How do i ? it hurts me when im am taken lightly when all i do is care for them and asks nothing in return
It hurts me that i still have care for my ex`s
It hurts me that i love my family and not appreciated because of it
It hurts me that I care for the womens wellbeing and say no to sex when i know its gonna affect them,it hurts me that they dont understand that i somehow become the jerk
It hurts me that I be fair to all and in return i realise there is no such thing as fairness to me
It hurts me that what i do in a relationship benefits both but all she does is tell me im not enough,and try to change me
It hurts me that people are not as real in their public life where as i am honest in my life only be taken as a weakness and to be used
It hurts me that I love a women for what she is only to be judged by her on how much i make,how i look,and all the things on the outside,
How can i stop caring ? I cant because it hurts, it keep hurting me
2007-10-15 20:32:16 · 12 answers · asked by Hindu-Atheist-Rebel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're really sincere then you shouldn't let it hurt you. I mean, you do the best you can. Why not be satisfied with the effort? Don't make yourself the victim. If you're going to be hurt then you should just enjoy your life and quit being a baby with people. I don't mean to be rude about it, but you're whining too much. Either feel good for the effort you make or just forget about your clingy caring and have a good time... party up.
2007-10-15 20:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well - you can't entirely. But what helps is to have POWER of your own. When you are all worried about what people think of you, it's because you feel powerless - so other's opinions really count for a lot. So what would make you feel more powerful? Mostly it's having some area where you have learned a lot - whether it's your job - carpenter or mechanic or salesman - or in a hobby - like model airplanes or Central American Archeology. You need to find something which interests you - is fun - and you become an expert in that. At least that's one area where YOU control things - then it's easier to admit that you still might feel powerless in other areas. But at least you have one.
2016-05-22 22:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find the right woman. If you are a caring and loving person then hopefully you should attract the right woman but sadly this is not always enough for some people.
You should talk to the people who mistreat you and tell them how you feel. This may shock them into realising how selfish they are.
Dont change the way you are but know that it is safe for you to tell people when they are unfair to you.
Relationships are a two way thing if you are always giving and do not receive then there is something wrong, not always easy to admit but people can take and take and take and not realise that this is wrong SO point it out and stand up for yourself once in a while. Dont stop caring but do start talking to those who you care about. Good luck to you.
2007-10-15 20:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its the way you look at it, its great you care but its not right to be hurt by it. I think you should talk to the people that you care for and explain it to them. But also go to a counselor, it may be slightly more than caring, and even if it isn't its always a good way to get these things off your mind.
Good luck Hon, i wish there were more caring men like you :)
2007-10-15 20:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by ShapeyR289 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its in your sweet spirit and heart. I have the same problem. I really don't know the best answer, however the spirit is a gift that doesn't need to be taken for granted. Live life and love..
2007-10-15 20:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Life is good 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the harsh reality in life is people dont care not everyone is brought up with such strong values its a dog eat world im afraid ... and you mustnt let it dampen your beliefs just be the better person
2007-10-15 21:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by jackie n 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
eerrrrmmm....
no offence. but umnnnn... ummnn
that was like 3 mins of self-centred totalli self-absorbed
"oh ima so soreness, plz pretty please pity me"
live up to urself like a man and grow some balls.
then u'll realise that you wont get hurt coz ul be so damn attractive people either wont want to, or theyd be to scared to.
2007-10-15 20:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by jason D.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you and I, we are in the exact same boat. I wonder this every single day. I hate having all of these morals and values when no one else around me really gives a damn. When you know the answer to how to stop caring, please, please let me know. Good luck to you.
2007-10-15 20:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little advice my brother gave me.
just gotta live life as fukk it!
just brush it off.
do it. brush it off.
everytime you're hurt,mad,sad, etc. just Brush it off and make it rain.
2007-10-15 20:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound really nice, you need someone who appreciates you and your kindness, don't change, more people should be like you find someone decent it really isn't you its her
2007-10-15 20:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋