A guy I have been seeing for almost 2 months now. He lives in a diffrent city to me. We have been arguing a lot and he doesn't call me as much any more. Basically he has been taking me for granted. Yesterday we FINALLY had a talk and he apologised if he had hurt me and said that he needed some breathing space and wants to see if he can live without me for a month. He says that he has become off track and he is really stressed out and that he does care for me , i asked if we would still see ech other to which he replied oh we don't need to go out of our way to see each other. I was quite dignified I think and said ok well thanks for letting me know and I know that all you are saying is just a bunch of excuses but its cool and I hope that you are able to get back on track and hopefully not having me in you life will ease the "stress" you are under. I kindly asked him to delete my numbers and my pictures from his phone.
DO YOU THINK I HANDLED IT WELL?? Considering he was quite cold??
2007-10-16 01:45:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s. he also told me that he BLOCKED my number from his phone as he wants to cut me off he said he does care for me what a JOKE?? I'm glad I didn't do the whole can't we work it out think which is probably what he expected??
Did I do good lol??
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2007-10-16 01:46:58 · update #1
Yes. The only way you could possibly have handled it better would be to have invited him on Maury and done the same......... and tried to squeeze in a paternity test somehow ......... inspired!
2007-10-16 01:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Err no.
I was thing yes, when I read this " I was quite dignified I think and said ok well thanks for letting me know", as this is a mature response, but then
"and I know that all you are saying is just a bunch of excuses but its cool and I hope that you are able to get back on track and hopefully not having me in you life will ease the "stress" you are under. I kindly asked him to delete my numbers and my pictures from his phone"...just made you sound childish.
It was a 2 month relationship for gods sake, if you weren't giving him breathing space in that short time, you were doomed from the start.
He wasn't being cold, he was explaining his situation so you knew where you stood.
Stop being so clingy and immature, and next time you might last longer than 2 months.
Maybe harsh, but definitely true.
2007-10-16 02:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, this man is spouting such b.s. I can smell it from here. You think he's a user, you've called him out on it, and he's fleeing the scene of the crime. He probably has a wife/girlfriend in that faraway city as well or there is someone else already lined up.
If he was straight up and really liked you - he would not be blocking your number (unless you suddenly turned into "stalker girl" and kept calling and texting him over and over again).
Truthfully, though, arguing so much just two months in? It's a headache for everyone. There's not enough shared history to withstand serious differences of opinion at that stage or to have the desire to work them out.
Time for you to move on. He's already let you know that he has.
Good luck.
2007-10-16 04:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After deleting all the stuff of the phone i don't expect he'll come back to you because he could easily find another girl(maybe not as good as you) but any man would get a fast girl if he doesn't know what a good girl is.
2007-10-16 01:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jr. m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did great and I am sure it bugged the heck out him that you didn't let it bother you. Something else is up with him and you don't need his stress in your life. Go find a real man that wants to treat you right. Good Job!!
2007-10-16 01:56:14 · answer #5 · answered by llamma2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a complete waste of space and youre better off without him! Go out and have some fun and forget about him. Well done for handling it so well.
2007-10-16 01:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lucie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you handled it extremely good but it much have been hard for you to live in different places.
I think it was easier because you were only together for 2months which isn't that long when you come to think of it.
but you don't need him in your life if you are both unhappy and him saying that it was a joke that he cared for you was horrible, people should play with others emotions like he did and I think you are better off with out him.
good luck.
2007-10-16 02:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sarah d!
You did excellently. It's good you realised you were being "played" in this situation, and were brave enough to take a stand, and look out for yourself.
I think you realise you deserve somebody alot better than this guy...and I think you have the brains and self respect to find him
Good luck with it all
:)
2007-10-16 01:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya did good. let him f%#k off! dont ever speak to him again even tho he WILL be runnin back-trust he WILL. know why? cuz you said "okay bye"-they cant handle it when a girl isnt all screwed up because of them--you've just made yourself intriguing to him. sooo...use it to your advantage,your boost of self confidence will inevitably bring you a REAL man.
2007-10-16 01:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by berlytea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well done chick, yes you did great, it sounds to me like he had already made his mind up,no one does that to someone you care about, let him lean the hard way, you walked away strong and that's the imprint that you will leave scared on his mind for ever yes my love FOREVER!! he will always remember your strength and words and prob regret it.
2007-10-16 01:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋