is it wrong to like adults?

Question

im 15 and i really have a thing for adults. well older men, i love to be loved by older men and i dont know why

is this normal at all?

btw im a boy lol

Answer 1

its normal

maybe you didn't have a strong sensible dad

so you look for a substitute one

its normal, don't have sex with them though

Answer 2

Well the question isn't is that normal. The question is why do you think that is? What is it about the older men? Have you been rejected by boys your own age? Older men probably seem better because they are more mature, and aggressive. But you must be careful because at your age, you do not know all the ways of the world and can misinterpret attention for love. To be honest, most older men only want a younger girl because she is nieve. You will get your heartbroken in the end.

Answer 3

I would love to tell you it isn't normal, but the fact of the matter, it is very normal. That does not make it right, mind you, just normal. The thing is, girls mature a bit faster than boys and sometimes feel that the boys their own age are just too childish. I remember being 15 and "in love" with a guy that was 25. Well, he really took advantage of that. My best advice to you, admire from afar. If you don't feel like the boys your own age are suitable...well then who needs a boyfriend??? YOU DON"T!!!!!! Wait a while, at least until you are 18 before you start dating guys more than a couple years older than you. I am not saying that all older men will take advantage of you, but a lot of them will, simply because they know that girls your age are very easily convinced. Be careful.

Answer 4

Well you are looking for attention that is what I can tell. The only thing that a older man at this point in your life will cause you is damage. I mean he has explored life and what is has to offer and you are all of 15 trust me there will be a conflict of intrest if you do life men of older statue. So get some one who is well i dont know even 17 to me is ok.. If you like older just keep it in your age range and have fun and explore things together dont let some old man tell you how fun somthing is because he has done it . Its not the same!!!
Take care!

Answer 5

If you are female, it's normal. Boys your age are like half-grown puppies. They are awkward and shy and haven't found their feet yet. They also have no money of their own and do not know yet what they are going to be or do.

Older men have grown up. They know who they are and what they are going to be. They have money.

This does not mean you should climb into bed with them, but it does explain the attraction. Wait until you are legal (18) and then start seriously looking. A smart gal marries a guy who is 25 or older. They are more emotionally stable and are most likely done with partying. They have secure jobs.

Answer 6

Yes it's normal, you're growing up and beginning to see yourself as a woman, not a child. You admire older men because a) they're more mature than guys your age, who are always less mature than girls of the same age; b) they are physically more developed and therefore more attractive c) the media programmes you to find older men more interesting.

Go slow, though. I know you feel like you're ready to live as an adult, but you're still a minor. Give yourself time to enjoy life...you'll never be this free of responsibility again. Enjoy your freedom to be young and free of worry. Relationships bring worry with them...chill and discover the world.

Answer 7

If you never had a father figure in your life...yes, the behaviour is "normal."

Is it "Wrong"? No...possibly abberant, but not necessarily "wrong." If you go out of your way to sleep with adults (presuming you are sexually active), yes...for them, it's called satutory rape, since you are not (yet) leaglly old enough to "understand the consequences of your actions."

As to why you love being "loved" by older men, it's because you feel "protected" by him, which is a natural reaction from the "inner child" in all of us. Your's just hasn't finished fully becoming "inner."

For now, keep your attentions to your age-mates... Those 5 year-olds running arounf the halls of your school with you will start to act their age some day. Just don't take any steps until you are personally ready, protected, and it won't hurt anyone.

Answer 8

No, but worry about your age, you are still only 15, i would suggest you to wait until you become 18 or 20 and at that age, if you feel the same about older man then obviously its your choice to be with older man.

Answer 9

If they're in their 40's or even 30's, yeh I wouldn't see it as being a good thing. If it were someone just out of high school or a few years older than that, no, nothing wrong. But I think you're just going through a phase and you have crushes on all the hunks. I'm in the same kind of situation, but opposite. She is younger than I.

Answer 10

it's not wrong, or unnormal, but just don't act on it. Older men are def. not suitable for a 15 year old, sorry to sound like an old person, but I am 20, I just recently went through that stage of my life, and I know a lot of girls who had their hearts broken by older men. Its not that the men are bad, it's just that they want different things from a relationship, and chances are if they are so much older and going after a 15 year old, they are prob not looking to find a long-term relationship/wife. Prob just want sex. :( And giving them that usually ends up hurting you.

Answer 11

Very common. But don't ever act on it. Older men who have a thing for 15-year-olds are not ones that 15-year-olds should be with. They don't have your best intentions in mind, and it could be dangerous. Don't ever give out any personal info to them!