Need opinions/advice on my current relationship situation?

Question

I know I made a horrible mistake that I regret. I know that I should have told her this on day one! Last night, I told her that I had a son and I was married at one time. She was shocked! I don't blame her. She didn't get upset...she was disappointed. I told her that I didn't tell her in the beginning because I was not sure how she would have taken it. I stayed the night with her after telling her but she has not emailed me or anything like she use to. What are your opinons on this?

Answer 1

You're right you can't blame her. It's your fault anyway so be brave to face the consequences.

If I were her..I will do the same thing. Keep some distance from you and then decide if I still want to spend the rest of my life with you.

Maybe she's very confuse and she wants some space to think.
But this is for sure..If she lreally loves you..your revelation will never affect her and your relationship so let's wish for the best. Good luck^_^

Answer 2

As you know when you get into a relationship you have to be honest to them. As the sayings "Honesty is the best policy". It is true that you can't blame her if she is upset/disappoonted. Well the best thing to do is be patient and give her time to absord everything. If she really love you, eventually she will come to terms and you never know she might even want to get involve with your son. I just hope that you can both worked things out between you two. It is a shame to throw a relationship for a misunderstanding, I know it is a big deal as you have a son, as I said if she really love you she will understand why you did not tell her beforehand, as you were afraid that she will not be interested she knew that you have a son. Well good luck.

Answer 3

You should have been honest upfront. What is the sense of not telling the truth until you get to know someone and have feelings for them and then tell them the truth. She would have probably accepted it easier in the beginning. The best thing you can do now is to tell her you made a mistake by not telling her right away, but you would like a second chance and that you will be honest with her from now on...and mean it!

Answer 4

ya that is really a terrible mistake. you should have told her from the beginning that would have made you know if she really loves you or not.
had it been you told her in the beginning she wld have taken it or understand if she truly loves you but right know she will be disappointed and she will think that their are more things that you are still hiding from her.
the only thing i think you can do is explain 2 her y u did not tell her earlier and that u were afraid that you are going to loss her if she knows the truth.

make her know that you are not hiding any other thing from her and promise her you will never hide things like that from her again.

and lastly tell her if she truly loves you she should forgive you and forget it.

try it if shes understanding she will accept.

Answer 5

Give her time to think that one through. She may not be prepared to deal with you having a child. Some people aren't. Let her think it out and decide whether she can handle that situation. It is better that she leave if she can't. It would only cause numerous arguments.

Answer 6

Day 1) My bloke tells me he's just split with his "Girlfriend", but he's been married before & has 2 children with his wife {He was 18yrs older than me}
Day 180ish) {ie 6months later} He tells me his "Girlfriend" was his 2nd wife, they have a son together, he's also legally responsible for her 3 other children as he adopted them on their wedding day {Officaially not just by marrying her}. He tells me then that he only told me cos I have to go with him the next day to support him when he signs his Divorce Absoloute {Yes, we've been together for 6 months & legally he's still married}
Day 187) He tells me he's actually been married 3x, & has 11 children!!!!!

My q, how much HAVEN'T you told her???