I've been dating my boyfriend for six weeks now. This guy who likes me is aware of it respects it, etc. But he likes me, and I think I like him. But I also like my boyfriend. I'm willing to "flirt" a lot with the guy that likes me...which I do. & I'm willing to have "sexual fancy's" with him through phone... (lol xD) Umm, he said he wont because I have a boyfriend 'cause that'd be weird... yeah...I'm not cheating type but my boyfriend latly has been quiet, boring and ... it's just bores me lol. But this guy I can talk to on phone just about anything no silence on phone for eight hours straight... So what do I do? The guy that likes me, I don't know if I want to date him...but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend. (even if I already have...) This guy might only like me "to get into my pants?" Not sure. His girlfriend he dated for over a year, just broke it off with him two days ago because she "loves" another man. Lied to him, etc...(real hoe) anyways what do I do? What do I ask myself?
2007-10-16 07:18:58 · 18 answers · asked by LifeSavers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you and "the guy you like"'s girlfriend, whom you called a "real hoe" have something in common. You both are/were dating a guy while likeing another guy. If you dump your bf for your crush, you and her will have even more in common.... Ask yourself if you want to follow in the "real hoe"'s footsteps.
Just because a guy is interested doesn't mean he has your well being in mind. Don't get dragged into a bootycall just because a guy is giving you attention.
If you are bored with your relationship, spice it up! Tell you bf that you want to spice things up - BUT BE SAFE ABOUT IT! You can't get rid of STDs or babies as easily as you can get them!
Cheating isn't just physical, it can be emotional as well. If you allow yourself to continue with the phone fanticies or heavy flirting you are being unfaithful to your bf. You can't physically date your bf and emotionally date another guy. Either way it needs to stop. Dump the bf or the crush.
Another thing to think about, do you want to be the re-bound girl? Because his long term girl just dumped him, he isn't looking for anything except someone to take his mind off his pain. The re-bound girl never gets a good rep out of this and never ends up with the man in the long run...
Good luck!
2007-10-16 07:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already cheating on your boyfriend by flirting and phone sex...if he is that boring, end it with him. He'll be better off in the long run than to be with a cheating girlfriend who really doesn't care about him.
As for the other guy, he's rebounding. If you just want to fool around that's fine (if you are mature and responsible enough to be having sex) but don't expect anything serious or long term because he's not in a good place for that right now. He's using you to forget the chick that just broke up with him...
2007-10-16 07:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he may only want to have a non-commitment fun time with you because he still needs to get over his gf. I think you should continue talking to the guy, he can always be your friend that you have undeniable chemistry with. I have one of those too, in fact I basically cheated on my bf like you did with him. except mine was by having sex with him like 10 times. I would not do the whole sneaking around, behind everyone's back deal, cuz that gets really old and eventually, you wont be able to cover your tracks. its hard DONT DO IT! i've been there, lol. stick with your bf and see how it goes, if it gets too friendly with the other guy, i'd break it off with your bf while the relationship is still 'young'
2007-10-16 07:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem only i've been with my bf for 2 yrs and it broke my heart that i was doubting to be with him
but i asked myself if things wehere really that bad and if i was willing to leave a person i love for a person idesired and i chose my boy friend and even though we fight alot and say things we don't mean i wouldn't trade it for the world and as long as i know he loves me back it's all worth it SO ASK YOUR SELF IF YOU FEEL STRONGER ABOUT YOUR BOYFRIEND OR IF YOUR GONNA DO THE SAME THING WITH THE GUY YOU LIKE YOU'RE GONNA GET "BORED"OF HIM ON A COUPLE OF WEEKS 2!?
2007-10-16 07:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your not happy and are having feelings over another guy i say u should tell your bf your just not into it anymore. Dont stay with someone just bc u dnt want to hurt them bc u will just be hurting them more in the long run!
2007-10-16 07:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Tarrant 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision. You cant have phone sex with some random dude, and then be all lovey-dovey girlfriend with your man. Pick one, you cant have them both, and if you try, you will end up losing them both. Your really not being fair, and in turn, giving girls in general a bad rep for this kind of behavior. Grow up.
2007-10-16 07:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"lately" your boyfriend has been really boring? like as opposed to last week? you've been dating less than 2 months for the love!
look if you were really into your bf you woudn't have a wandering eye. so you probably shouldn't be with him and then just flirt with other boys behind his back. it's mean. time to say peace out, girl scout.
2007-10-16 07:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but knowingly or unknowingly,u too are behaving like his ex girlfriend,or maybe worse than her cos u wanna be with ur b/f and at the same time have fun with others too,think about it and u will know what u r suppose to do,good luck!!
2007-10-16 07:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the end, you will be the one who gets hurt. Game playing bounces right back at you. Always.
2007-10-16 07:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by samuelle50 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might as well go out with him. You've already had fantasies about him and your boyfriend knows it.
Good luck
2007-10-16 07:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋