Im muslim and i like a muslim girl, would it be wrong for me to talk to her? I like her alot and i dont know if she likes me back, but what if i end up marrying her there are not many muslim girls for me to choose from iwould like to stay in the arab girls, i do not have her number or email nor do i want it. Is it laso worng for me to allow my futrue wife to have the choice of covering or not covering?
2007-10-15 20:39:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I did not say i want her to be my "future wife" but i cant seem to get her off my mind and her dad doesnt think the the "best" guy around.
2007-10-15 20:52:27 · update #1
Well i'm very bored and just want to get some info cause i dont like talking to my dad about this kind of stuff.
2007-10-15 20:54:40 · update #2
Hey hey hey, some time back u had question regarding puberty & now you are in romantic phase? Huh ????
A nice suggestion for you dude, probably you are still a kid. dont a make a mess of your life. Leave all this love stuff, it hardly succeeds & get educated about your religion, that will help you prosper in this life as well as in the life after death.
Now coming to your question, yes it is wrong for you to talk to her. She doesnt know you, nor you know her. its the love/lust thats making you interested in her.
"Is it laso worng for me to allow my futrue wife to have the choice of covering or not covering?" -- First grow up & then find a bride, then get married, then you ask her to cover up!!!! get it!!!
EDIT : When did I say, she should be your future wife. Infact, you should be speaking to your dad about this. He can really help you out.
2007-10-15 20:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by shiraz a 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
salam bro
I'm a Muslim girl
well if a guy likes me he comes and tell me
but since u are Arab i think u know this sentence
" enter the houses from it's doors not from it's windows"
od5olo elbyoo men abwabha :)
u have really to do it step by step
and if ur goal is really marriage u can go 2 her house and be totally free to talk 2 her there if u intentions r good
be careful...DO NOT follow the western ways of marriage..after all 65% of their marrieges end up with DIVORCE while muslims only 10%
THINK HARD..tensash el7aram wel 7ala a5oy :)
Proud Muslim Girllll =]
2007-10-16 03:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ali, what you said was sick. You simply suggested he marries her, and then divorce her if she is not suitable. As if her future, her chastity, her body, her feelings are not important and she should get dumped whenever he feels like walking out. Where did you go to school? And this is 2007. There is nothing wrong with him talking to her, why get the father involved when he just wants to talk, nothing else?
And to the one asking the question, there is nothing wrong with talking to a girl. The Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) encouraged such conversations in order to get to know one another but under certain circumstances. You have to approach her respectfully and do not invade her personal spare. 2nd, you are getting way ahead of yourself. Do you also need to be reminded that this is 2007, almost '08? Girls, even Muslim ones, don't like to be approached by guys who have marriage on their minds. Muslim women are very intelligent in case you didn't know that. They like to pursue their education, and like educated successful men. How can you walk up to a total stranger with such hopes of marriage? I don't understand why some Muslims think it's not ok to talk to someone b4 you're married to them, then end up divorcing eachother after they see eachothers differences. Maybe if they were intelligent enough to get to know one another, then divorce would most like not be in the picture. You make Islam look like it's a big bully with an iron fist over your emotions. Approach her, but please get the thought of marriage out of your mind. Know her for who she is, what she likes, doesn't like, and don't judge her character just because she wants to or doesn't want to use head covering. Islam is not just focused on women who cover. I know a lot of women who wear hijab and do other crazy things behind their families backs. What about her nature? Maybe she doesn't need to wear Hijab in order to be a good Muslim.
2007-10-16 04:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My dear brother, If you love this girl, then why dont you get married. Its better to get married than to have contact with a Na Mahram woman (Women who is permitted in marriage).
You, as a husband should ask your wife to cover up as its best for her and you. You dont want men to be lusting after your wife do you. If she doesnt then pray that Allah guides her but donot force things on her.. Some men in thier Zealousness force thier wives to cover up and go as far as to beat them. That is wrong. Do it step by step and then have patience. Its best to tell you future wife beforehand that you want her to coverup, if she doesnt want to then maybe reevaluate it coz she is going to be the mother of your children insha llah and you want youe children to be righteous not corrupted.
2007-10-16 03:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sure are a romantic.
why don't you want her number?
You want her for your "future wife" and you never even talk to her?
Dude, just be a MAN. Woman like confidence. They want someone to love and treat them as a woman. From start to finish: Talk to her and be sweet. Tell her why you like her. Find out all her favorite things. Be romantic, find out her favorite color and send flowers that match...sing her her favorite song....ect ect..
Show her that you would take care of her and love her forever.
That she is your best friend and your queen (your woman should be your queen, and you should want to be her Knight ...not just a King).
That is what love is about.
Not goofy impersonal rituals and traditions, followed by bossing her around and then just dump her if she does not wind up pleasing you enough. You keep that attitude and you will find yourself alone, as as real man is treating this girl proper
2007-10-16 03:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You have to talk to her father. If her father agrees, she cannot turn you down. You can divorce her later if you find that she is not suitable.
You have to insist on covering, its stated in the Quran. Because of that, there can be no exception.
Honey: You don't know islam at all. Please go read the Quran and some of the Sahih hadiths like Bukhari, Tabari, Ishaq, Abu Dawud and Muslim.
2007-10-16 03:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by ali 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
im muslim, and there aint nothing in our religion that says its wrong to talk to the opposite sex. Go and talk to her man!
2007-10-16 03:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
agree with ali...
2007-10-16 03:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by bluesk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋