lastnight me and my bf were talking about our relationship in the car and it was time for me to go inside, so i got out of the car and asked him to lean over and give me a hug, well, i didnt realize he was going to put his hands down the back of my pants and i wasnt thinking, so i immediatly slapped the side of his face with my hand.....
he got sooo pissed and said **** you. i kept apologizing to him because i felt bad, but he still said he didnt want to talk and that ii should just go inside.
i feel horrible :( what should i do? he's still mad i did that.
even though it was just a reaction i had.
2007-10-16 04:21:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you arent a bad gf it is just instant reaction
2007-10-16 04:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he was out of line with the unexpected hands down the pants thing. you reacted, with a slap, which was a reaction cause by his ACTION. he can't go all abusive at you and swear. give him a wide berth for a few days until he is sincerely sorry: firstly for putting his hands there when it wasn't appropriate (if you were used to it or expecting it, you wouldn't have had a fight/or/flight reaction to it, which was your gut instinct -) and secondly for swearing at you- NOT acceptable. if he does that, and you feel it is truly heartfelt, then you can once more apologise for slapping him, and then move on. but have some space, because i don't think this guy realises yet he was out of line, hence your fearful knee jerk reaction.
you weren't at that level of intimacy/trust with him yet, and sounds like if he is swearing at you, it's not gonna happen any time soon either.
2007-10-16 11:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by meteorite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boys do not like the feeling of rejection. It makes them mad and they overreact. Then they get their way when you come running saying I'm sorry, it gives them the upper hand. Just forget about it, you tried to apologize and explain it was a reaction, and if he can't take that tell him to grow up and quit being a child! Your not a bad gf! You just have to be careful on your reactions next time. lol :) Good luck!
2007-10-16 11:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by TootsieGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now lets put this together again. You were talking, you wanted a hug and he put his hands in your pants, you just intictivlely swung out at him and you think your a bad girlfriend. Well your not and he's just being a P***k. let him calm down and if he's doesn't see the light then dump him.
2007-10-16 11:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by heritage b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt get mad 4 that...u had reason 2. He should of understood that maybe u dont feel confortable with him doing that. Its okay if he were mad 4 a little while but he shouldnt make it such a big deal...Just let him get over it
2007-10-16 11:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Carol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, you did nothing wrong! Like you said it was just an immediate reaction. Your boyfriend needs to grow up! Quit saying your sorry to him. He needs to apologize to you. Tell him to either get over it or go and find someone else. If he doesn't apologize to you, I swear I would dump him. Again please don't be SORRY!
2007-10-16 11:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by donnalw3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was an automatic reaction to an action of his. Boyfriend or not, it obviously made you feel uncomfortable enough to do something about it. He should be understanding! It's a good sign that you're not cheating, if you slap whoever touches you, haha.
2007-10-16 11:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by peroxidekween 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not a bad gf. The fact that you have your own set of values that you adhere by is a sign you are a woman of character. Added to this the fact that you STILL are worried that you might have hurt him shows that you are also selfless.
I wish more women were like you. A woman of true virtue is very rare these days.
2007-10-16 11:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan K 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well F*** him back and tell him it's your natural behaviour. He should be thankful instead for at least he know what others will get if they do that to you. But for him it's a slap of love
2007-10-16 11:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by boonji86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together? You should have told him not now and kissed him good night. He should not have been so forward, but if you gave im a light tap, he needs to get over it. If he cares about you he will get over it, if not, he is not for you.
2007-10-16 11:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by schneider2294@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he deserved the slap and should know that. if not hes obiviously a jerk for trying to do so. so tell him to get lost if hes gonna be immature! good luck! at least you didnt do what i did when a guy grabbed my butt i turned around and punched him in his chest fracturing his chest bone! haha
2007-10-16 11:27:00 · answer #11 · answered by number1blonde824 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋