Problems with bullys?

Question

My child goes to a school that recently began incorporating children with severe emotional and behavioral problems into the regular classes. I am all for that, but since the first day of school my child has been threatened by one child that he his going to "come to your house and cut your head off" and " kill your little sister" also to " beat the h*ll out of you!" , mind you these children are in 2nd grade. Now this child threw an ocillating fan at my child and two others in the middle of his reading class a week ago... I went to the school and spoke with the principal the next day and was assured that this child would not be returning to class until it is proven he can control himself... He came back yesterday and on the playground threatened my son again. I understand that children make threats but this is becoming dangerous! I am at wits end... my son has lots of friends and is very petite (4 inches and 15lbs smaller than other kids - what should I do???

Thank you all so much... I was so afraid of causing a "stink" but as you all say ... I am the only one who is going to protect him...

Answer 1

I think you need to type up a letter to the school outlining your concerns and send it to them registered mail, return receipt requested.

Make sure the school realizes they are on notice, and that they face potentially huge liability if this little fan-throwing time-bomb injures a schoolmate.

Answer 2

Talk to the principal of the school.Present him with your concerns and also put them in writing.I'm certain your school board has rules concerning student safety.Your son is entitled to a positive and safe environment while at school.Check the web and print out your school board's policy on these issues.You should also pass this on to the principal to refresh his/her memory about these guidelines.I am all for inclusion in the schools however you cannot sacrifice the safety of the class for the benefit of one.How can any student possibly learn or a teacher instruct in such a chaotic environment.Let the principal know you will be contacting the school board if you do not see evidence of an improved situation.Your son is important and has rights as well.Some schools in Ontario,Canada have special section classes for behavioural students and sometimes their are seperate schools for children with severe emotional problems.Do you have a Parents Association at your school? Maybe you could have a meeting with your principal,teachers and school board representatives to address this serious safety issue. You could also set up a petition.It has been my experience when you put your position in writing you are more apt to get some sort of response. Good luck.

Answer 3

Speak to the principal again, and if this does not work call you local school board. Given that this child has already followed through with a physical threat and shows no sign of stopping his behavior (I would question if he even can given his emotional problems, and issues) it needs to be addressed every time he makes a threat. You might also want to see if other children are being threatened or harmed by this child and maybe a group of parents could get together and make the school pay closer attention to the situation. Unfortunately schools have many students and many issues so you must be constantly on the issue and a present force to insure that the school will take care of your issue.

Answer 4

My son had this problem last year with a really bad kid. I don't like calling kids bad, but wow, this kid...Anyway, keep talking to the principal and the teacher. I finally talked to the teacher and nothing really happened. I think I met with the teacher probably six times in a month!

Finally I talked to the Vice Principal. At my son's school she's in charge. She took my son and the other boy in and talked to them. FINALLY things were changing. He was good and scared and stopped.

My son's bully was a trouble maker too. My son's puppy had to be put to sleep and he was understandably upset. He was talking about it and the boy comes up and says I don't give a crap about your F-ing dog and pushed my son on the ground. Another time he pulled my son's pants down and beat him. I don't understand why the teachers never see this stuff. He did a lot of bad things last year. Whenever I spoke to the teacher he'd say "I spoke to him and he's going to stop" Well, it didn't. Then I talked to the principal and it stopped.

My son is small too. He's one on the smallest kids in the school. And he's in fourth grade! He's a skinny little guy too. Make sure that you keep reinforcing that your son is a great kid. After time kids can believe that they deserve the bullying because they did something wrong or something is wrong with them. I was bullied through out my whole childhood. Horrible things, once I was dragged in to an empty house and beaten for hours. My mother didn't care. I'm glad you do. So, please reinforce in your son that he's a wonderful boy and he's not the problem.

Answer 5

If you would really like to support your child, here's what you do.

1) Go to the teacher and ask him/her nicely and verbaly to please watch the threatening child to make sure no more threats are made. Make sure you son knows to report ANY incidents to the teacher right away.

2) If that doesn't work, write a letter (not an email) to the teacher demanding that the student be closely watched for making violent threats against another student. Make a copy for the principal and the superintendant and yourself.

3) If that doesn't work, toss your son a tape recorder and have him record a threat. Go to a school board meeting. Play the tape.

The kid and his parents should be out of the district on step two. Step three and he's in for a life of watch lists and therapy.

Answer 6

There Are Many Ways Of Going About A Question Like This.
You Should Find Out Who The Childs Mother Is And Speak Personally To Her. You Could Also Confront Your Child And Tell Him To Stand Up For Himself. He Could Speak To The Bully Himself And Tell Him To Go Away And If He Went Near Any Of Your Family, His Father Would Have A Word With Him. You, Also Could Speak To The Boy And Tell Him About It Not Beign Nice And Threatening People Gets Him No-Were.

Answer 7

Look, you have to do what needs to be done. I would be up at that scholl every single day until the situation was resolved. If the school did not handle it properly I would file official charges with the police, abuse, battery, threats, ect. You have to realize that no one, I mean no one, is going to look out for your child, you have to! The school will say they are but they only care about test scores and funding. Do not let this rest until your child feels safe and secure at school. Go to the school board, the newspaper, the police and other parents. Your child should not be scared of school because some delinquents are being allowed there!

And the rest of you can save your thumbs down, I speak the thruth!

Answer 8

Kids can be real jerks. When I was back in 5th grade I got picked on by the whole class but then I just had to do the right thing and report it to the office. My mom was there that day talking to some of the students saying "Please respect others the way you want to be treated". And then after that it was better but trust me those kids that pick on your son need to be taught a lesson and maybe your kid should go talk to a teacher or the principal.

Answer 9

I was one of those kids that used to get picked on all the time cos i'm mixed but it was mostly cos im very peite and i was called midget all the time. My mom went to the school board, talked to teachers, the principile and the whole works. You can also rally up a petition for other parents to sign to get the child out of the classroom. I used to work at a Day Care Center and we had a similar problem. Hopes this helps!!! :) It will get better i promise:)

Answer 10

You definitely need to talk to the school again, and then you should report the situation to the police in your area by filing a report (with any witness information). The school has the responsibility to keep your child safe and handle matters such as these, expeditiously. Also responsibility, falls on the parents of the child that is the bully and you can take action against them...legally.

Answer 11

Your options are limited with the new regulations taking a toll on our educational system. One option is that you can choose to "volunteer" to be a class helper a couple of days a week to check out the dynamic of the classroom so that you can better judge the situation. If the principal of hte school is less than helpful, you can go to the school board and plead your case.

Some children need special attention that most teachers are not equipped to deal with, and parents who refuse to help their children contribute greatly to deliquent children in our schools.

I am a firm supporter of the public school system as I am a product of the public school system, but I will say that with new restrictions on punishment and discipline, it is very difficult for our children to get the same quality of education as I did.