hoe can i control my temper?

Question

i am a genius and have an exceptionally high iq but i lose my temper when i face criticism

Answer 1

Between the stimulus (in this case criticism) and your response to that stimulus/ criticism there is a place where you choose how to react. Many people have a stimulus and an immediate response to that stimulus. However, if you pause and consciously make a choice on how you are going to react to the criticism (stimulus) you will find yourself in better control of your emotions.

Answer 2

Well, even a genius has emotions! And anger is a sign of some inner fear or insecurity .. obviously you feel very threatened when someone criticises you. Perhaps because you know you do not deserve the criticism, hearing it makes you feel like you are being unjustly attacked.

Just remember that the world loves to give advice (Yahoo knew that and that's probably why they made this website!!) and sometimes that advice can come out in a critical way.

But YOU are in charge of your life, no one else. Just because someone says something critical about you, doesn't make it true. And you have the intelligence to know this.

Still, at times emotion overrides everything .. and if that happens a lot, try taking a look into your childhood - was someone very critical towards you back then? This present-day reaction may actually be a response to that old fear or anger .. and you could be reacting to a comment today that subconsciously brings up those old feelings.

I find that where emotion is concerned, getting to the root of it and understanding where it's coming from, makes a big difference in dealing with it.

You can also do some reading on anger management - a couple of good books are:

Anger by Leo Madow
Agress Less by Goldstein and Rosenbaum
Imperative People by Dr Les Carter

and if you do find that there are childhood issues you want to address, then I recommend finding a good therapist or counselor to whom you can talk with and better understand yourself.

Answer 3

Hello Aritra Sen.
Knovv that even geniuses have questions and thus do not knovv all the ansvvers.
The process is usually to knovv the cause and effect. The cause is the criticism. The effect is the loss of temper control. To attack this vve can do a possible tvvo things: 1)Prevent criticism, and 2)Prevent or change the effect.
To prevent criticism vvould make things vvorse. Thus vve should prevent or change the effect, the loss of temper control. VVe do this by analysing the effect(s) and come to certain conclusions. One conclusion may be over-reacting, or acting vvithout thinking. If this is *the* main cause or one of the causes (over-reacting) cauing this effect (loss of temper control) from criticism leading to the effect of loss of temper, then all vve have to do is simplie think vvhen vve act or before vve act. Once vve do this vve *may* change the effect, depending on novv vvhether the *intent* is to change the effect or stay the same. Another possible cause may be that you feel threatened, you feel fear or insecurity, as mentioned by askios007. You may feel, and may be so, that the criticism given thee is to question your intelligence or is only out to try to disprove you. In that case if they are doing so, you *don't* have to relpy. Let them think vvhat they do, for as the Proverb sayeth: Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a vvise man, and he vvill love thee. (Pro. 9:8)
It is OK to be vvrong. As i stated before, even geniuses have questions and thus do not knovv all the ansvvers. Once vve knovv vvhat is vvrong usually vve may knovv vvhat is right from knovving vvhat is vvrong. Once vve knovv vvhat is right and vvhat is vvrong, vve novv have the option to choose betvven the tvvo.

Hope that helps. Take care.






If a man vvill begin vvith certainties, he shall end in doubts, but if he vvill content to begin vvith doubts, he shall end in certainties.
-Francis Bacon

There is good and bad before thee: choose thou.

Answer 4

Anger management sounds like what you need. You can be as smart as Einstein, but if you can't control yourself you will end up no where but trouble. Constructive criticism is a wonderful learning tool and you will need to be able to handle that and so many other things in life to succeed. Good Luck:)

Maybe a place to start..

http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html

Answer 5

your temper and your iq are two totally different things it is pretty common for people to go against criticism i know i hate it even though my iq is probably zero lol. the only thing you can do is try to stay calm and talk it out instead of losing it Good luck to you.

Answer 6

you need to be able to think before you respond. Anger only turns people away from you. They will not take you seriously, hence see your answers.
You have to realize what's more important. There are things that you will never be able to control. Mainly people. Criticism in someones opinion. Why let it bother you if it isnt something that you agree with. However criticism can be a positive thing. It allows us to do some personal evalutions and make adjustments in our lives...if we want to

Answer 7

Sounds like you maybe should knock yourself down a couple of notches and not think so highly of yourself. Then maybe you could face criticism.. also "genius" you spell how HOW not HOE hahahah -proof read-

Answer 8

To control ur temper frnd u may have to control urself by controlling ur thoughts and mind and it is in ur hands to control ur anger and temperment... frnd if u r facing this kind of pblm then start counting numbers as many as u can....... and count the numbers until ur temper is decreased and reduced...

Answer 9

Enroll in classes: Yoga or Meditation.

Check your temper/attitude at the door.

Don't take it in the class with you.

See a shrink.

Answer 10

well, perhaps you could start by not telling yourself you're a genius, even if you are one. and do a self-check. like, what situations would mostly trigger your anger? this way, when that certain situation arises, you can prepare yourself and have a complete grip of your emotions. ....