2007-10-16 05:37:51 · 25 answers · asked by sina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If your afraid to do it then don't simple as that ....
2007-10-16 09:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by aaron 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good question to ask this forum.
Honey, you don't have to have sex with this - or any - boy until you are ready - ready within yourself. Hopefully that will be on your wedding night some 10 years from now - when you're through with school and have settled into a life and career.
Say NO. and mean it.
Tell him you're not ready for that kind of activity - and especially not with him (especially if he insists).
If the boy demands that you "prove your love to him" or some other such rubbish, tell him that if he really loved YOU - he'd back off. Since he's not backing off or believing in your NO MEANS NO message then he obviously doesn't love you.
When that happens - immediately go to someplace where you can call your family to come pick you up. Go to a crowded area with lots of people and cause a scene so he'll run away.
Then do not have anything more to do with him.
If people start to talk about you - and they probably will because people can be mean - then you can tell them the truth - not in a cry-baby-whining way - but in a disgusted-with-him sort of way - that all he cares about is getting into some girl's panties and that he's a pig.
Good luck darling. We're pulling for you!
2007-10-16 13:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it 13 is to young to really enjoy the experience and something this important should be saved for much later in life. I take it you can't speak to your parents but I wish you could. So why don't you try an anynomous telephone teen help line. You sound afraid and thats the worst time to do anything like this. Your boyfriend should understand and if he doesn't then he isn't worth it. You will feel different about your whole body afterwards and not in a good way. Please don't do it and try a teen help line. I really wish you would or could speak to your parents about it. If you are being talked into something you don't want to do Just don't do it, it's your body and there are so many things ie pregnancy, STD's etc. that you have to worry about now.
Please think about this and why your afraid that means your really not wanting to do this. It's such an important part of life and your feelings should be completly different and there should be no fear. I really hope you say no thanks.
2007-10-16 12:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pearl N 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, no, a million times NO!
Never, ever ever ever EVER have sex with someone if you aren't 100% okay with it. If you have to talk yourself into it, don't do it.
If he tries to pressure you into doing it, get rid of him.
You will remember your "first" for the rest of your life. Aside from the fact that you are barely hitting puberty, and are therefore still a child and children should not be having sex to begin with, NEVER feel guilted or pressured into a sexual relationship. That's not ever a good reason to have sex.
I know this is strange, but you should be asking women who are now with their lifelong partners if they were proud of their decision to lose their virginity to the person they lost it to, or do they wish they could change that fact. For me, ten years after the fact, I kick myself when I think of the loser I gave myself to because I thought there was something special about him. There wasn't.
My sister has only ever been with her husband, but they were having sex in high school (LONG before marrying), and she even regrets THAT, because she can now see how much stress and drama it caused in her life, and how much it took away from other important matters like school, friends and family. And this is with the man she dated for 8 years and has been married to for five years now.
All that aside, though, regardless of what anyone tries to tell you, YOU have the right to stop -- AT ANY TIME -- or to refuse to have sex completely, because it is such a powerful, personal emotional thing. You have the brains to be able to say "I'm afraid to have sex with him." Many girls your age or a little older just shrug their shoulders and assume it's something they've got to do, or they talk themselves into thinking they're mature enough and ready for it.
Now you need to have the courage to do something about that anxiety. You deserve to have an amazing "first time", and if you are even a tiny bit unsure that you're doing the right thing, that is actually really far from being "amazing". It's wrong. And it's knowledge that will be with you forever.
2007-10-16 13:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just wait, as much as it seems right now that you're old enough you will thank yourself years down the road... I remember being young you feel like adults just don't understand but they really do because they've been there before... I don't know any person who had sex when they were 13 and doesnt regret it now...
2007-10-20 12:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I concur with the other responses. Do not be pressured, and say no. The benefits are you will feel much better about yourself. There is so much more you will find out about guys before you experience this. Guys would have you always say yes if they could. Don't give in because someone else wants you to...wait until YOU want to. YOU are in charge.
2007-10-16 12:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by drew 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with anyone! Be 13 and have fun as long as you can. Anyone who has sex with you at this age will not continue dating you and will break your heart. Go to movies, school dances, football games, find a hobby but do NOT have sex. If you say NO you will have more dates and more fun later! Boys in Junior High and even high school, do NOT date, marry or take home to their parents, girl who say YES to sex. So say NO!
2007-10-16 12:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Bonnebelle 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Just say no to the guy.. Sex is not something that you do if you do not want it and are not prepared for it. After all you are very young. You will feel it when it's time..
2007-10-16 12:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to say no. All he wants is sex and you shouldn't do it. Have fun and enjoy life. Don't give in to sex. Tell him no...he will try to say anything to you to do it but don't it will just break your heart. He will not stay with you. You need to save that special moment with someone that you will marry and trust. He isn't a guy for you...he is using you to brag to his friends and then he will dump you. I just don't want to see you hurt and regret it. You need to save it for that special someone that you marry. That is the perfect time to have sex. Have fun being a teenager having fun with no sex. Don't give yourself to someone unless you are marrying him. Wait.
2007-10-16 12:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by runner 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. if you're not comfortable its nothing you wan't to give away. plus its going to ruin your dating experience. think about it. if you sleep with this guy, is every other guy you date from here on in dating you because he likes you? or did he hear you were an easy piece and he wanted some action?
I once had a friend give herself to a guy when she was about your age. her dating life was hell. the only guys that wanted to date her were scum. all they wanted was some action. all through high school she never found a guy that she deserved or treated her well. all she found were guys wanting to get in her pants. PLEASE don't do that to your future. you deserve alot better. don't let your life be all about wondering why he is dating you!
2007-10-16 13:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to say don't have sex. If I say you are too young I would be being a hipocrit because I did. But you shouldn't because I regret that mistake. If he truly cares about you then he wil wait.
2007-10-16 12:45:46 · answer #11 · answered by curious1 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋