He really likes me, i am 14 years old and it will be my first time ever, please help me
Should i be careful o f stds? or should i jsut provide a condom. do they stop std's?
2007-10-16 05:26:28 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to your parents, i know its hard, but you really should, because std´s are very serious, some are deadly, some just stick with you for life and there goes your sex life and any possible kids in the future...condoms do break, they are not 100% garenteed, and at fourteen, it is a bit young, if you are scared to talk with your parents, then find some other adult, like an aunt or uncle, maybe the school councler.
be careful, this guy could have problems and he may hurt you, and not even know it, or mean too.
2007-10-16 05:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Taz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I know you're 14, but i'm less interested in your age. I'm just going to say some of the things that probably everyone else has said.
Condoms only work somewhere between 90%-97% of the time, the rest of the time they break or something gets through.
Condoms only provide minor protection from AIDS. (aids can pretty easily get through a condom)
There are your statistics
Now, my personal opinion.
Honestly, I believe sex is overrated. It's okay for a while, but it gets old pretty fast.
Most married couples have sex more their first year being married than they do the entire rest of their marriage.
Sex also has a tendency to keep bad relationships that should have ended a long time ago going. This is not good.
Over 75% of people that have sex with each other before marriage have a divorce within the first 7 years of marriage.
Divorce rate is over 50% currently and increasing.
Here's my advice. Don't do it. If he loves you, he's willing to wait til the ends of the earth for you. Meaning he can go 4 years, 10 years, or w/e without sex. It's really not the most important part of a relationship, because when 60 roles around and you're both getting too old for sex... the sex won't be what holds you together, it will be your friendship.
Idk how serious you are about relationships or what not, but i hope this helps.
2007-10-16 05:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Boudreaux 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your only 14, WAIT as long as you can before you have sex. There is NO need to rush into that sort of a committement. Just enjoy being a teenager!
BUT, if you do decide to have sex:
(1) MAKE SURE TO USE A CONDOM (Better safe than sorry)!!!!!!!! But, Note, that condoms are NOT guaranteed 100% protection.
(2) YES, you should be worried about STDs, toegther with Pregnancy, and AIDS - you have to realize that no matter how much you may know somebody, they could possibly have something, i.e. STDs, AIDS, that they don't even know about.
(3) If at all possible, talk with a gynecologist prior to doing anything. If you do want to have sex, maybe she can recommend some kind of birth control, and give you sex-education books for you to look at prior to doing anything.
All and all though, I would wait. Save herself for somebody who truly loves you - I wish I had.
2007-10-16 05:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ready to Go Home! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if you are afraid. At all. You shound't be afraid, you should be comfortable with this person and everything that is about to happen.
If you should go ahead with it though:
1. Provide your own condom, don't rely on him to do it.
2. You should be careful of STD's and yes, most STD's can be stopped by the use of a condom. Things like herpes and lice cannot, though, so keep that in mind.
3. MAKE SURE you are ready. If you can't talk about sex with a doctor without feeling embarrassed or ashamed of saying "sex" "penis" "vagina" "intercourse" then you AREN"T ready.
4. I would also keep in mind that even though you might be comfortable with these things, he probably isn't. If you don't want people in school to know, then don't do it. You know about the other girls he slept with, don't you? So you can bet on people knowing about you.
Remember, you can always wait to have sex, but you can never have your first time again.
2007-10-16 05:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you are way too young to be having sex yet, it's really not all that great that you can't just wait - at least a few years. To answer your question, even if you still think you should waste your virginity on this guy, yes Condoms do help prevent STD's, but not all - you can still catch HPV even if you use a condom. you must also note that condoms are only 99% affective. I would highly suggest you don't have sex with this guy and how old is this guy if he has already had mutiple partners? that would be mine concern as well.
2007-10-16 05:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please honey don't do it , you are so not ready and like you said he likes you but he also likes other girls to. Don't give away something so precious. Your to young to even really no what love means or feels like. I know i was your age at one time and trust me I thought I too was in love & guess what at 17 yrs old I was having a baby & he was no where around until this day 27 years later. Please keep your self safe and special. If he really loved you then he would not be even asking someone so young . But if you must ask him to go the the board of health & get tested for AIDS, STDS & ANYTHING ELSE THAT'S OUT THERE .If he really cares he will wait and he will go and get checked out But trust me he does this all the time that's why he has sex with lots of girls. He tells you all the same thing that he loves you gets the sex and then he is gone , You have a broken heart & have lost your virginity to a total loser. Wait until your really old enough and ready . LOL
2007-10-16 05:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear sweet goodness, child, 14 is FAR too young to get serious about a boy. When you say "guy" I'm hoping you mean "boy", because if you are thinking of having sex with a fully grown man, that is a crime for him.
When I say serious, I mean do something that may get you into a whole heap of trouble that frankly I do not think you are old enough to deal with.
Just say no. There are plenty of other guys out there, who will come along when the time is right. You will not be missing your chances of a good relationship for ever by not having sex now. Far from it. You will approach your adult life far more self-confident if you are able to say no when you mean no, and choose who you have sex with. Make some excuse to not have to be alone with him if you do not trust yourself.
Please ask your mom or some other significant adult (school counsellor?) to help with this. If you do decide to go ahead, please, please use a condom at the very least (preferably TWO forms of contraception as you are at your most fertile).
2007-10-16 05:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by duchesse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be jumping into a sexual relationship. Especailly if they young man is much more experienced than you and could be infected with an STD. Condoms will help prevent STDs but are never 100% safe. Save yourself and your health by waiting until you are older and emotionally mature enough to take this very important step. Your virginity is the greatest gift you can give the man you love, so wait until you are in a mature, committed, loving relationship that has a future.
Once your innocence is gone, you can never get it back.
2007-10-16 05:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by kawm63 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound like everyone else, but for one, you're too young for sex!! I would advise you to stay away from him, he's obviously no good for you no matter HOW much you like him....and yes, when you get older and are out of high school and dating, be sure to have your partner(s) tested before sleeping with them, sadly STDs are something that we really have to watch for now....better to be safe than sorry! Condoms DO NOT protect against STDs, and neither do any type of birth control. They are just there to help you prevent getting pregnant though abstinence is the only way to not get pregnant at all....but seriously, forget about sex at your age! Focus on other things....and when you are out of high school and ready to have sex, do a "background check" on the guy first and know the risks of everything and know everything about birth control so that there are no suprises....
2007-10-16 05:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 14 years old, you're probably not old enough. Don't sacrifice your childhood! Wait until you're more like 17 or 18. I'm serious, 14 is just too early.
When you do decide to have sex, condoms are designed to be effective against both pregnancy and STDs, although there is always a small chance that a condom might not work.
2007-10-16 05:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋