how do you feel when somebody points out mistake in your grammer rather than listening to you?

Question

Dave, you have shown the same attitude... pointing out a typing mistake... I don’t mind... better listen to me and analyze the problem... that may help you...

If they are parents or teachers it's OK...
nevertheless , those who have nothing to do with us... Like some body in the crowd or in shops / restaurants... then are they losers...?

My question is on behalf of well educated people... proficient in English speaking... sometimes you come across people who have habit of FINDING FAULTS WITH YOU...

Answer 1

The other day one of my classmate whoz studying with me in a course pointed out that my grammar is bad.
Well she asked me initially from which medium i did my schooling.I replied that i studied from an english medium school.
Further she said from my appearance it dosent look as if i studied frm an english med school.
Well if she was so concerned that i should improve my grammar it was fair enough but she initiated the conversation taunting me by asking this weird question which was really bad.
Well i dont think that i speak so absurd that the person listening me would feel distracted and by the way she was the first person in my life to correct me on my grammar.
You cant keep ur calm coz certain things come at ur way when u arent prepared for it.
Strangers when they tell you to improve you come to know whether their intentions were good or bad by their way of speaking.
So avoid bad comments made by people which come in the way of ur growth.Some people say such things coz they are being jealous of you.

Answer 2

Irritated. It probably means the person really isn't paying attention to what you are saying, but rather the words that you are saying. I have to admit, when I was in college I was bad about this, until my husband made the same point you did.

Not only was I giving the impression that they were unintelligent, but also that what they had to say didn't matter since all I could do was point out their mistakes.

I have since been practicing not speaking unless asked. It's worked for me. Maybe you should tell the person that you are offended, and talk it over.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

It's bad etiquette to direct someone's attention to their lack of correct grammar in any written communication.

You could compare it to saying to someone in a restaurant that they've used the wrong cutlery for a a particular meal.

It's rude and bad manners.

I always listen to anyone and see beyond the typos and spelling errors because Yahoo is not a grammatical correctional facility.

Knowing that the average Australian has the reading level of a 10 year old, I always make allowances for people who were not able to have the same level of education that I received.

Answer 4

Dear Brother, one of the most essential principles of communication is to remove all those things from your communication which distracts the attention of the listener from your message. Just imagine friend, if you wear clothes which stink, speak in voice like a parrot and continously scratch your head as you talk, do you think anyone will be able to concentrate on the message you are trying to convey. Thus, grammar is no exception. If you speak with grammatical mistakes, the listener will get distracted by them. Then, eventhough your message may be good but it will not be conveyed effectively to the listener because his mind will be occupied with your grammatical mistakes.

Answer 5

It sounds rude but that's just ego (of whoever feels offended. It's good they're correcting you so you don't make the same mistake so they're actually helping you. I find grammar really interesting & I find that I notice people make mistakes but I don't correct them because I think they'll find out in their own time. Maybe take an interest in our language and you'll find more than you thought? But anyway I personally find it rude so I never do it since it makes me feel stupid and it makes me think the other person is obnoxious, ignorant and impolite.

Answer 6

Never, but that is because I know my spelling and grammar are atrocious, and pointing out a spelling or grammar mistake is usually just because you don't have a valid response :D (unless of course it is something so bad you can't even decipher what they are trying to say.)

Answer 7

It depends on your English speaking experience. If you haven't been speaking it for too long, then they can do it politley. Otherwise, it should be done politeley anyway. With sincerity. No one is perfect, and we would hate any one who was, which is why everyone is loved!
It's also OK to be corrected. People take you more seriously if you accept that you're wrong, but it's most annoying when you do it but they still dont.

Answer 8

I don't feel bed! but i take it as a guidelines or suggestion for improvement!! and i always try to speak English of educated level of speaking, I don't like to being a purist. To stick to the grammer is not necessary, But it should be spoken in educational or formal level of meeting or colloquial.

Answer 9

better try to avoid mistakes while writing and speaking. once you make a reharsel from your end then put it to the required person. feel that the opportunity came to know more knowledge. and cannot hope for longtime that the opportunity will come. try to improve yourself by reading newspapers. nowadays nobody correct in grammar they are also like us but they had some experience in the same. best of luck.

Answer 10

if they do it once or twice, I'm okay with it, if they do it all the time and they are a good friend I would say ":Listen my grammar may not be perfect, I'm sure you aren't perfect either, so stop correcting my grammar, it is annoying me. either accept my imperfections or talk to someone else."

My Dad was an English major in college so when I was young he did it all the time, I guess I got used to it.