I'm in love...and its unrequited... I'm helpless...all i can do is cry in the night... Y can't he see all that i am going through??? I've been patient for years but he's not making me feel good about life... I'm only 17 and i am not interested in life!
2007-10-16 06:01:30 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are only 17 then you have a lot to live for. I used to be in you situation. Sometimes God answers our prayers in ways that we don't want. He may be showing you that this person is not good for you. Let that person go and truly put your trust in God. He can't send you the person that is going to truly love you if you are still holding on to mr. wrong. There is not room for two loves. You have to let the wrong one go. It's just like fishing. WHen you catch a little fish, you throw it back and cast your line again with hoes of catching a btter one. Life is a process and god has not forgotten about you. I am going to pray for you and for the renewing of your faith.
Heavenly father I am asking you right now to heal this broken hearted soul. Restore her right now in Jesus name. Help her to realize that you love her more than any man can, her life is important to you, and that you will supply all of her needs. Lord open her eyes and give her wisdom right now. Open her ears to your word Lord Jesus. Help her to hear from you. These many things I ask in Jesus name. Amen
Proverbs 3:5,6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path.
2007-10-16 06:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by curious1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, God can see your pain and He also understands it. I've experienced unrequited love a few times and when I do things on my own, it never works out. In fact, in retrospect, I've been spared even more pain because God didn't allow the feelings to be mutual.
Don't think that God doesn't care about you. While you may love this person like crazy, God could be sparing you future heartache or even be trying to tell you that He has someone even *better* than this person for you, which is usually the case. Your attention is focused on this one person that you may not be able to see other potential people to date.
Also, since you're only 17...wait until college. You'll meet soooo many more people then. I'm in my 30s and had all these HS crushes...now, looking back, those people are totally boring compared to the people I met in college! Be patient! Meet as many people as you can...make a list of the qualities the person you love has and try to see those qualities in other people. Just hang in there...we've all been there and it'll definitely get better!
2007-10-16 06:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, you're obsessed. No offense meant. I just just don't personally think this sounds entirely like "love". Infatuation, yes, but not really love. Dont get all pissy about it, k? I have a point. Letting your whole life revolve around this guy is unhealthy. You need to take a step back, breathe, and look at yourself form an objective point of view. Is this guy really worth it? You have your whole life ahead of you! If you aren't able to imagine it without a guy who may or may not know you exist, then you need to, as they say, find yourself. I've gone through this entire thing. I had a guy that I thought I was in love with for years and years, but when I really looked at myself, I saw how ridiculous it was. I found that just letting him go, letting myself free from the infatuation helped so much. It was hard at first, I'll admit, but... Once I was free, I realized how many other guys there are to love, that will love you back. The world is an amazing palce, and if you're too "in love" with this guy to realize that and want to experience the world, then you need to take of those rose colored glasses. No one is that perfect.
Secondly, have you hinted at all that you're interested? Guys are oblivious, so unless it's a big nudge, they won't realize it. If you've been playing the silent admirer or the buddy, they may not notice you, or even think of you that way. If you're a buddy, they may be interested, but may not want to rock the boat, so to speak.
And again, to be overly cliché, there are lots of guys out there, and you won't have just one "soul mate" or whatever. Just like how you can have many friends, there are also many guys that you'd be compatible with. I mean, there are over TWO BILLION people in the world, and, no offense, but you're freaking seventeen years old! You are not old, and this isn't like, your last chance for love.
And besides, if he's obviously not interested, I'm sorry but he's probably not ever going to be. That only happens in the movies. Anyway, pray, and you know what? Maybe God just wants you to go in a different direction. Listen, and don't get your wants and wishes mixed up with His, ok? I don't want you to waist even more of your life pining away over this one guy when there are so many others. So, God bless, and please, think on what I've written. Good luck!
2007-10-16 06:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God sees your pain and knows your pain. Love is the most wonderful thing that he made. Look around you everything God made is out of love. God gave you life because of his Love. You are 17 years old. I've been there, it's no fun being sad. But think about this you won't feel this way anymore. What you are going through is short-lived. You have enough time in the world to love someone that will truly love you. Right now God loves you and he wants you to love yourself.
2007-10-16 06:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sharda8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not trusting God. You are whining like a 2 year old.
God sees all and knows all. Get into the bible and get back to church. You are only 17 and you think life is of no interest. You are having a major pity party and you need to build a bridge and get over it. Life is filled with sunshine and rain. God said so! You need to fall in love with Jesus and He alone will change your life.
I don't apologize for my tough words, I am a mother of 2 young ladies 19 & 22. I have seen their struggles and know what affects girls at your age. Life is worth living and yours can be "life and life more abundant" if you will put your life truly in God's hands.
2007-10-16 06:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by Free Thinker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue trusting in God, have faith! God doesn't put you through anything that you can not make it through! Have you ever heard a song by Garth Brooks called "Unanswered Prayers"? If not then you should really take a listen. I too was at a point when I didn't think God was there with me...but in the end it all worked out! There are many times that I've been thankful to God for unanswered prayers!!
Take Care & God Bless!!
2007-10-16 06:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by eheathbar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does see your pain and he loves you more than you can fathom he loves you i promise !! Your his daughter and i kno he feels for you but he never puts anything on us that we cant handle so this is just a passing moment even though it seems like the world is coming to and end !! Go read about the less fortunate or about the people that have lost there loved ones too it makes me feel better . If all else fails cry out the the heavenly father like never b4 and i promise things will get better !! Cause your a child of God!!!
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2007-10-16 06:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by lil oreo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jer 29:11 (NIV) "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Often we feel as if we know what is right for us. We want something soooo badly, and we know that it will make us happy. We get upset that we don't get what we want and feel as if God should know that it will make us happy. However, we have to realize that God knows far better than us.
Consider an example of a 3 year old who desperately wants a toy and feels sure that it is what they need to be happy. However, the child's parent can see that the toy is dangerous and not what the child needs.
It's the same way with God. We might not be able to see why something is not right for us, but we have to trust that no matter how much we want something, that God knows what is best for us.
2007-10-16 06:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rachael . 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi so confused i usally don't answer the young , but seeing that your questioning (god) and his plans i'm here.Though i don't know why but everything happeneds for a reason in life even though at the time of it happening ,we may not see the reason thats okay one day we'll say oh' thats why such n such happend.god does love and see all are needs sometimes were to be tested i understand it's been years and you've been patient ,the truth is good things come to those who wait i do beleive that.what ever your problem is keep praying on it gods hears you good luck!don't let your faith slip away.
2007-10-16 06:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by so curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Ive been there. Ive been "waiting" for a loooong time, Im almost 28 now. But let me just say, as much as I asked the same question, it seems clear to me know that I needed to learn from my mistakes that shape me to be who I am today and most importantly, I needed to love ME before I can even begin to accept anyone elses love. I know now that the person I held onto for so long, well...God knows and I KNOW that I deserve better then someone who doesnt truly return my love. It is soooo painful to love someone who does not return your love, just have faith that there is something better out there for you. Nothing can heal like time and another love object~sad but soooooooooooo true~trust me I know!!!!!!!!!! Good luck, keep your head up and try your best to know you are worth more nad try to not hold onto something that doesnt appreciate you!
2007-10-16 06:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋