how is life? r u studying? having kids? working? and looking after you husband well?r u financially balanced?
don't you think it was too soon?
r u all coping with all that?
2007-10-16 06:21:16 · 12 answers · asked by More-Love 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
y not enjoy being young for a while,be independent and free to do whatever.
2007-10-16 06:39:48 · update #1
for all the ladies and gentle man who made it,
I AM PROUD OF YOU!
2007-10-16 09:32:23 · update #2
I am older now, but I got married at 19. It was hard. We waited to have kids, I was 24 when I had my first, he was 29. We moved to a college town and went to college for a semester, then we moved back to our hometown and got more steady jobs and went to community college. It worked well for us. We have moved a lot, but it has always been a learning experience, I won't say it has always been good, but a learning experience. When you can manage your finances and balance everything that is going on in your life then there will be less stress.
But all of that stuff is hard at any age. Not just 18-23. I would say it was a little harder then. I am still going to school. My oldest is in Kindergarten now and when my son goes to school, I will be able to concentrate more on school for myself. That is only a couple of years away. I am blessed that I have a husband who can support us on his income alone. Not a lot of people can do that.
If you are focused and committed then it shouldn't be too hard.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-10-16 06:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married when I was 21 and he was 19. Some may say that we were too young but age isn't what is important....it is the maturity level that you are at.
We had our first child when I was 22 and my husband 20, our second when I was 23 and my hubby 21, our third when I was 25 and my hubby 23.
I wouldn't change how we did it at all!! We have now been married 8 1/2 years and we are more in love than ever and yes through all these years I have coped great. There have been tough times but nothing that ever made me wish I had done it differantly. I did some college through correspondence classes and still doing some classes here and there at my own pace. I am not working outside the home I am a stay at home mom and I homeschool my kids. We are not considered well off in our society but all our needs are met, all our bills paid, and we even get to splurge on things that are not needs that are fun extras!!
For some people this may be too young...if it is for you then don't go through with it. Not everyone belongs in the cookie cutter life...getting married by a certain age and having kids by a certain age.... each person needs to do what is right for themselves!!!
Besides....by the time my kids are out of the house my husband and I will still be young enough to enjoy our lives together and young enough to physically do all the things we would love to do together. Also young enough to actually have fun and get down and play with our grandkids one day.
2007-10-16 07:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by jhg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is fantastic and wonderful, I'm going to be married this Friday and I feel fabulous about it. You assume just because I'm 22 that I have never been on my own, that I lack independence. I worked for everything I got in college, I've been working since I was 14 and helping pay for the house. I only got a total of $250 and a lot of heartache from my mother all through college and all of the school loans are in my name.
I met a fabulous man, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I don't need my own apartment to prove that I can handle life by myself, I've already proven that. Now I want to prove that the man I love and I can both handle the world together.
Kids, they will be considered between 28 and 32, we're hoping to feel financially secure and capable to take care of a child when I'm that old. I also demand that we have some time to ourselves before we have any children, I want a strong foundation before that stress comes.
Working, yes, full-time. I would work more to save up but I leave home by 7:30 and don't get back until a little after 6 as it is, if I don't stop anywhere. I want to spend that time cuddling.
Studying, Just graduated this August, and the reason why I actually graduated was because he pushed me to get the degree instead of giving up out of frustration. He'd also support me as much as he could if I decided to return to school
I'm looking after him and he's looking after me, it's a two way street you know?
Financially balanced, we're getting there. We both graduated at the begining of summer and it took him a while to find a job, we're building up our financial cushions and getting ready to take on my student loans.
Part of me does agree with you. I think everyone should live on their own so they know that they can. But how many people are able to afford an apartment, transportation, various bills, groceries and still have time for a movie or maybe eating out once or twice. I may not have had my own apartment, but I have still paid rent, and covered monthly bills. I'm not the partying type so it's not like I'm missing anything. And hell there are married couples that go out partying every night so it would be fine even if I was.
I think I'm coping well, I can see both sides of the coin and it just so happens my life brought me to this side.
2007-10-16 06:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married since I was 17. I am now 18 and have a 3 1/2 month old son. I am a stay at home mommy while my husband works. I most definitely don't think I jumped into anything to soon. I have a beautiful baby, an amazing husband whom I knew I was suppose to be with. Things are just great in my life. He takes care of me & I take care of him. And wouldn't change it for anything in the world.
2007-10-16 06:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Casey E 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 24, after I graduated from college. That was 5 1/2 years ago. We are pregnant with our second. Still making changes to our careers here and there, working (from home and at work), and struggling to become financially balanced. It wasn't too soon for us, but life is hard work. Why do you ask?
2007-10-16 06:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Precious 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let's see... life is great. We are both done with our undergrads, but I'm continuing my education. We have no kids, and have no plans to ever have kids. My husband and I look after each other. We don't have assigned gender roles or anything. If he does laundry, I'll be nice and cook dinner. It's a balance. We are financially well off with a nice home.
I don't think ti was too soon at all. It was meant to be for us. And, if we hadn't gotten married, we'd still be together and spending our youth together, so I don't see why getting married would ruin that.
We are happy:)
2007-10-16 06:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first Im 22 years old with two children. I work full time and so does my BF. My baby girl passed away 02-14-2005 at 19 days old and my son was born 01-19-2007 and is now 22 months. We rent an appt. and have owe about $40,000 in bills includeing 2 cars, 6 credit cards. My BF is a car sales man and avreges $2,000-4,000 a month as i only make $1,500 a month. I do not go to school and I am very well balanced financially. If i can do it so can u.
2007-10-16 06:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by Drea 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
im 22 and just got married, honestly its no different then dating them for the rest of your life. life is great and we are working on baby #1 now. we both have jobs and we look out for eachother and take care of eachother. no one is ever finacially "balanced" sometimes i wondered if it was too soon but why wait, i knew i was going to marry him sooner or later and we have a great marraige and rarley ever fight. does this answer all your Qs you had?? oh yeah and my hubby is 23, we are only 10-11 months apart in age and have lived on our own together for 2 years now.
2007-10-16 09:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. Maturity level and coping ability are what matters.
-Senior Psychology Major; 22 years old; engaged to be married to 27 year old; in process of BUILDING our 3,000 square foot house; (not going to have children until I'm 26-27, after my graduate degree)
-age can be deceiving =)
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Edit - I *DO* enjoy being young and free, believe me! That's why we're *waiting* to have kids!!! =)
2007-10-16 06:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by cajungirl_2004 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you could actually type.... it would make you sound smarter.
My life is great. My husband and I just bought a house, we have a 4 year old girl who loves preschool and 2 year old boy. My husband works for a recruiter at our local Army base and everything is just perfect for us.
No, I don't think anything happened too soon, I believe everything happens for a reason, and are we coping with this? Seriously, there is nothing to COPE with, it's life, you just make the best of it!
2007-10-16 06:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by blanquettedeveau 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋