I have went out with three guys in less than four months they have all had good things about them but they were all either needy or agressive? plz help me find that happy medium
2007-10-16 01:11:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to the one who is single plz add age?!
2007-10-16 01:18:03 · update #1
to tone and any others 16 almost 17 (will be in feb) and yes i have a pretty high set of standards i dont like to be pushed around i speak my mind when it is appropriate and cant stand to be put down i can do what i want and i dont ask for much but just RESPECT thats all and when i say"NO" that means NO thats all i ask is that to hard for anyone????? plz wb
2007-10-16 02:14:30 · update #2
can anyone help me with the age difference and what would be the age that could be the highest that i could date legally? I also have a problem with the last guy i went out with he tells me when he sees me that he loves me and he gives me hugs still and walks me to class and still treats me as his gf what do i do to tell him nicely that if he doesnt know how to treat me when i am with him how can he treat me so good when we arent? plz help me?????
2007-10-17 00:52:51 · update #3
Well.
You should take it more slowly.
You shouldn't go out with someone else right after you break up with a person.
Give yourself time to rest and evaluate what you did and did not like about your ex, and then if someone asks you out, or you ask them, then you can go into the relationship without any pre existing expectations for what they will or won't do, based on what your ex(s) did or didn't do.
And as far as age goes....
LEGALLY you can date someone who's over 13, but under 18.
Morally...I'd keep it over 15.
And just tell him, that if he can only be a good boyfriend when you are together, then he shouldn't try at all, because he's taking you for granted.
2007-10-16 13:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Starieberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah-ha! You see you asked for age..... now that lets my think you've possibly got a fairly high set of expectations. Best way I know, make friends, chat about a lot of stuff, find out if they are someone you like, care about, could fall in love with.... After that it's down to trust, respect, give & take & a bit willingness to have "an adventure" together. The rest usually follows like ABC Before you ask for age, post yours & then ask, take the first step & others will follow. Sometimes that's no the first question, but one further down the order. Especially in e-mail etc, it's harder to judge soemone in the written word. So know them first then ask, then decide if it's an issue. After all the higher you set the bar (not just age, but loads of other stuff too!), the harder it is to reach.... & that limits your available choice & therefore makes it more likely that you'll find there's only second bests available. I guess it's a bit like fishing, the bigger the net (the more open your mind is to things in life) the more you'll catch & the greater the choice. Bigger choice, easier to spot the real good ones form the not so good... just thoughts, ramblings & experiences!
2007-10-16 01:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by tone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no fool-proof way of finding the perfect guy or girl. Everyone tries to put on their best face on the first few dates. The best you can do is keep everyone you date at arms length on the first few dates until you find someone who closely matches someone you are looking for.
Don't be afraid to ask the personal or hard-hitting questions and see where they stand. If they can't nor won't answer those questions, then it is a good sign that they are hiding something or they are not for you. If you are not feeling it, then don't be afraid to walk away from bad dates. It is better to cut them loose for both you and the person you are dating's sake then to lead them on or spend any more time with the wrong ones sake.
That is why it is better to date several people casually at first until you find a keeper.
2007-10-16 01:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl i c were u r coming from it seems like there are very few boys out there that is not of themselves ya know i mean i am tryin to find the right person and not a person that uses the same pick up lines that other guys uses just to get closer to a females heaart and just leave her ya know. so kkep this in mind there is someone out there for everyone and so like i always say GOD will open your eyes to true luv when the time is right.
2007-10-16 01:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by LIL_DRUMMERGURL_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the weeding out process. That is, instead of looking for what you want, weed out what you don't want. Needy or aggressive guys are weeds; so don't waste time with them. Continue to weed them out, until Mr. Right comes along.
2007-10-16 01:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, good guys are not hard to come by. Just keep looking:)
2007-10-16 01:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by tom p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to kiss a LOT of toads before you find a good one!
2007-10-16 01:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be able to tell look for someone with morals and has a caring side
2007-10-16 01:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i m free... hehe..
wht else i cn say...
i m single dats it
2007-10-16 01:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by ☜☆☞ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find his personality
and his behaviour
2007-10-16 01:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by joben kunjumon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋