I am bipolar and me and my husband have been fighting alot since i found out because im 9 months pregnant and am only taking 10 ml of celexa... im depressed because im constantly told what i do wrong and im never told anything positive about myself.... im a mom of 1 and one is on the way but i feel like a failure constantly. My husband blames every problem in our relationship on me and he rarely admits what he does wrong unless i pressure him.. he other day he got me so upset i wanted to hurt myself to make the pain go away... he says he only tells me the truth because he loves me but sadly i dont agree. We are starting marriage counseling tomarrow and im worried it wont help because he states hes only going because of me and my communication problems... i know i have problems but everyone does and I cant stop from being bipolar but i hate myself because of it and i know its time to leave and divorce but I have no where to go or no one to rely on and i have 2 babies to take care of..
2007-10-16 06:20:20 · 5 answers · asked by Jodi DeMay 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You ARE NOT the problem.
Most emotionally abusive men convince the woman it is all their fault even when it is not....Why do you think you are really suffering from more downs with your bipolar depression? You are being exploited, plain and simple because of your disorder. If you were diagnosed after being with him, you are NOT really bipolar......just abused.
Get help from your local DV center if you need. Call 1-800-799-SAFE in the US. You can survive without him and you need to. You kids need you healthy and whole more than they need an uncaring father.
Do not kill yourself over this man but get the help you need.
HUG!!!!! Good luck....YOU ARE NOT ALONE
2007-10-16 06:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) wait to see what happens in marriage counseling.
2) after you give birth, and update your meds, see if that makes a difference.
3) remember, you can't change someone else.
4) these situations are like putting a recipe into a big mixing bowl. You can't really say that the cause is one ingredient. So your bipolar disorder may play a part, along with other things. Don't blame yourself. Remember, it's all those things put together that make the cake.
2007-10-16 14:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah hon, I'm sorry you have to deal with that! A divorce might be the best option. Do you have any family you could stay with temporarily? Maybe you could stay at a shelter until something works out? It sounds like he is being abusive- if not physically, then mentally. Be sure to tell your counselor everything- and if you don't want to do it in front of your husband, as about a private session.
Best of luck!
2007-10-16 13:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by piratewench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath girl, and hug your pillow. Let the tears flow, but don't harm yourself. (you don't want the babies taken away)
Ask for some alone-time with the counselor for yourself. Be factual with the counselor about the depth of your current feelings and thoughts.
I've sat where you're sitting before. Due to the internal crisis I was having, couple's counseling was delayed in order to address my crucial mental state.
YES, yes, he needs to change his ways! But right now you are in a state of mind that needs even more immediate help.
Get out your Bible girl. Read Matthew 6:26. Read it over and over to your little child. Pray. Hang-on. You can.
2007-10-16 13:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are and you are PROBABLY not bi polar just an emotionally abused woman. I finally got out of the marriage after the third child. This is the time he should be the nicest to you...not stressing you out...sounds to me like you need some family to help you out, my advice, kick him to the curb...remember it's just my opinion but i have been there!!
2007-10-16 13:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by firecracker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋