2007-10-16 03:11:47 · 10 answers · asked by nutritionist34 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Terminally ill does not mean dead!!! It only means there is an indication that that parent won't be with you much longer. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and spend time, as much time as you can with that parent, live with them in the moment and stop anticipating the future. Because when it comes right down to it, you don't know when they will die and you don't know when you might die, could be tomorrow in a car accident for all you know. So truly, all any of us has is NOW, use now, and be with your parent now.
2007-10-16 03:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My father was diagnosed with lung cancer on July 24 this year. The cancer has spread into the bones in the hip and the ribcage. Last week I flew home for a visit. I am so glad that he is feeling somewhat normal. The visit was very pleasant. Now that I have returned home the new results came in and are not good, the radiation treatments were not successful and a new tumor is on the lung and the other areas have spread. I am feeling so lost and sad. I know he is still here with us, but living far away is wearing on me right now. I keep thinking I should just pack up for a month and go home. He is going to do 2 chemo treatments that are extremely aggressive and that is what scares me to death. I am scared and have seen what chemo does. Does anyone have anything positive to tell me about agressive chemo when they only do 2 treatments that are about 9 hours long?
2007-10-19 18:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by REBECCA W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are doing better today. It is very stressful to have a terminally ill parent. You need a dose of laughter to lift your spirits.
Don't forget to get rest and to eat right during this time. It is very emotionally and physically draining.
Surround yourself with friends that are fun to be around. Hang out with the dude that makes you laugh no matter what. Watch a good comedy movie. Do something nice for yourself. Get a little fresh air and clear your mind. Sometimes we need a good cry, not that I would ever admit this, but sometimes it is cleansing and healing for our spirit.
Remove yourself from the situation for a little while and rejuvenate yourself. You will fill your cup and be better able to deal.
I am sorry you are going through this. I wish you and your family the best.
Take Care.
2007-10-17 12:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Greenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you're having a lost feeling today. This must be a very hard thing to go through. I don't know what illness your parent has but as with any illness, all you can do is make them as comfortable as you can and ask God to give you the strength to go through this. Take care.
2007-10-16 10:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have today. You have this moment. Your mom is still with you. You and your mom and your family will have to pack a lifetime's worth of love into the next days, weeks, or months.
My dad died after being sick for several months, and I am so glad I had that time with him. I miss him, but I had time to say goodbye. It was different when my little brother died in a motorcycle accident. It was a very abrupt loss, and much harder to deal with than my dad's death.
I can't tell you how to feel or what to do, but I do hope you know that there are a lot of people here as well as in your real life who have compassion for you.
Hugs -- and be sure to take good care of yourself during this time. It's easy to neglect your own needs when you are trying to take care of someone else.
2007-10-16 10:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jodie G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know that there are many other people like you out there. There are support groups you can attend. I didn't lose a parent but a grandparent who raised me so was just like a parent to me. She died from cancer about 6 years ago and it still hurts and I still feel lost from time to time.
2007-10-16 10:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by LPN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom is has liver and bone cancer and I sure have reasons to be down and sad but, I try my hardest to be optimistic and smile everyday. Have faith, believe, and be positive that helps so much for you and your parent. Enjoy every second that you can and tell them how much you love them. Its no good to be sad and dwelling on something that might happen. I say might happen because I believe in MIRACLES and you should too. I hope that this helps!
2007-10-16 10:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, my dad has terminal cancer and is undergoing surgery today at the mayo clinic, I can't stop worrying, even though there is nothing I can do
2007-10-16 12:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by cutie420311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are you feeling today??I just lost my Mum to cancer sept 7. she was sick for 4 months. I here if you need support xx
2007-10-18 08:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings very well, its the feeling of helplessness, and something out of your control.....people tell you to be strong and positive when all you want to do is curl up in a ball and cry your heart out....
just wanted to let you know ..i understand ! :)
2007-10-16 17:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋