My sister and I have been problems for about a year and a half, and that is because of the way she acts. She's only 14 and it's already having sex, oral sex, and anything else you can imagine. She does drugs, alcohol but... here's the thing; my mom thinks she's such an angel. This girl sneaks out at night and doesn't come back home, skips school. My mom knows all of this for she has seen her drugged and stuff, even though she has never catched her doing any sexual things. When my sister wants something, she acts like a little angel and my mom immediately gives it to her thinking that's she's finally going to change. Everytime my brother or me try to tell my mom about my sister, something bad always happens to us and we end up paying for her mistakes. What do you think it's a way for my mom to open her eyes to reality and see all of this, and also, do SOMETHING about it? (She's never done anything to change it) Have you ever had any experience with this/like this? Please help!
2007-10-16 05:34:08 · 11 answers · asked by Brigitte 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sure your mom knows all and is in denial because she feels like she has failed as a parent to your sister. She gives her what she wants in hopes to make up for failing in her eyes. She most likely did everything the same when you all were younger but feels like she did something different with you sister adn that is why she is acting like this. My family has been in this situation. Your mom will not change until one she realizes she is only making it worse for her or until your sis gets into big trouble. I would not keep pointing it out to your mom because it will not make a difference and will only cause the two of you more problems. If you want drop subtle hints or if you find your sis drugs when no one is looking put them where you know your mom will see them. this way she has no way of knowing it was you and has to acknowledge it.
2007-10-16 05:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kristi S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes ! with my cousin brandi, my grandma thought she was such a angel too. Until my sister and i had all we could take, and set her up to were my grandma coud catch her in the act of it. we lied to my cousin said we will be home later what she is used too the i would have the involed in catching her she not there! then i would have someone to act like they loves doing the somethings thats she does. like skiping school and all of it. and havethem tape record it all but make sure it's really her ok. then play it for your mama so she can hear what she does when your mom is not around. then see what your mom say's then about your sister. your friend derek
2007-10-16 10:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mum if she's not going to do anything about it, you will let your school know about this, and they will call child support, and her boyfriend or whatever will be charged for rape (she is underage for sex). Your mum is weak and refuse to see the reality of what she has become, so you need to do this so that she HAS to do something about it. In any case this gets to the police, your mum will be in deep trouble too. Don't see this as a bad thing, because it's not. This is for the best for everyone, though they can't see it now.
2007-10-16 08:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if your sister is acting strange(beacauseof the drugs),or is abusing u and your brother than call 911. if not,than if you see her doing anything she is not aloud to do than walk away quietly(so can't here you)and find your mom. that way she can catch her in the act. do this repitedly and your mom MIGHT get your sister help. if not talk to a trusting adoult.
2007-10-16 11:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already tried twice and it backfired on you I wouldn't do anything but let your sister know that her behavior is wrong and leave it at that. Her wayward ways will catch up with her sooner or later and unless your parents get involved and see the light, it is a lesson she will have to learn for herself.
2007-10-16 05:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do u have a father? Dunno' ask ur family, the rest, for help, if u can't do anything. Just make a nice face, like when u ask for something, big eyes (tidy ur room by the way), and tell you're mom that "she loves her more than she loves u. That u never did somethin like this..." ;) you know, it always work. Tell her to phone to ur sister's teacher's, get proofs. good luck
2007-10-16 06:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Nobody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, wow. i think your frustration. i may well be annoyed too if i grow to be on your difficulty, yet there is somewhat no longer something you're able to do approximately it. you would be unable to truly tell her what to do. this is her existence, and this is not going that she'd hear to you besides. human beings can often flow by using stages like this. there is no longer something you're able to do to end it, and telling her what to do will purely make her offended. Distance your self somewhat extra. enable this all play by using on this is very own.
2016-12-18 09:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, what a mess.
What about your Dad - is he in the picture and could you talk to him?
2007-10-16 05:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get your mom a seeing eye dog.
2007-10-16 06:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
If she's never done anything to fix it, or even try, perhaps she doesn't care about the girl.
2007-10-16 06:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Academy& Clockworthy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋