My boyfriend of 6 months broke up wit me saturday. i was really upset at first. now i dont even really care anymore. there is this other guy i like that i was kinda talkin to while i was wit my ex and now he wants me to start dating him. i really like him. i just dont know if it is to soon or what.
2007-10-16 07:06:02 · 39 answers · asked by ms. Wilder part II 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait! My boyfriend and I broke up and I dated someone like really fast. Then my ex wanted to get back together cuz he "realized" that he really did love me. His question to me now is If you really love me why did it take you a little bit of time to get over me and get a new guy... It caused alot of problems in the relationship and now we arent even together. I think you should really wait awhile and see how you really feel. Then again if you were talking to the other guy "seriously" why u were with ur dude then u probably dont realy care about him as much as you think u do.
2007-10-16 07:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too soon? You said you did not really care. And, a six month relationship is not such a big deal. It is not like you were married or engaged. Go out, play around, date a whole lot of guys. That is what you are supposed to do when you are young. Dating is a process of rejection. You go through a whole lot of guys or girls before you find the one you want to be with for life. Some people you don't even go out with once, some a few times, and some last longer, but when it ends, you move on and keep dating until you find the one who is right for you. Be thankful he broke up with you now, instead of waiting until after you were engaged, married, or pregnant.
2007-10-16 07:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definately not to soon, obviously you didn't really care for your ex in the 1st place b/c you were talking to this guy while you were w/ him....... so as far as the emotional strings, it appears there are none........... the only reason you might want to hold up a week or 2 or 3 or a month is so you wont look bad to everyone you know or whoever knew you and your boyfriend, b/c all it will do is make you look bad, like " god - she's already dating some other guy, what a slut".... or " i bet she was talking to that guy while she was w/ her ex, poor ex.".................. if you dont care what people think then go for it and who cares, or if you dont wanna wait then atleast keep it on a downlow for a few weeks to a month atleast.......... hope i was of some help
2007-10-16 07:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself, and the new guy a favor, and tell him you're interested but you're not ready yet. You don't want to end up in a situation down the road, where you feel like your entire new relationship was based on a "rebound" feeling. Besides that, it shows some respect for how you hold your past relationship valuable. Its okay to take a little breather. Only you know how long you'll need, but make sure that when you're ready to start a new relationship, you've got a clear mind and a clear heart, baggage free :) It will be so much better that way! Good luck!
2007-10-16 07:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you and your boyfriend are still in the preliminary stages of knowing each other and sometimes this period could be very, very trying to the relationship. The worst step you can take is to immediately jump into another relationship. Guess what, you are as much likely to jump out of that in another 90 days! Why, because you will most of the time be comparing "apples and oranges" and again come to a wrong conclusion about this other guy. My advise is for you to cool down - this guy is probably having a rethink as I write and wants desperately to find a way of making up with you. Have you heard of a science called BIORYTHMS? Check it out and check your compatibility with this guy and other guys. You may be pleasantly surprised!
2007-10-16 07:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Abu Danyaro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to date anyone, but it's kind of to soon for a new relationship when you are not ready.
Why not give yourself some space and time to reflect and prepare instead of going through the pain again out of the act of impulse?
It's wise to spend some time reading a person before falling for him, and it's also fair that you give him the time to study you while you do so.
Take your time while you can. Remember slow and steady will win the game.
2007-10-16 07:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by boonji86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in the same situation about a year ago.....it is too soon.....still talk to the other guy by getting to know him better and make sure to LET HIM KNOW YOU'RE INTERESTED w/o letting him know that you are. Its only been a few days since y'all have broken up. Id give it a month tops but like with me my bf of 6 months broke up with me and the next day a guy asked me out i said, "yes but not now. i like you and i want to date you but i just got outta a relationship (which he knew about) and i wanna get to know you better. i hope you understand" and we waited 3 months b4 we started dating and me and him lasted 5 months and even after we broke up til this day we are still best friends
2007-10-16 07:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go for it honestly. when my bf dumped me for the 3rd time, i saw that as a sign to get over it and find someone else. luckily and conveniently, my best friend's brother came into my life again right at that time and we started dating, pretty much, except he lived 4 hours away and was only visiting so we knew it wouldnt last this time around. my feelings did a 180 from hurt from my bf, to excited about the other guy. but it was like, 4 days after my boyfriend broke up with me and "took back the breakup", i was already with this other guy, and he did not like that. so if you are considering getting back with your ex, i'd leave it alone.
2007-10-16 07:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you were so worried about taking him to the dance.
Are you seriouly mental or just loving the attention.
Come on your 16 and you truly have a lot of living to do.
Your in High School. You have cheated on him, he likes another girl. It's the whole game that people play when they are young.
I'm sure your playing the mental game with more than just one of the boys. Why don't you find respect for yourself before you start dating others.
I don't mean to sound mean, but you would think that you'd respect yourself and not allow guys to play you or you to play other guys.
2007-10-16 07:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by nopeaken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in high school: We all make the rounds of our friends. My & my girl friends in school have dated all the guys we were friends with. We've each had our turn at someone else. 6 months is not a very long time and checking out this new guy is not a bad thing. Date & see if you hit it off. Don't become a "loose", but dating is harmless.
2007-10-16 07:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by Casie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋