A somewhat new friend of mine seems to think that even though I have a bf, he can still protest his feelings for me every now and then (which is actually every we talk, mainly at college). He feels that he is just being my friend, but still leaving room open for other possibilities.
The thing is, I don't want to hear all that. I have a bf and not really cool with him saying certain things. I also imagine that my bf wouldn't really like that because I would feel weird about him having a girl friend who kept saying these kind of things to him, as well.
So although I've told the guy that I have a bf, and that I'm not really open for certain kinds of talk, he still brings it into the convo at some point. He's a nice guy, but I can't be comfortable when I feel like a person has other intentions behind their words....
What should I say/do please?
2007-10-16 07:39:04 · 5 answers · asked by Miss.Understanding 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to be blunt.
Friend, I have a boyfriend whom I am devoted to. I like you very much but I am not interested in you as a boyfriend.
In fact, the more you raise the subject after I have repeatedly asked you not to, the more I doubt your real motives. It's obvious that you don't respect me, you don't listen to me, and you are only interested in yourself. I'm sure this isn't what you want to say - but by not respecting my requests and wishes in this matter and deliberately making me uncomfortable - that's the message you're giving me.
So, until you can deal with this in a mature manner, we'll have to part ways. I shall miss you - but please do not contact me anymore.
Then turn and walk away. Sit away from him in class. Do not return calls, texts emails etc.
It's hard to break hearts - but sometimes they need to be broken.
2007-10-16 07:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt. Obviously it's the only way to get the guy to listen. If he can't take a hint or can't take you being nice about it than you have to set him straight the only other way possible. Bluntness. Just tell him you only like him as a friend. You have a boyfriend that you love and nothing is going to happen between you and this friend of yours. Tell him that the only things he's managing to do is drive you away completely by constantly confessing his feelings for you. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and if he's your friend than he needs to stop. Otherwise, you can't continue the friendship.
2007-10-16 07:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please be honest with him. State emphatically but nicely that you have a BF and are not comfortable with his random comments/actions. If you want him as a friend be aware that men will almost always hold out hope for a relationship with a female they find attractive. He may eventually get over you and move on to someone available. HTH.
2007-10-16 07:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by sparkyboy444 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say" Friend, I value your friendship because you are a decent man,Please dont let things go in directions where I will have to lose your friendship"
2007-10-16 08:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
put the guy in his place I think
did you explain it to him
clearly , like in your last post
maybe he might understand and comply, if its what you really want
2007-10-16 07:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋