I don't get it, why are u guys so freaked out about relationship... wooo... scary.. what is your problem? Why is a family scare you? and what the hell do you get out of sex? what is the big deal? I just don't get it, after 'relationship' after 'relationship' it all comes down to this... please enlighten me?
2007-10-16 01:53:34 · 12 answers · asked by Kerrie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok ok.. sorry, not all guys are like that ok... I'm just really ticked off because i just don't get it anymore.
2007-10-16 02:15:03 · update #1
im fed up of getting dissapointed with ladies ,they just **** and leave or i do that move,Anything you do after a while will be critisised ,and if you change its not enought.Dissapointment scares people.I want a true relatioship but i think i get involved with just one night stands its really pissing me off lately i want to just chill with a girl that likes you for who you ******* are for once jezz.Whe always go for the bloody opposite of what we want ,or we find the opposite,its fear because of disapointmen,and sometimes we cant be arsed for the hole lets go out. We want to find a best friend girl that you do anuthing and have fun.
Yess we want kids eventually and family but check out all the comments so many people loose trust every minute ,thats why people just go for sex ,end of story really why get so involved give time and then just either get fed up or ,she leaves you .lol sorry for being a little negative but thats the only answer i have .I believe in what your saying but i also have the other believe me .
2007-10-16 02:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by ahvillian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not scared of relationships but I'm scared of needles and heights. Classifying all men into this category is the wrong thing to do. Actually more men want relationships than not. Maybe you are just dating/looking at the wrong type of guy. Quit dating the players and dangerous guys and look for a nice guy who will treat you right. Try looking in different places instead of you usual places. This is coming from a happily married man of 11 years.
2007-10-16 02:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Taco Muncher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are scared because they don't want to be bad at having sex, some are scared of getting you pregnant because they think their parents will probably never speak to them again...
There are always different reasons for different guys.
P.S. not all guys are the same, you just need to find the right one if your looking to start a family (you also shouldn't think about making a family in every relationship you are in... it sounds like you have had a really really bad relationship in the past)
I hope this helps you out a bit,
Rich
2007-10-16 02:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by Richard F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It usually depends on the guy and his level of maturity. There are also good reasons why some men are afraid of a relationship or commitment. He might not be ready to settle down yet because he is young. He could be focused on career goals. He could be scared as you mentioned.
One must be absolutely sure of themselves before they enter a long-term relationship, male or female. Especially when there is a legally binding marriage certificate involved. One needs to be 100% sure they found the right one and are willing to work at it to make it work. Getting into a marriage is easy. Gettting out of it if things don't work out is the tricky part.
As far as the sex part, don't you get any pleasure out of sex too? If not, then you are not either doing it right or you are with someone who is not attentive to your needs.
2007-10-16 02:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being a little too stereotypical. men enjoy sex and so do women. I just got cheated on by a girl who said is very sorry but could not control herself (you can follow my name to see my question). I would give anything to have that feeling of having a family back. It was her, me and the cat who we used to say was our son. I think you just have bad luck. The right guy will meet you and you him and then both of you will want to be in a relationship and you will be happy. Relax a little. If every guy you meet is like that maybe you need to go elsewhere to meet guys
2007-10-16 02:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by forceOfNature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you see, Honey, what the bother is for us men is this:
that girls have lost their art of simply being girls.
That is, they have lost the art of supporting their husbands through thick and thin.
In many cases, they want to demand it is "their body" when a little pumpkin is considered. Too much independence is demanded instead of interdependence.
The marriage vows mean little but paper these days; women are as capable as men of walking out on a relationship, and when women do, the men still lose! ... their families, that is ... and much more today.
So, basically, I would say that generally, women have to make it look pretty good before today's male will genuinely consider proper committal.
Does that answer your Q??
2007-10-16 02:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by dr c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...Kerrie darling?....everyone on the planet including YOU has a whole bunch of different issues about everything honestly sweetie. Yours just simply happen to belong to YOU reasonably....that's all! Surely utilizing good thinking and good mental awareness is expected to belong to everyone darling.....for others irrational thinking rules their whole darned day unfortunately. It's not just simply an exclusive thing that rewards just some women and men actually. Some of us certain boys/men DO think properly hun......just not all of the time certainly! We're human too babe......fraught with mindlessness, bad thinking, bad behaviors, and quirks and significant afflictions too darling.....just like you sweetie!
2007-10-16 02:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so---much---hatred. i was afraid i was gonna burst into flames. first off, way to stereotype all guys together, thats logical. guys dont like to get hurt just like girls dont like to get hurt. the question "why is a family scare you" is a little vague. guys get pleasure from sex, just like women. its an instinct and a need that guys cant control unless they choose to. the only guys who are celibate are monks who live on a hilltop with other dudes and pray all day...thats the only way to make it without exploding. sounds to me like you keep picking losers. maybe you should look in the mirror more often instead of blaming guys for your failed relationships.
2007-10-16 02:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually they not scared with the relationship. but they scared of the commitment. girls need attention and time from their bf. but boys have a wrong interpretation about this things. boys are scared to lost their quality time of being single, flirt with any women, and hang out the boys.
2007-10-16 02:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by glicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend isnt scared of our relationship, in fact he freaks me out sometimes when hes talking about us having kids and names for them and were we should have our wedding as are families live 2 hours apart, he says hes scared of losing me like im scfared of losing him so im sure not all men think the same
2007-10-16 02:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by lilhails 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋