My daughter and her friends were invited to a Hannah Montana concert to celebrate one of her friend's birthday. The girl's parents bought the tickets and I assume they will be going. My daughter is the only one from the group not going because it's on a school night (Wednesday) and the concert starts at 7 pm. She's now being ostracized for not being there for her friend's birthday. Should pre-teens be allowed to go to a pop concert on a school night? My daughter has no problem with the decision of not going. To make her friend feels better, she has arranged to celebrate the "special day" with her friend separately. However, her friend started to write some hurtful emails which made my daughter feel like she has to defend her reasons for not going. Such drama.
2007-10-15 19:47:13 · 17 answers · asked by sau 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If it were Van Halen or something- yeah. But NOT for a Hannah Montana concert, no way!!!
2007-10-15 19:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I completely respect your decision for not allowing your daughter to attend the concert. If I were you, I would have done the same thing. If the concert was on a Saturday night, then I would definitely let her go. However, because it was a school night, she needed to have a good rest for the next day. On top of everything, you daughter did celebrate the special day on a separate day. She didn't completely ignore her friend's birthday. I understand hurtful emails is not something that her friends should be writing, but you can explain to your daughter that she didn't do anything wrong. =)
2007-10-16 03:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Adn's Mommie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well Its only one night, and there will be parental supervision. It is a special occasion. Hanna Montana for a 12 year old girl is BIG. Its a shame that they dont do it on a weekend, that would only make too much sense. I would let her go, Its only one night, Dont let your daughter miss out on the fun her friends will be having. Just make sure she knows what the consiquences of staying up so late on a school night will be. making sure shes up and ready for school in the am, with her homework compleated. I dont know what time era you grew up in but for her ill bet going to see Hannah is equivilent to a Duran Duran concert when I was 11/12. good luck to you.
2007-10-16 03:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is drama for Tweens! They aren't into global domination just yet...Okay, I'd say no in general, but to be able to go to a Hannah Montana concert is such a huge event that your daughter's friends may be feeling like she doesn't want to have those things in common with them. And, of course, some are just being immature, stuck up kids. Either way, they will all grow out of it. The hurtful emails should be discussed with the parents of the children writing them. It's time for them to have a discussion about core values and respecting friends.
It speaks volumes about your values that your daughter agrees with your rules. Most parents don't realize that children actually want their parents to give them appropriate discipline. Congratulations.
2007-10-16 03:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Social status is pretty much the issue here,not morals.
The child would be seen as an outsider due to that choice, which could indeed fuel an outsider view from her peers. Remember your youth, then multiply the stress you had by 10 and you are right about accurate to todays youth. Anything that helps them fit in and get ahead, so they can get the rewards of the education system would be a wise investment. Just keep things under control, It was Hannah Montana not motley crew.
2007-10-16 02:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by blackbane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's 7 p.m. not 10 p.m. and to put yourself in the shoes of a pre-teen...IT'S HANNAH MONTANA!!! i couldn't care less and I do not have a pre-teen, I do however have an 18 year old daughter who enjoys that show and would love to go, she tried to get tickets so she could take her younger cousin who is 8 (huge fan) but it didn't happen. My 18 yr old aspires to be a pre-school teacher and relates to adolescents. all that said... I would allow her to go, and make sure she was up for school the next day and to bed early the next night to catch up on any missed sleep. while you explain she is dealing well with peer pressure/attitudes now...high school will only be harder to dismiss...setting limits now will allow her to enjoy "a concert" and deal by sacrificing another activity later. It's a lesson in prioritizing. but you are the parent and your judgment is best. this in only my opinion.
2007-10-16 03:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think about it she would probably go to bed at like 10 pm or something right??? so it might be a bit later when she got home from the concert I see no harm in it as long as she has good grades and it isn't like it is every night she does this. Think of the thousands of other teeny bopper fans that will be there on a school night. Good luck
2007-10-16 02:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by smooches986 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that letting her go to the concert would have been bad. The worst that could happen is that she would be a little tired in class next day. That seems worth it to let her have a good time since it is not an everyday thing. But it is pretty low for her own friends to criticize her.
2007-10-16 03:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Apple Freak 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This depends on what is important to you and your family. This depends on what you're trying to instill in your child. If academics are more valuable than good times, then they definitely shouldn't go. If you want to raise kids who know how to prioritize then no - they shouldn't go. It's sad that her friends have to make her feel like she has to defend herself. It's okay to have slightly different priorities than your friends, at least it should be. But at this age - the girls tend to be so clique like - to where they all have to do the same things or they don't fit in. I'd say school is definitely more important. I wouldn't even take my daughter to a family birthday party on a weekday school night. I've made my own educational and career mistakes and I'm going to do everything possible to instill the right values and work ethic in my kids.
2007-10-16 02:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It really depends where it is and what time it ends but the child that is writing hurtful emails is she the one that invited her because if she is than it's not worth going if her friend is putting peer preasure on her by writing emails like that.
2007-10-16 03:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋