I have been with my GF for over 2 years. We always said we loved each other and everything seemed great. Suddenly out of the blue she says She doesnt feel love anymore and that she doesnt know what she wants. She wants to go out and have fun and maybe meet other guys..then she says no she doesnt want other guys but she doesnt know what she wants. She wants to try and work it out, and for us to be together. She wants me to wait until she figures things out and see if that love will come back. Its insanely hard on me because I always love her and Its hard for me to not say I love you to her, and its even harder knowing that I love her so much but she doesnt love me back. How am I supposed to deal with this? Its affecting everything I do everyday.. all I can think about is if she is going to leave me all of a sudden or if she will love me again. Any suggestions?
2007-10-16 07:32:15 · 15 answers · asked by myoo2182 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its so hard to let her go though.. I have gone through so many changes since being with her. Lifestyle changes, the people I talk to etc.. I never have once stopped loving her and feel that I love her so much. Just 5 months ago we were talkinga bout marriage and families in the future a few years after she is done with nursing school. The thing that sucks most is that on Saturday we are perfectly fine. She tells me that she misses me and cant wait to see me. Then on Sunday she is completely different. Thursday rolls around and she is ready to move on, but wants to try to keep it going because she feels it might be a mistake to give up this relationship just to go out and have fun. I let her go out with her friends and get drunk or do whatever, without worrying about it because I trust her.. but maybe she wants to go out and meet other guys.. ugh..
2007-10-16 07:49:14 · update #1
I don't THINK so. Nonononono.
Someone here is going to say "give her space." I agree, give her LOTS of space. Drop her.
She "wants to go out and have fun and maybe meet other guys" but then she says she wants YOU to wait? To hell with that.
Tell her this: "I don't do breaks; I do break UPS. Commitment isn't one way. We're through. Go out there and have all the fun you want with whoever you want, and I will too. If you later decide that you want me, I'll listen to what you have to say at that time."
If she doesn't respect you enough to commit to you, just call it over and get on with your life. If your life has room for her later and you still want her, fine.
2007-10-16 07:36:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying - if you love someone let them go - if they return they are yours to keep. If they do not, then they were never yours to begin with...
Thing is - it works both ways. She wants an independent life. So give it to her. Let her go. Wish her well.
The price for her freedom,however will be your freedom. That is, you will not wait for her. If she wants to lead an independent life - and all that goes with it - then you are entitled to an independent life - and all that goes with it.
And that does mean going out with other people - both of you.
But you will not wait for her to make up her mind. AND you might just find a much more mature, stable and kinder girl than she is - it's the risk she'll have to take. She can't have it both ways.
Be sure to make that perfectly clear - that if she leaves, she will have to go - and stay that way. She cannot come waltzing in and out of your life and heart as though it was a revolving door.
But wish her well - She has been, if unkind, at least honest.
2007-10-16 07:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using you as her umbrella. When things don't go well, she knows that she'll still have a place to go, you. That is extremely selfish thing to do. To leave you stranded while she go and have fun and meet potential partners, and at the same time telling you to wait for her, because she might come to you when things don't work out. You have been completely used by her. You need to stop it. Have your own backbone and tell her that you have no time for games, either she clean up her act, or break up with her. She is very immature, and doesn't deserve a man like you. I know it's hard for you, but you need to slam the door on her and move on. It's not worth waiting for her.
2007-10-16 07:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously confused. First you have to tell her how you feel in return. It is not fair to you to stay in a relationship she might not want. She needs to not play with your head though. Tell her that you want to stick by her and help her with anything she needs, but that if it is other guys that she wants, to let it go now instead of drag your heart around. People do change, love can fade, I know from personal experience. You might just have to let her go. You are only twenty five. LIfe is not over yet.
2007-10-16 07:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by kelso 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her space and tell her to get her head and her **** together. She doesn't get to play games with you. Then you can talk. Set up some boundaries, like if you can see others, for how long, and how often to see each other. The idea is to give a little breathing room while not being walked over. Try to keep yourself busy. You do have to occasionally talk about your relationship.
2007-10-16 07:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't love you, then end it. It won't get better. It will hurt for awhile but then you will move on. Sorry, but that's life. Better to find out now. You can't make anybody love you and someone falling in love with you again is mostly a Harlequin Romance. Doesn't usually happen.
2007-10-16 07:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you come up with this stuff man i read the other comments and they all say that is how my mom is i think everyones mom does those things i am writing a novel bout my mom u mind if i use some of these they r brilliant! “A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.”
2016-05-22 23:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her. There's no use in you trying to stick around for her to break your heart. Let her know that she can't just use you like that.
2007-10-16 07:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a new chick, you're only 25
I sense a divorce in the near future if you guys stay together
2007-10-16 07:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by animosity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so shes 21... and 2.5 years ago she was 18.5... so you saying that all her college life she ve been with 1 guy.
surely she wants more fun.. **** man... think of your college years.
2007-10-16 07:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by Russian CBR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋