Am I wrong 4 doing this?

Question

sometimes when my boyfriend and i get into a little argument, i try 2 keep calm and explain how i feel but he gets loud and makes me not want 2 talk 2 him. so i take a break from him by not answerin his calls 4 a whole week and he hates it when i do that. he gets frustrated and says that im wrong 4 not talking 2 him. am i?

Answer 1

No you are not wrong in doing this...
Why not leave him... he is not the one for you

Answer 2

It's probably not helping you out any by doing this, but I know people who do it. Communication is key for any relationship. When you cut out the communication, you are basically as good as over. And he may be getting the idea that you no longer want to be with him. And he may go find someone else, thinking you're not interested. And remember, some people find it very offensive when others leave when they are trying to explian something, especially in an arguement.

What I would suggest doing is telling him that you dont want to argue with him when he gets loud, when you are trying to remain civil. And that if he does get loud, then you are going to leave or hang up and call him tomorrow when he calms down. But dont just leave him in the dark like that. You wont like the eventual outcome.

Answer 3

I say u r wrong for doing this. Maybe he was calling because he needed to talk, he felt bad, and guilty.but you not answering ur phone, it can only make matters worse. U should talk to him, anytime he is ready to talk, u should talk and vice versa. u have to find a way to get over the problem ASAP, not stretch it out, and let bad feelings get stronger when there is no need for that. If u really love ur bf, you should try something else, u already dont say much when u guys argue, which is a great sign about ur character. I think after a while, ur bf will understand that u dont' INTEND to argue. this is not ur intention, because he sees ur staying calm so that you wont anger him more.

hope that helps

Answer 4

Yes. It's childish to not answer the phone for a week because you are mad at him. He also needs to learn to stop yelling. I can see if it is getting too heated to take a break for an hour to give both sides an chance to cool down, but you keep the argument going for a week by what you do. that's no good either.
You two need to learn how to argue. Give each other 10 minutes of uninterrupted time to explain yourselves, instead of trying to talk over each other.

Answer 5

You are doing the best thing that you could. It's especially important to just walk away when you're having an arugument. There is always time to talk after everyone has calmed down and had time to think about whatever the argument was about. My son is 31 years old and when he and his fiance he says he just leaves the apartment to cool off. That way he won't say things he really doesn't mean because she is "pushing his buttons". That's what everyone does during an argument and again...it's best to just step back and away. Good luck and by not answering his calls you are showing that you are being strong.

Answer 6

I would love to know how old you both are?; his reaction is common for someone that has not been taught, very good tools to resolve an argument. Which is why he shouts at you to the point of your giving up. I bet one of his parents do the exact same thing. However your actions are also immature. You are game playing and that is not good for any relationship no matter what the age. You both need to learn new skills on problem solving. Otherwise you will both loose.....:-)

Answer 7

You are acting a little childish; but then again so is he. You both need to find a common ground and come to an understanding about how you two want to handle things when they get hard. Also, try not to argue over petty things; there are more important things in life. If you and him truly want to make things work; you will find a way. Good luck :D

Answer 8

You might want to not make it so long. Instead of a week try maybe 2 days. A week is really long time, I say make it shorter. That is a good idea to take a small break from him I'l give you that. But sometimes talking face to face and working things out right away is a better decision.

Answer 9

That's wise of you to step back when you're angry to calm yourself (so you wouldn't end up saying something you'll regret later!) but a week might be a little long and frustrating (for guys!) So maybe it's better (for you and your guy) to turn a whole week into a few days.

Answer 10

Ha ha the girl that corrected your spelling did it wrong!!! LOL, the cute spelling is annoying, but I think she meant to write for not four and to not two. Plus she misused quotation marks!! Very funny!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyways, just had to comment on that. OK, I think that a week is a little long to freeze him out, but if he yells all the time then maybe you should just get rid of him. Explain to him that it's very disrespectful of him to speak to you like that and it's not something that you are willing to put up with. If he wants to have a girlfriend who doesn't ignore him sometimes, then he needs to shape up!
Good luck!!

Answer 11

Although some would say a week is kind of long, I disagreee. No you are not wrong for it because ultimately you have to put your emotions in forefront because he isn't. When you are ready to deal with him you do it on your on terms not his, who puts a time limit on your feelings? Really he put himself in that situation. Who wants to be around a yelling boyfriend who also does not listen? The week is giving him plenty of time to take a breather and re-evaluate what it is he could've done differently and what you should do. If he continues, get rid of him...