My husband and I are planning on renewing our vows for our 5 year anniversary (April 08').
We were married at the courthouse because my husband was in the military and getting ready to ship out for a year so we had no time to plan a wedding.
We are renewing our vows to reaffirm our love for one another and be able to involve our family and friends.
I want the wedding that I have always dreamed of and I want to wear a simple veil (no blusher). My family says that it is ok because it is my day, but my friend feels that it is inappropriate.
I will also like suggestions on how to involve our 5 children in the ceremony. The boys will be ages 7,4,and 3. The girls will be 5 and 1.
I would also like to know if it will be ok to have attendants or not.
I want to wear a simple wedding gown with a small train.
2007-10-16 04:51:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm sorry, but You are already married, dear. Wedding gowns, attendants and veils are not appropriate when you are already married. You don't have a wedding when you already have a wedding ring on your hand...even though you never got the "wedding you always dreamed of". It will look like a foolish mockery if you go through a mock wedding, when you are parents to 5 children together, and have been married for years.
Vows never expire, and they do not need to be renewed. When it comes down to it, a Vow Renewal is an Anniversary party, where you express in front of your friends and family how important your husband is to you, and you pledge your continued faithfulness and love to your husband and family.
Have a big, beautiful anniversary party with all of your closest family and friends. Wear a nice dress (NOT a wedding gown or veil), have your husband wear a nice suit (not a tux)...Have a great meal, maybe drinks, music...at some point during dinner or before, you and your husband can take turns reading a speech to each other...vows you have written yourselves. You do not need an officient...this is just a reaffirming of your love, before your family and friends.
If you want to include your children, you can also say some words to them...maybe give them tokens of your love, just like you and your husband have rings from each other. But, there is no processional, no pomp and circumstance.
Please reconsider putting on a fake wedding...All of your guests already know you are married, and many people would not even attend, if they received a wedding invitation from a couple already married with children. Your Vow Renewal/Anniversary party should honor your marriage, not make it into a theatrical reinactment.
~Kat
2007-10-16 05:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 14⤋
I am renewing my vows i try to stay away from the wedding bashers and if you want the wedding of your dreams then do it i am, there's no rules and everyone i kno is as excited as i am im have three attendants flower girls and a ring bearer of course two of the girls are my children, we were separated for a year and we worked on a lot he literally proposed to me as before we just went and got married because his grandpa is a pastor and wasn't happy we had a baby out of wedlock, but still we love each other and want this so any one tells you other wise just roll your eyes and do what you want you want to wear a veil do it I am and a white dress im wearing one one i always wanted ;) so anyway have fun thats important take lots of pictures create memories!
2013-12-29 02:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You can do whatever your heart desires at your vow renewal. I am. I was married at a young age and didn't have a wedding at all. .. Not a dress, not flowers. I am doing it for my 10 year anniversary. Big party, Ivory wedding dress. ... The whole thing and I don't regret it. My family is excited and so are we.
2014-08-04 12:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No. You don't wear a wedding gown or veil. No attendants. It's NOT 'another wedding' - it's a vow renewal, which is an anniversary celebration.
You already had your wedding, regardless of what the circumstances were.
Plan the ceremony at a church, or another location. It's basically a blessing. You just wear a pretty dress, and him a suit. Then, have a dinner and a party at your home for family and close friends.
2007-10-16 23:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 7⤋
I don't see what harm it could do. My mother got married by the courts when she was pregnant with me and then after i was born had her "real" wedding. A simple ceremony with friends and family. As for involving the children, have them be flower girls just like a normal wedding. Talk to your pastor or who ever is performing the renewal of vows and tell them what you were thinking of doing and see what they suggest.
2007-10-16 05:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Making a vow renewal look like a real wedding is not a good idea.
A vow renewal is not a wedding. Don't pretend that it is. You do not need attendants and all the trimmings. It should be simple, simple, simple.
2007-10-16 09:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
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2016-04-22 06:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can wear whatever you want at your vow renewal ceremony.
My aunt and uncle renewed their vows, she had a BEAUTIFUL white wedding gown, he was spiffy in a tuxedo, they had a bridal party, a reception, the whole shebang! They were married for at least 25 years.
Congrats!
2007-10-16 05:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
A simple veil should be fine.
The two younger boys can be ring and coin bearers, while the two girls can be flower girls, if the 1 year old is walking. The oldest can carry around the guestbook.
Everything else sounds good. Congrats!
2007-10-16 05:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by ZombieExpert 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Veil Or No Veil
2016-10-06 09:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by balducci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋