am i ready to be in love?

Question

Am i ready to have relationship with someone?i've been hurt 3 times and i don't want to collect boyfriends. If i could turn back the time. I want to have 1 partner in life but it's too late. There's this guy that i don't know physically. we know each other for 6 months. we have communications but we never seen each other. he's nice and different with my ex-boyfriends. but how am i be sure that he's the one worth loving for?next month probably, he will work abroad. i dont think it's advisable to have long distance relationship. right? so before i give my heart. i want to be sure that it's right to fall in love with him.

Answer 1

Hi joyce

I'm assuming you met this guy online? If this is the case, I say to you, please be careful.

I know being hurt from men can take (alot and alot) of time to heal the wounds...and sometimes they never seem to heal...but the only way to end this vicious cycle is to get back out there. Trust me.

I wouldn't think in your situation, a long distance relationship would be the best option. I speak from experience when I say, its hard. Very hard. And I gave my heart away...and it got broken...and I'm still recovering. But you never know...it may work out differently for you.

Its never too late for a life partner. You sound like a lovely lady, I'm sure its just a matter of time for you.

Good luck with it all

:)

Answer 2

Wow... sounds like me. I never wanted to have more than one boyfriend, but life has a funny way of working and you know, it really makes you grow and learn a lot. Really, long distance relationships are not ideal since you only see each other at your best and it is hard to know what the other is really like. Cliche, but there are reasons why things happen. One day you may have the best relationship ever. Had you not been through the hard times you would not appreciate the good.

Date, don't give your heart. Make sure the person really and truly deserves it. Love takes time. There are reasons for this.

Answer 3

I think the biggest mistake that a lot of people make is; they jump into bed too soon. Just because you've communicated with this guy for 6 months doesn't mean a thing. When you meet him it will be like you've just met. Some people would say, "I really know this guy; so after a few days it will be alright to go to bed with him." Wrong. You really don't know him. Going to bed with someone ruins everything. Once you've done it; you have to keep on doing it. A lot of people have no idea who they are getting intimate with. What kind of life style has he had? What kind of women has he been to bed with? What disease does he have or the women he's been with? Some may have a disease and not know about it until later on. It takes time for things to show up and develop. Just because a guy seems nice, looks nice, acts nice; doesn't mean his body is worth taking a chance with. If a guy thinks you are worth having; he thinks you are worth waiting for. There are a lot of risky things going on out there. We would probably be shocked if we knew everything. Years ago, before people got married they had to get a blood test before the license. None of that matters anymore. Some should get blood work done just to know if this person has aids, a venereal disease, etc. It too bad, after you find out that you picked up something and the guy that gave it to you is long gone. A few people do give things enough time to get to know each other and do get tested for the right things before having sex. There are a lot of free clinic that test for these things. Before would be better than after.

Answer 4

you sound like your being very responsible abpout it but sometimes you have to take that chance otherwise u will never no an u may lose the one person that is right for you, id carry on gettin to know him for a while if your worried and then decide what you want to do, my bf an i met on a course an had a long distance relationship, he said heloved me the second time we met an we had that lond distance relationship a few months it made us stronger and made us realise how close we were an how much we liked eachother, i now live with him and its great, ive been hurt 3 times before too and wasnt interested in men when i met my bf and now i realise it toook him, that one special person to make me realise there not all the same. if he treats you how yuo want to be treated then give it a go
good luck
p.s. you know when your ready to be in love as you will know when you are in love, its not about being ready, it just happens

Answer 5

Love is a pokie machine.....you put hundreds into it and go broke.... put ten bucks in and your set for life! its all a gamble.. now matter how good you think you are at character judging- nothing is text book, and it often doesnt turn out as planned but its all character building... if you dont try, youll never know, and may end up a little lonely and bitter..
but
I wouldnt bother giving my heart to someone i didnt 'know' or see that much, and certainly not if he was leaving soon..
Picking a guy like this is probably opening yourself up to disapointment.......he may fall in love with you and decide not to go! the world is full of WHAT IF'S... trick is to toughen up, take a chance..if it doesnt work, its NOT the end of the world. Many women live life happily without a partner.

Answer 6

I understand u don't want to just hand your heart out and be hurt but sometimes u have to take a chance.I hear u on several relationships and no u can't go back but if u don't go forward u wont have the opportunity to find the love of your life.I dont know about the long distance relationship.Personally i think it would be really hard to mantain,but if u really havent even in person met him maybe u could still keep it going and when he gets back from his trip then maybe you'll know.If it turned out good and u have feelings then give it a chance.If its easier take things slow with him.good luck

Answer 7

don't rush things, take ur time...think about it alot, because for someone to work abroad is gonna be tough. I had a long distance relationship and it didn't work for me. There was jealousy, there was suspicions and no trust...so its not the same as being together physically, so i wish u the best but really think about it, after getting hurt three times i think ur not ready for the 4th right now especially if hes leaving

Answer 8

if cupid comes to "say hi" to you there s no reason to refuse it, just welcome it:)
you will never know till you give it a shot, i mean nothing to lose i m sure u have a lot of lesson to learn from the previous experience, so it is with the present, if you feel you love that man, why not? based from ur story seems it s a net relationship? if yes is there any possibility u guys to meet each other first before he moves more far away? so u could decide what u heart tells u, who knows he s your soulmate :D

if you dont have anyway to meet him first, well if u love him and if you feel he loves you just enjoy it, time will tell (classic cliche but its true)

distance relationship is hard yes it is but again it depends in the couple as long u both have that "commitment" and stick to it i think will have no probs :D

good luck!

Answer 9

there is no right with love and your seldom ready for it. when I realized I was in love with my husband the very next thought I had was oh god i'm in trouble now. Long distance is work but its worth it. Love is scary some times and it can be tough but it's more than worth it at the end of the day. Just take it slow and see where it goes

Answer 10

Make sure you figure out what went wrong with the other boyfriends before starting in a new one. For example, many women pick the same abusive type of guy over and over, and can't figure out why the relationship turns bad. Its a good idea to have an honest assessment of what happened to avoid making the same mistake over and over.