whats the best discipline for your child?(physically or verbally)?

Question

and i mean from ages 4 and up because i was raised by the belt and i wanna raise my kids that way also(dont have any yet)

i was spanked more time with the belt then the hand and it shook me up to never do it again and i see alot of parents grounding their kids and in the end they just walk all over their parents later in life im 26 and i respect my parents and know what to say and not to say

also u can use physical ways but not leave any brusises is what i heard

Answer 1

Different discipline works on different kids. And there is a different discipline that will work for diffrent things. For example swearing a warmed butt doesn't really make a diffrence but a good mouth washing will.

Answer 2

My suggestion to you is to never DISCIPLINE physically. Discipline and punishment are 2 COMPLETELY different things. Discipline is to teach a child the difference between right and wrong. Punishment is the consequence for doing something that they have already been taught was wrong. However i am not against spanking as PUNISHMENT! However I would definitely try to use it as little as possible for the greatest effectiveness. Everything can be abused whatever method you decide. Verbally can go wrong as you can say thats that can hurt the child. Time outs can go wrong as they could be crying for attention and isolating them more isn't really what is best. Spanking as I am sure you can guess can go VERY VERY wrong! Grounding also can also become abusive as well. Everything has its pros and cons. You need to find a middle ground. All of these can be tool if used correctly. I would suggest using spanking as more or less a last resort and with a few "key" rules that are automatic spankings.

With that said, you have to be a VERY observent parent and observe and figure out what kind of personailty your child has. For some children a single light swat can be a bad thing if it changes their personality. If they are usually pretty sociable and then after a swat seem afraid of you...then spanking not a good option for that child. Yet if you swat a child and they cry for a few minutes but then they are back to playing and are ok and are loving towards you then thats a possible good punishment for that child. I would personally not make any predeterminations of how you are going to parent until that time comes. Walk into the situation of being a parent as I hope i will never have to spank this bundle of joy, just don't rule it out. Use every tool their is out there to raise your children, don't rule anything in or out till you get there!

Answer 3

I think the punishment should fit the crime first of all. I have used both techniques depending on the child and the offense, however I find that talking to them seems to be pretty effective thus far. I have a 12, 7, and 4 year old and they are all pretty well behaved kids, I have yet to find a real reason to whoop that butt. talking to them and other forms of discipline like time outs and grounding them seems to work too. I also take away some of their prize toys or games and that seems to get a reaction as well.

Answer 4

Well, my son is 3 and he HATES it when we raise our voice to him (Not really yelling, just a stern voice) so that usually works for him. He only gets a swat on the butt if he is doing something dangerous. When I was pregnant last year he got away from me and almost got hit by a car and a swat stopped him in his tracks when nothing else did. A belt is not a good idea. Just an open palm to their clothed butt is acceptable.
Washing a child's mouth out with soap is WRONG. If they accidentally ingest the soap it can cause them to have diarrhea. I have heard of people...even some celebrities dabbing hot sauce on their child's tongue. While I still think this is wrong, it is a lot better than "Washing their mouth" with soap.

Answer 5

My dad paddled us and I turned out okay but there are times I know it was just his temper be sure that if this is the way u decide to discipline ur children please be sure that what they did wrong is explained first if they still keep it up make ur decision. I personally am not going to practice any physical discipline on my child just because its the way my dad raised me.

Answer 6

I was spanked as a child, as were my brothers. They learned from their mistakes but I didn't, the spanking didn't phase me (only made me more angry). As many others have said, and it's 100% true... there isn't one univeral form of discipline that will work for all children, it depends on the child. What works for one, may not work for the other. Before you have kids, please read the book 123 Magic, it's a very useful book regarding disciplining your children.

Answer 7

As parents we do {so far} have the right to use corporal punishment to correct bad behavior. The law states this very clearly. So long as you are correcting bad behavior in your childs action, you are 'allowed' to use this type of punishment to correct their bad behaviour.

As long as you are not being overly abusing them, the law cannot do anything towards you.

Example 1: Older brother slams door on younger siblings fingers causing damage to their hand. Kid gets the slaps.

Example 2: Older brother calls younger sibling names causing them to cry. Call them names and make them cry [just kidding] Talk to them --- no slaps!


Although I sometimes use corporal punishment on my children with great regret, sometimes that is the only way the child will learn.

Answer 8

Using a belt or any other object is ABUSE to discipline a child no mater what age they are!!! There are so many ways to raise a child, that teaches then to respect their elders.I do understand what you are saying about problem children, their parents aren't teaching them respect and so on. I hope you don't use that method of raising you future child(ren).

Answer 9

My child responds very well to calm down times and time outs. If he starts getting worked up into a fit I tell him he needs to go sit and read a book to calm down. He does, then comes out when he finishes and apologizes and we talk about what happened. If he does something he knows is wrong, I will tell him to sit in time out, then come in and talk to him about what he did wrong and then he will apologize. I do not believe in physically disciplining my child. He is 3 and very well behaved.

Answer 10

I believe I will start out talking to my child. But, I'm not going to be one of those mothers that counts from 1 to 120!!! When I say something, I will mean it, and I will mean right now :)