looking at the situation from the outside, put all your emotional reasons aside and ask yourself, "What were you ever thinking?"
I am glad you finally left him but nine out of ten times women will go back to the creep after a few days. Please do not be one of those.
2007-10-16 14:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Wylie Dun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you helped him through that many problems and the way he treats you is still heading downhill, you made the right decision leaving him. Your experiences should have brought you closer together, not further apart.
2007-10-16 14:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by familyfunshopguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was emotionally abusing you and ignoring you, then I believe you did what is best for you. You were there for him and helped him in his time of need. For him to turn around and ignore that and not help you in your time of need is selfish and wrong. I hope you find someone who will treat you better.
2007-10-16 14:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Gary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Panther, Darlin move on ! He may drag you down to his level if you are foolish enough to hang around ! You sound like a kind and careing kitty !
2007-10-16 14:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u did the right thing by the sounds. u have shown belief in him overcoming his problems which i am sure was not just hard on him but you aswell. and now u aint really getting anything in return. i am quite sure u can find someone alot better.
2007-10-16 14:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by gary83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think leaving him was the right thing because if he is going to treat you like dirt then there is no point to stick around, remember he not the only out!
2007-10-16 14:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by ur.favorite.actdress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made the right choice stay away and find a guy that will appreciate you making an effort for them
2007-10-16 14:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋