What should I write in the Thank You notes/cards to my wedding guests?

Question

We got married October 6th. Am I really late in sending them out or do I still have time?

Answer 1

How big is the Thank you card? I wrote basically the same thing to everyone. First did they come? If yes, start with thanking them for coming. If not, say something like sorry you were unable to make it.

Then thanks for the gift. How are you going to use the gift? Perhaps It is already in our kitchen.

Thank you for coming to our wedding. It meant so much to us that you could make it to this joyous occasion. It was so beautiful and everything was just perfect. Thank you for the crock pot. It will be perfect for meals for two and I'm have already used it twice/am planning on making a meal with it on Thursday.

***especially if it was cash
Thank you for the generous gift. On our honeymoon, we were able to do an extra excursion, snorkeling in Aruba. We are both so pleased you thought of us on our special day.

I posted a lot of pictures online so to the close friends and family that I thought would really like this, I added Please look at some of the wonderful pictures from the wedding. www.kodakgallery.com/myweddingday.

That took up the whole card for us. Especially after signing Warmest regards, bride and groom


Best to go ahead and start doing them quickly. Of course the length of honeymoon and the number of people in attendance matter in how many you can get out each week but try to give yourself a firm rule--like mail out 20 a week. That way you won't be writing thank yous forever. However even though ettiquette says you have 1 yr, I don't know many people who agree with that. Within 3-4 months or the person starts to look down on you and think you are ungrateful for their gift. However everyone knows you had a ton to write and that perhaps you are doing 20 a week--but this person wasn't in the first 100 people. What I recommend is writing the farthest from you people first. For example, your dad's boss or your preschool teacher didn't have to get you anything. Also write the most generous gifts first. If a handful of people wrote you a check for way more than you expected, go ahead and get those out in the first couple batches. Hold off on the grandmother who loves you and will forgive you easily if you are a couple of months writing her thank you. With the rush of the holiday season coming up, I'd recommend trying to do as many of yours as possible by Thanksgiving. Otherwise you might get too busy until after the new year.

Good luck and I'm sure you'll do fine. =)

Answer 2

They should always be sent ASAP upon receiving each individual gift. If gifts came in before the wedding, you really should have sent those notes right away.

They must always be handwritten, and you should express how much you like the specific gift and discuss how you and hubby will use it.

Send them ASAP. Promptness is crucial.

By the way, you only send them to thank people who gave you a gift, or for people who helped you plan or helped the wedding go well (sang, set up, cleaned up, coordinated, etc). You don't send a thank you note for simply showing up.

(The bride above who thinks she has a year to send out notes has some serious problems! How rude!)

Answer 3

You've got time, but it's best to do it before Christmas.
Write something like "Thank you for your lovely/thoughtful/generous/gift. We feel truly blessed that you were able to share in our special day. It was made even more special by you being there. We hope you enjoyed the festivities and had a good time. We look forward to using/displaying your gift in our home. Thank you again for your kind gift, we really appreciate it."
Obviously, I'm short on details here, so you need to tailor each a not e a little differently to suit the person or what they gave you. But what I wrote is the general idea.

Answer 4

No not at all. I began sending mine about one month after the wedding because I was so busy packing and getting ready to move. So, you're not late ;) If you kept track of what gift each guest gave, I would thank them specifically for those. You could thank them also for being present and spending the day celebrating your wedding.

Answer 5

no you're not late in sending them! a friend of mine got married back in late August, SHE'S late in sending them! I would take the time to thank each person for each gift if you can, otherwise a simple thank you and an update on how things are going should work! Best of luck on those! have fun!

Answer 6

No, you still have plenty of time to get your Thank you notes out. But PLEASE get them done by the end of the month. Before you know it, you'll be pressed for time and workingon X-mas cards!

Also, please acknowledge the guest's gift, and how you will use it. Personalize the message with an additional sentence or 2 and thank them for sharing your day. I simply HATE generic Thank You's that are one liners, and written to everyone.

Here is an example for a monetary gift:

Dear Aunt Mary and Uncle Joe,

Thank you for the generous wedding gift and for sharing our special day with us. Your gift will be included in our joint account so we can save towards a home/We will use your gift towards the purchase of ________. You both looked like you had a great time at our wedding! I promise to send pictures soon.

Love,
Mr. & Mrs. ______

Answer 7

no your not late, most people will understand that your just getting into the swing of married life and probably have alot on your plate after the wedding. However, i would get started. Most people really appreciate it when the receiver of the gift includes a thank you that addresses what specifically they gave you. Like for example, "Thanks Tracy for the Blender and pot holders, Maybe you and Jason can come over and we'll put that blender to good use!" Also, remember to thank them for coming and let them know how much it meant that you saw them there.

Answer 8

You have up to 30 days to send out your Thank You notes.

The note should be simple ex:

Thank You for the Toaster Cedric and I received, we should put this to good use over the years........customizing with the mention of the gift is the prefect and sincere way of saying Thank you!

Congrat and Best Wishes

Answer 9

No you arent late. It took me a month to get mine all out. All you need to say on them is thank you for coming (if they did-check your guest book!) and how much you appreciate their generosity. It takes forever, but just sit down and do them...it'll be over with eventually! Congrats!

Answer 10

Thank you for your thoughtful gift. The gift of your presence was more than enough, in sharing our special day with us.

Warm regards.

This covers whether they came bearing a gift or not, so you don't have to specify what they gave you - who can remember anyway. Congrats.