My daughter is going to be 13 and this boy likes her and wants to go to the movies his mom will be picking my daughter up and taking them and then another mom will be bringing them home its a group of 6 going whats your thoughts? My husband says NO WAY I say ok since its a group of kids
2007-10-16 05:07:57 · 12 answers · asked by melissa_is_maxx 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Group dates at 14, single dates at 16.
But that all depends on how responsible of a girl she is, may be longer if I don't trust her to make good judgments.
2007-10-16 05:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is contingent on whether you know and have confidence in the moms doing the delivery and pick-up. Be sure!
I agree with your husband in the "NO way!" to any dating that places young adolescents in situations that would give them an opportunity to yield to temptation. Besides remembering the overwhelming intensity of my own passions (and they were all "true love") when I was an adolescent those twenty or thirty years, I also remember, and am still dealing with the wreckage of a young girl's view of herself and the world who was placed in such a situation. That young girl, my daughter is now a young woman, and still engaged in an arduous and all too often painful struggle to trust and believe not only in men, but in herself.
I know it will be hard but parents need to resist the pressure in our culture to put more responsibility on a child than they have the experience to deal with. At not-quite-thirteen close supervision is an absolute must. Until she has had the opportunity to be disillusioned often enough to realize that our passions are more often blind than not, do not risk her well-being because you don't want to be the bad guy in her cosmic drama.
If I could speak with your daughter I'd beg her to trust you. No love, not even adolescent love, is greater than that of a parent for their child. No heartache, not even the heartache of un-fulfilled romance is so great as that of a parent who has failed to protect his child.
Good luck, Love bless you both.
2007-10-16 12:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by wordweevil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys and your parents are harsh. My parents never gave me an age where I was allowed to start dating. I think 13 is more than acceptable especially since it is in a group setting. I was 11 when I had my first boyfriend.
2007-10-16 12:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by T L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from my point of view (i am sixteen) it really isn't that big a deal. I mean, if she is going to be in a group it shouldnt matter. Or maybe you could offer to take them to the mall or to a movie and pick them up, or see a different movie or go to a different part of the mall. i lost my stepmoms trust by doing some bad things a few months ago, and now that is how she handles it. Course she didn't let me go 'out out' til i was fifteen and a half. right now i am stuck with her if i want to go out with my bf.
2007-10-16 15:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Aireyaunna A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say ok, but like yours my husband says not until she is 30. As long as there is a group and they will be picked up and dropped off there shouldn't be an issue.
2007-10-16 12:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by casey101 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was 13 when I first "went out" with a boyfriend. It was the same situation as your describing, we had a few of our friends going to the movies and getting rides from our parents. It was innocent fun and my parents were both okay with it.
2007-10-16 12:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay. I started dating when I was 13 and they were always group dates.
2007-10-16 12:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dating is forbidden in my religion for both girls and boys. It might lead to sex before marriage and children produced out of wedlock. Your husband should have the final say since he is the man of the household. I agree with your husband. Don't let her go out especially if there are boys. If she wants to go out then make her brother or father go with her. Most boys that age only care about sex not the girl.
2007-10-16 12:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
thats a no way in hell for my house
male and female kids alike first date period age 16 and thats only if they have a part time job and good grades "A" average and is mature and responsible. my kids will not be whoring around
2007-10-16 14:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY she is thirteen, dating that young will only lead to trouble. Just because it's a group thing doesn't make ANY safer. Going to the movies with a group of girlfriends one thing but a group date.........I wouldn't do it.
2007-10-16 12:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋