help please. guys esp.!!!! i need him back?

Question

omg, im in so much pain. me and my "boyfriend" are both 20 years old. we have been dating for five years and both go to college. we had been planning marriage and moving in together next year. i found out last week that he cheated on me in the beginning of the semester, after a long night of drinking. He was soo upset with himself and tried to kill himself at first. He spent 3 days crying to himself, texting me and writting my family and myself apology notes. After a week, i realized that i want to give him another chance... i love him so much, its unconditional. Well, when i told him i wanted to make it work, he said its too soon and that we both need time to heal :( he said we need space and that only time will tell whats best for us. i thought forgiveness was my decision. why did he cry to me and say he will wait forever, and now he wont talk to me? hes the love of my life, i dont need time. i forgive him

Answer 1

you probably dont want to hear this but it sounds like hes "Easing" out of the relationship. Besides you are both too young for a serious relationship

Answer 2

because maybe the apology notes and crying and everything wuz his way of sayin he's really sorry, i don kno what kind of guy he is so its hard to say, but most guys overreact when it comes to those sort of things,
to get him back...just tell him that what would be best if if u got back together and that he's ur medicine when it comes to healin

Answer 3

he sounds pretty messed up, but if he was that sexually frustrated maybe you guys should take a break and look around a little, I know it's hard but there might be someone better for you out ther. And I know it's harder but that's probably what he's thinking.

Answer 4

That is quite curious. If I screwed up and the love of my life somehow forgave me, I would move all of heaven and earth to be with her. If he is making you wait (?) then you shouldn't wait for him. He will regret his decision. Good luck.