ive came down to a very hard decision, i need to break up with my current boyfriend. he is very demanding and he dosnt understand that the way i was brought up is why i do the things i do too him. like i cheated on him a month ago, i felt guilty and told him, and now he BRINGS IT UP EVERYDAY. AND DOSENT DROP IT. HE CALLS ME A SLUT, A WHORE, A HOE, AND WHEN WE ARGUE HE GETS MAD AT ME AND TELLS ME TO GO **** MY EX AGAIN. HE ALSO TELLS ME TO **** OFF. and it really hurts and he knows it. and he gets mad over myspace, like, i comment a few guys's pictures and he flippes out on me and assumes im going to cheat on him.... :( i love him soo much, and i deeply regrett cheating. but he cant get over it. i cant make him see it was a mistake and im truly sorry... he's still with me. but i think i need to end it soon. any ideas on how i should?
2007-10-16 04:40:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, being brought up the way you were is NO excuse to cheat on someone. You knew it was wrong and you have apologized, unfortunately you can't go back in time and undo it. Even though you have given him a reason not to trust you, he also sounds very hurt and a little upset. You could try telling him that you don't want to cause him any more pain, you only want what is best for him and you want him to be happy and he cannot be happy with you.
2007-10-16 04:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to understand that you caused this pain, he didn't ask you to cheat you chose that path no matter what your "upbringing" was.. Cheating isn't in your genes its an immoral choice. He has every right to be upset and mistrusting as you haven't really accepted responsibility for your actions (and while you may feel you have by blaming your upbringing you are making excuses.) You should break up with him for his own good. He needs to find a loving caring girlfriend who will respect him and the commitment they have. Next you need to seek help to get through the issues you have with your upbringing. Explore why you feel this is the reason you cheat. Its a good sign that you feel guilty, it means you are not completely devoid of feelings. Good luck and I wish you well.
2007-10-16 04:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First using your family as an excuse for the way you are treating or mistreating someone is wrong. Everything you do is your doing and yours alone. Dont blame it on your family.
Second, once you cheated your relationship was doomed. It will never be the same and you should let him go right away so that he can find someone that respects and cares about him enough to not cheat on him.
2007-10-16 04:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should get out of that relationship. It is not healthy. As far as the break up, if you feel comfortable doing it face to face, I would go that way. Think about what you want to tell him before you do it so it does not turn into a huge yelling match. Just be sure if you do break up with him that you say your peace, let him say his and then go you own ways.
2007-10-16 04:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by vaya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were brought up in a family like mine were they tell you don't take crap from men or boys either one. you will find somebody who really likes you and be respectful to you to so just tell your boyfriend. Tell him "I'm sorry but I can't go on dealing with you and your drama yeah granted I did cheat on you but I am sorry.That is no excuse to say go f*** off or something to me.I need some body who respects me. Or tell him that your parents don't really think to highly of him and thinks he's disrespectful. So you have to end it either way you deserve better than him!!!!!
2007-10-16 06:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medium build. Toned. Taller than me. Well groomed. Knows what he wants. Not afraid to walk the walk and not the talk. Intelligent conversation. Doesn't care what others think or say. Open Minded. Not afraid to say what he feels and shows it. Someone who loves me for me. Respectable. Sense of Humor. Takes charge. Someone who can deal with the emotions of a woman.
2016-05-22 22:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dolly Parton once said, "If it don't go together easily, maybe it wasn't meant ot go together". The truth is, he may never forgive you. I'm thinking, the sooner you move on, the sooner you can start a new life and learn from your mistakes.
2007-10-16 05:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it with me, he'll get mad and end the relationship.
honestly, you do really need to end this relationship. it sounds like you need to spend time with yourself and learn to really love yourself. learn that you don't need men in your life to make yourself happy. it is only after you learn to love yourself truly that you'll be able to have a healthy relationship with someone who will help make you a whole person and not someone who is going to give you grief
2007-10-16 04:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by thunderwood1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it over the phone so you can hang up when he starts verbally abusing you again. You should not put up with abuse of any kind even if you feel like you brought it on yourself.
2007-10-16 04:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him straight, he doesn't seem to bothered about you anyway since you slept around. Just get your stuff and go and keep looking forward not back.
2007-10-16 04:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋