I was invited to a themed shower where everybody is given a different time of day to shop for. I was given "bedtime."
Problem is, I already bought her two place settings before the invitations went out. And I got them on sale, and the store was an hour away, so I don't really want to return them. I didn't know about the theme. Should I return the place settings and get her a different gift? Is it very obnoxious to disregard the theme and give dishes when my time is bedtime?
I don't want to ask the hostess (her mother) to switch my "bedtime" to another time because I figure the invites went out already and that would cause problems if everyone wanted to switch.
BTW, I am the maid of honor.
2007-10-16 04:14:09 · 17 answers · asked by Carrie O'Labrador 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It kinda bothers me that you are the maid of honor and weren't told about the theme shower. I thought the maid of honor was involved in every aspect of the wedding (minus the honeymoon).
If I were you I would give her the gift I already got her and maybe get a little something else to go with the bedtime thing. But because I'm not you and I can be a horrible person I would say something like "I guess the maid of honor is the last to know! So lucky you, you get two gifts from me!!" I'm just kidding, I'm sure they didn't mean to leave anybody out or thought that somebody would actually get a gift ahead of time......and not the day of.... ha ha!
So yeah, just get her a little something like the lady above said about the bath stuff, those are always nice to get.
2007-10-16 04:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by texicangirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, a bridal shower is given by whoever wants to host a party for the bride. it is not necessarily given by the maid of honor. My aunt threw mine, and a couple of my cousins had as many as three bridal showers thrown by different people (with different guests attending each shower). So, seeing as it is the brides mother hosting the shower, it is not rude or wrong to not have inlcuded the MOH or to give out assigned gift ideas for a themed party. thats like saying someone wanted to throw a masked ball but you thought it was rude that they told you to wear a mask.
just like everyone else said. keep the place settings for the wedding and go get a small gift for the shower (a bedtime gift basked or some pajamas) go naughty or nice, however you want to do it. but you can keep it small.
2007-10-16 05:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by stephanie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give them the place settings as actual wedding gift and get them something fun for the shower. That's what I've always done. And, yes, giving the place settings for a bedtime gift would be kind of lame.
2007-10-16 04:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the shower gift is different from a wedding gift and also is a smaller gift. Give the place settings as a wedding gift. If the mom is "cool," you could get a fun bedtime "gadget." If the mom is more conservative, a pair of pretty pillowcases would be nice.
2007-10-16 04:25:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give her the place settings and a tray for "breakfast in bed", thus sticking with the "bedtime" idea.
She'll love any gift you give. If she asks about the place settings for the "bed time" just tell her you got them for her before the shower invitation.
OR, give them to her for her wedding gift and get something else for her shower.
2007-10-16 11:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are the maid of honor, the bride to be will love anything you get her. Just say "hey, I got this before the shower invitation". Personally, I would like place settings more than pillows or sheets....it's a much nicer gift.
2007-10-16 04:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People can prefer presents from the marriage ceremony registry in the event that they desire to carry a present to the engagement occasion. As a long way as showers, the hosts of the ones will come to a decision for those who must check in for commonplace matters or if there is a subject matter to the presents. For illustration, a traditional subject matter for a bridal bathe is kitchen or bed room stuff, and the hostess will specify a kitchen bathe, or bed room bathe, and visitors will carry matters that flatter that subject matter. (The bed room subject matter can get kinky, and who registers for that stuff? *evil grin*) All you want is the only major registry, and the relaxation will maintain itself from there. You are totally correct that a majority of these separate registries are grasping, they usually do ship the message that a present is EXPECTED for the whole thing, in any other case you do not have registries above all for every occasion. Remember that those to-do lists in magazines are backed through the organizations striking advertisements, they usually desire you to suppose you've got tor check in for such a lot of matters that you'll be able to finally check in for his or her stuff too. Showing as much as simply the marriage ceremony with one present is truthfully quiet steeply-priced, above all in view that journey is more commonly entails. Like you, I am additionally stricken through the developing expectation that presents will receive so often throughout an engagement. This is so steeply-priced, and visitors are bled dry.
2016-09-05 11:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could those place settings be used as her wedding gift rather than shower gift? You could still go out and get a nice fuzzy robe and slippers that match for the shower and save the place settings for the wedding present...
2007-10-16 05:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the place settings as a wedding gift, and buy an inexpensive "theme" gift for the shower.
2007-10-16 04:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Give the place settings as a wedding gift and go shopping for something following the theme. (this way you won't have to worry about what to get them for the wedding and you won't have to make a trip to return anything)
2007-10-16 04:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋