I am a single mother, and my best friend is about as opposite as she can be from me. I'm making a toast at her wedding as the maid of honor in about a week, and was thinking of saying something like, "I remember when Rachel got home from the mission trip her and Jake both went on in January of 2006. She squealed about him for about an hour while I cleaned out my refridgerator, and I remember thinking, "This guy is the one. She's going to get married first! But hey, I had a child out of wedlock first, so I guess we're even." I'm thinking it's too tacky. What do you think? Any advice?
2007-10-15 19:49:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I wouldn't use that exact toast, but I can tell you that you're moving in the right direction. I was faced with writing my first toast for my very best friend just last summer. Honey, I sympathize with you!!! I then realized that I was trying too hard to make a speech that would impress all those people that were attending the rehearsal dinner, and it meant nothing to me.... I found the internet, and wedding sites to be extremely helpful. I more or less came up with a bunch of quotes from famous people on getting married. It was a huge hit, not to mention, tasteful. It all comes down to this... Your friend chose YOU as her maid of honor. This is your time to ( in front of many many people) tell her that she's going to live happily ever after. Not to mention, as hard as it may be.... try not to bring your own circumstances (other than being the "leading lady") into it... as this day is all about her.. after all, she chose you for a reason.. this day is all about the love.
2007-10-15 20:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by christina t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first bit is nice.
The thing where you knew this was the one is cool and so is her getting married first - that's good friend stuff!
Mentioning the child is a no-no:
Your friends marriage is a happy occasion. A child born out of wedlock is socially frowned upon, whether you like it or not. By saying that you are 'even' you are lifting your child up on the back of her marriage. Also, you are casting a shadow on the wedding.
That is a very, very inappropriate thing to do.
A child out of wedlock is not appropriate to joke about.
Also, don't mention your own child at all. It has no place in someone else's wedding toast.
2007-10-15 22:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is much too tacky. You could say the part about "This guy is the one," but leave out the part about having a child out of wedlock. Even though you share that with her, it is not something to bring up at her wedding. You may offend her family, embarass her, and worst of all, hurt her child. Leave it out.
2007-10-15 20:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
This is inappropriate as it is two personal and could be offensive to some people. You should leave in the part about knowing that he was the one. And any reference to yourself should be removed as this is their day. Maybe something like:
I remember when they got home in January I could tell that he was the one just from the way she was talking. May you both always feel that same excitement and affection for each other for the rest of your lives.
2007-10-16 03:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's tacky too.
While Best Man Toasts are usually tacky .. and they're funny because their tacky..
Maid of Honor Toasts are opposite.. they are sentimental and full of emotion.
Let her know what a good friend she is, and how happy you are that she's found true love. That's all you really need to say.
Don't be funny.. just be sincere.
2007-10-15 21:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the primary one was once humorous...the moment perhaps offensive. I'm keen on humorous marriage ceremony speeches, or else they get so uninteresting. But simply ensure it is not filled with within jokes or different folks may not get them, and it simply turns out kinda impolite! Good good fortune, it feels like you are going to have a exceptional speech
2016-09-05 10:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I wouldnt say it because of family being there. although it is funny its not appropriate at a wedding a little too personal
2007-10-15 19:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad choice!
And bad grammar here---
"mission trip her and Jake both went on "---
Should be "she and Jake went on"
2007-10-15 20:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would think of something better . In fact please dont say that.
2007-10-15 19:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋