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2007-10-16 04:17:24 · 71 answers · asked by Shadow 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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Beyond one single shadow of a doubt it is too young.

2007-10-16 04:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 4

that depends on the 18 year old... is she mature and responsible? Is she married or single? Does she have a stable home life? There are so many factors in this question. I have seen some as young as 16 with a baby that act more responsible than 20somethings in the same situation. If the young lady is responsible enough with the right kind of support system in place then no not too young...if not and she's only interested in the party lifestyle and hanging with friends or on the streets no not at all! Give it up to a loving set of parents who will adopt it and give it a stable home

2007-10-16 04:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by KayKay 6 · 0 0

I would say yes....at 18 your still growing up mentally and emotionally and a child is a huge change in your life and a huge responsibility to shoulder. Most 18 yr olds are looking to getting out of school, college and getting to legal age to go out partying. Not saying all want to go do those things but having a child so young does put a big crimp in any future plans and make things a whole lot tougher. Best to wait a few more years, till financially stable, relationship stable and a person has accomplished some of what they want to accomplish in their younger years.

2007-10-16 04:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I had my son when I was 24 and I wasn't ready. There is nothing in this world that can prepare you for having a baby.

Are you ready to give up parties, going out on the weekends, sleeping in, and going to college for the next eight or ten years? Are you ready to handle severe sleep deprivation for the next ten to twelve months? Are you ready to put someone else ahead of yourself for the next eighteen to twenty years? Are you ready to take a full-time job to support a child through diapers, school, buy clothing, put food on the table, help with homework?

Ask yourself why you want a baby. Do you think it will just be a little doll eternally devoted to you? Motherhood is the most wonderful thing that can happen to a woman, but it takes patience, hard work, self-sacrifice, and there is more responsibility than you can imagine. You are not just having a baby, you are bringing a human being into the world. You will be responsible for raising that person and however they turn out, good or bad, will be entirely your doing. Are you ready for that kind of responsibility?

If you are asking the question, then the answer is yes, you are too young.

2007-10-16 04:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Physically, it is good age. Emotionally, financially, and in many other ways, it's not a great time to have a baby. At 18, you should be trying out different thing and deciding which carreer would be best for you, as well as completing your education. You should also be dating people to find the best marriage partner.

Once you have a child, your options are limited. VERY limited. Children do not need the chaos of a mother who is dating around to find a spouse. They don't need a stressed out mom who has to have them with other caregivers so she can work and go to school.

One of my best friends (and the best mom I know, BTW) had her first child at 18. She is a great mom, and eventually married a wonderful man and had more children. Having watched her struggle in her late teens and early twenties, I would not reccomend it to anyone. It made life so much harder for her than it should have been. She married her baby's father and divorced him 3 months later (he was a dead-beat loser). She had a huge amount of family support. Still, she had to get a full-time job, leave her baby with (loving) relatives, and therefore missed many of her baby's milestones.

Most people are not stable enough to parent at 18. You may think you are, but when you get into your mid to late twenties, you will see how immature you really were at 18.

Have fun now, there is plenty of time for babies later. If you are already pregnant, please consider adoption.

2007-10-16 04:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kellie W 4 · 0 0

Physiologically 18yrs ain't too young. However the bigger question is whether the 18 yrs old is financially and emotionally stable to take care of the baby. The burden of having a child gets beyond getting layed, being pregnant, going through labor and childbirth.It takes the matured and experienced person to take very good care of the baby and nourish it to its God given potential.This honestly I doubt if 18yrs old can conveniently do. In this respect I will strongly dis-recommend an 18yrs old having a child.

2007-10-16 05:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by bobcee45 1 · 0 0

Depends on where you are emotionally, but I would not recommend it. I got prego with my 1st at 18 and when she was 9 months old, along came "Surprise #2". I am almost 28 now, with 3 kids and I struggle every day to maintain, financially,physically and emotionally. Of course "all I wanted was a baby" and was not smart enough to chose the right guy so now I have to anser for him, cover his place and raise them alone. My advice: when you are stable(house,car,job,secure committed realtionship) and emotionally ready, then go for it. When the kids come along and you realize later you wish you went to college and cant because you have to work, or when you see all your freinds going out and you cannot get a sitter, well its tough. Dont be selfish and only have kids when you able to support them in every way because they deserve that, they didnt ask to be born into hardship so dont make the same mistake. You will be a totally different person in 10 years and what you think you know or want know is TOTALLY different down the road!!

2007-10-16 04:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by t 2 · 0 0

At 18 I wouldn't have planned on having a child, but I think I've done alright so far. I would say its definitely too young to be making plans to have children though. What I wanted when I was 18 ended up being completely different than what I wanted when I was 21... and so on.

2007-10-16 04:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Denise S 5 · 0 0

It can go both ways actually. Some 18 year olds do very well with it, and some do not. It is not for everyone. I had my first when I was 18, I was married also. We bought a house about a year later, and now I am having another one. I was more ready the first time around then this time around. I was staying at home at that time, now I am working. It all depends on what kind of a person you are. My sister had hers at 19 I think, she didn't do to well, and she had another one not three years later. She actually left them to live on the streets in Claifornia. She is older than me, but not mentaly.

2007-10-16 04:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by gin 4 · 0 0

Let's put it this way...

Is an 18 year old prepared to handle sleepless nights, being up with a baby who is crying, unconsolably? Is she ready to take the responsibilities of being a parent without having to ask her own parents for help?

Is the 18 year old financially stable? Is there a couple involved, deeply committed to one another. Is this person ready to give up the life of an 18 year old and be a real parent to this baby?

Here's another situation... Let's say that the baby has a medical condition that requires surgeries. Is this 18 year old ready to be able to handle that without breaking down and wanting to give up the baby? I have a daughter born with a cleft lip/palate. She is 5 years old, has had 7 surgeries so far, with many more to come. I'm 39 years old... and it's hard on me and my husband when our little gal is in the hospital, under anesthesia.

So... is 18 years old too young to have a child? Yes. They may be physically mature enough, but definitely not emotionally. Granted, it happens, and there are some really awesome young parents out there, and I give them the utmost credit for being able to do it. But for the most part, many do struggle way too much with parenthood.

2007-10-16 04:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by AV 6 · 1 2

Yes, that's too young. That's the age I had mine. I love my child but if I could don't it over I would choose wisely. You can't do much with a child. I couldn't go anywhere. I was stuck with my baby all the time. Usually that's the age during or after high school so that's when the fun with your friends really start. If your considering it......don't do it. Wait at least after you had a good end to your teen years and managed to get a good education and a good job. If your already prego, then good luck!!! I did it all by myself and let me tell you it was tough!!

2007-10-16 04:24:24 · answer #11 · answered by Passion 4 · 0 0

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