Hey R&S: true or false? Everything you "say" to people on here you would say to their face?

Question

I know that being on here provides a certain degree of anonymity, so a lot of people type things they wouldn't say in real life.

For me it's the opposite. There are a lot of things I want to "say" on here but I don't for fear of being misunderstood...or of getting a violation notice of course.

But when it comes down to it, pretty much everything I say to you I would say to your face...and maybe a bit more.

What about you? Do you hold your tongue more often around here than in real life, or are you more brash? Or maybe it's about same?

When I say "fear of being misunderstood" I mean we're lacking a lot of the essentials of communication: physical indicators, body language, voice inflection, etc. Half the time I can't express what I want to anyway, I can't imagine how weird you guys would think I was if I always typed what I think. :)

Gorgeous: good point about being flirtatious. I'm much more brazen about those things on here. In real life I'd just clam up and blush half the time.

Answer 1

Without a doubt.

Answer 2

I find that I avoid saying some things because of the reasons you cite, but usually it just requires a more exacting type of written speech to be sure of clarity, and intended meaning.

Best of all though, because those factors of body communication aren't present, I can relate what I am saying with greater affection towards the hearers, since they are not uncomfortable, due to physical discomforts they have experience in the past of abuse by those expressing some affection, so that the minds may meat more soundly, with an ease and gratitude not possible except in the more intimate friendships.

God bless.

Answer 3

Philippians 4:8: "Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are of serious concern, whatever things are righteous, whatever things are chaste, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is and whatever praiseworthy thing there is, continue considering these things."

Colossians 4:6: "Let YOUR utterance be always with graciousness, seasoned with salt, so as to know how YOU ought to give an answer to each one."

Being the fact that I adhere to the principles, laws, reminders, orders, commandments, as set forth in God's Word the Bible, I have no problems going to a person's face and say the things that I have written. There is a saying that if you do not have anything nice to say about someone not to say anything at all.

What I write on here is based on the scriptures, not my own human philosophy. When we give our own imperfect philosophies, we always run into problems. I turn people to the holy writings so I do not become a stumbling block to anyone.

By doing this, I can go about my daily affairs of life with a clean conscience. There is nothing better than going through life with a clean conscience. No debt, no one strongly is against me just to mention a couple. What I write on here is exactly what I love to talk about in front of people. Isn't that a beautiful thing?


Source(s):

New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures

Answer 4

What a great question Rachel! I agree with you in that it's easy to be misunderstood over the computer...especially when someone can't hear the tone of my voice or like you mentioned, see my facial expressions and/or body language. Therefore, I'm cautious in the way I word things to Y!A users who don't know me. But 90% of the things I say here I'd say to someone in person...with the exception of flirting like Gorgeous mentioned. If I ever met Jack B. in person I don't think I'd be able to flirt with him because I'd be so hypnotized by his pretty boy looks that I'd stumble over my words.

Answer 5

I try to see all sides and give moderate answers, which I do in real life as well. Usually truth is found in somewhere between 2 extremes, not in one or the other.

I think there are ways to disagree with someone respectfully, and that no one is going to listen to what you have to say if you can't frame it in a civil way. So fear of violations is part of why I'm "nice" most of the time, but not all of it. It's just how I roll. : )

Answer 6

If I state it here I state it in person.... if I state that I feel a certain way about a certain "religion" or sect or cult... that is exactly what I would say to the questioner in person... and I do so...

as this is my third incarnation on YA I do try to not get involved with two certain groups here... I just do not want to have to go the the trouble of reconecting with all those who communicate with me via YA email... so I am trying not to get "deleted" this time around... but some times I just can not help myself and I have to speak my piece on certain subjects.

Answer 7

Chosen....LOL...I speak the same here as I do when NOT on the computer...application of doing everything I know or say is a bit more time consuming though.... :)

and....I'm an equal opportunity blush-er and brass as tacks person....what I blush at is something others may not find "blush-able" and what I do NOT find "blush-able" is something others will try to put their fingers in ears as I calmly discuss it! LOLOLOL

Odd how that is, isn't it? :)

(Mom to 2 boys and 2 girls that have all gone through the puberty/adolescent/teen cycles to adulthood)

Answer 8

I think I would say more if we could see each other because of the aforementioned reasons, such as body language and tone of voice. I am old enough to appreciate the freedom of not having to wear a different hat every time I talk to a new person. I am who I am today, but I hope I am always willing to grow and to love my fellow man.

Answer 9

I know a lot of people who DO hide behind the internet and become more ballsy, if you will. Personally though, I've always been a very open and honest person. I've never had any problems telling people exactly how I feel and in general...i dont run around offending or upsetting people. Its all in how you treat people, I use a lot of humor in my day to day life. Then again, I'm funny...so, that helps.

Answer 10

I really really really....try...to season my words. Im not so much concerned with offending someone on here as I am concerned with offending God. When I read something that shows my words have been in error, then I sincerely repent and ask God to show me the right way.

Learning to bridle my tongue (which used to be pretty dang sarcastic) was one of the first lessons I learned as a Christian. Practicing it is a life long endeavor.

Answer 11

I would definitely say anything I say here in real life. I try to maintain a moderate level of respect for everyone whether it is online or in real life. After all, we're all people, whether we are face to face or computer to computer.

Furthermore, everything you've come to know about me on here is true for me in real life, as well. I am very open about my beliefs and my sexuality and I am the same in person.