I am a white American male that is marrying an Indian women. She is very much Americanized but her parents and family are not. So for our wedding we basically have to have two caterers..one for Indian food and one for some sort of Italian/American food. I have been running into a loot of obstacles with this. Most reception halls will only allow one caterer (don't ask me why...it makes no sense to me). Anyone had an experinece like this? Or have any suggestions on how to make both cultures happy on our wedding day?
2007-10-16 02:28:38 · 12 answers · asked by the coast with the most 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I commend you for trying to incorporate both cultures and unite both sides of the family.
If you are unable to do this - perhaps have a late afternoon wedding (after lunch), and just have cake. If you can't bring in 2 caterers then go with none. Go with finger food desserts and find a caterer that can do both american and indian desserts. That might be an easier approach.
OR.... get the two caterers to work together. Simply let one know that only one will be allowed to go in, and can bring both foods. If they refuse, then they don't get your service. Hard one, I have not come across this before.
Good Luck to you. Remember though - this day is about you and your furture partner - not the food.
2007-10-16 02:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know you want your wedding to be catered, but is there anyway to get your families involved? I know this may not work out if you have a large wedding guest list but if you could have her side of the family prepare traditional Indian dishes and your side of the family prepare Italian/American dishes. That way they are involved and happy and everyone gets what they want in terms of food. It will also save you both a ton of money. My situation wasn't the exact same but I am white American and my husband is African American. We didn't have problems with food but music was an issue for the reception because his family likes old school R&B/soul music and my family likes country. We took requests from both sides of the family and made a play list and our DJ did a good job of alternating music. Good luck!! :) :)
2007-10-16 02:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a caterer that will accomodate Indian food- I know that there are several that do this in the Philadelphia area, for instance. Perhaps you can find one caterer that can do a mixed menu, and then you don't have to worry about having two companies in there.
The hall probably only allows one because of limited space in the kitchen/prep area.
2007-10-16 02:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find a more eclectic caterer. Find one caterer that can provide a variety of appropriate dishes that fall on a wide scale of Indian or Americanized tastes. Have a few things that are clearly Indian, a few things that are clearly not, and a few things that would go well with either choice.
2007-10-16 04:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends that are getting married soon. One is Indian the other British. They are having two weddings. One to suit each family and both sides of the family are attending both (I think this is nice as it means both sides can experience the differences of our cultures. However, this can be quite expensive and there are also positive points of combining the wedding (i.e. family can mix and get to know each other properly). It is a tough one, sorry I couldn't be more help. Remember though, it is your wedding and it should be just how you are your wife to be want it. NOT how the family dictate it should be.
2007-10-16 02:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by Yanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what state and town do you live in? There are some caterers who specialize in multi-culteral menues around. Do a search on the web under wedding catering in your area. The best ones will have a web site for you to visit. You also may want to advertise in the paper for one.
2007-10-16 02:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by davidaronis2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can find a caterer who cooks many different foods. Such as Indian, American, Hispanic, Soul. Someone who caters to many different foods.
2007-10-16 04:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for one caterer that can provide food to suit both cultures.
2007-10-16 02:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a different venue--there are many who are more open-minded.
Also be prepared to take out an insurance policy of about $1M (will cost you about 100 bucks). That usually makes the facility owner feel better.
2007-10-16 02:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they only allow one caterer try to make arrangements to bring some of the food yourself.
2007-10-16 02:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋