ugly? depressed? what shuold i do?

Question

i'm 16 .. yes still young but i never had any experience with dating/relationships. i feel and reckon i am too ugly =< my whole face looked demented and all outta place and i've got quite alota skin problems =[. my skin complexion is also shades darker than an average asian person. i've got tiny asain eyes and many scars on my face from pimples =[. i am overweight, but not obese.

i find that i can manage to get female friends BUT i can never manage to get a realtionship going =[. i find that they dnt mind my personality but my appearance is prolly what keeps them away from me =[

am i too ugly ? am i too negative? [i'm quite an enthusiastic person] i feel like i'm becoming me emo and unwanated these days =<. oh what do i do? and any advice will be very much appreciated


sorry for this essay xD

Answer 1

well not to scare you but I had my first relationship at 24, so you have plenty of time.

i think you should write a list of things you like and don't like about yourself.

then work on those you don't like, but take it easier - baby steps. If you are a little overweight, start an easy diet and do some sports.

if you have skin problems go to see a dermatologist. I had some big problems too, and I was very depressed about it, and tried using all kind of creams and lotions, but they had little effect. Then the doc prescribed meds to take, and it was all ok, and then I felt sorry for not going directly to him.

The scars can be removed through micro abrasion. Take a part time job to take the money.

As to the skin - darker in better nowadays ( and my nickname is Snow White, so I know what I am saying!)

And if you don't like your eyes, find yourself another feature you like and enhance it.

And don't be in a rush to do anything.

Good luck

Answer 2

You want a relationship but when you try and don't recieve you think you must be the problem so you find faults in your own appearance & personality. I suggest you look for ways to cover up the scars or at least minimise their appearance if they bother you that much. Be the enthusiastic, bright and bubbly person that you are and soon enough you'll be in a relationship. You've got your whole life ahead to be with someone. If you're friends all have boyfriends, be daring and do your own thing - some guy out there is definitely going to like the confidence you'll posess! Hang in there.

Answer 3

Stop feeling sorry for yourself is the first step. Stop telling yourself your ugly is the second step. Be proud of who you are. Stand up, be a man. Hold your head high, and you'll see a big, BIG, difference. Women don't like a coy, shy away, wimpy, oh im so pitiful kind of man for a relationship. Because they don't feel safe and secure. Also to, how can a women be proud of someone that's not proud of themselves.

Answer 4

it's not all about looks! it's personality too! (and urs is quite negative.) stop saying "i'm ugly" "my skin is too dark" "i have a bunch of scars" whiney whiney whiney! instead think about the posotive things about urself. r always smiling (good!) or r u always just sitting there like a bump on a log (bad)? smile more! it's a proven fact that when u smile more u make others smile and in turn makes u less stressed and/or negative. try to be more optimistic about urself.
best of luck!

Answer 5

first of all you are too negative, and second of all if you dont have any self love for your self then how can anyone else love you?

Believe in yourself and know that you are beautiful in your own way and that oneday some one will appreciate you.

i hope you listen to my advice hun :)