What women think of younger men... to date or not to date?

Question

So here's is my thought process. I find it quite difficult to establish a serious relationship with older women. I'm an attractive 21y/o male that has an eye for attractive older women (25-35)

***NOTE: I'm not saying mid-20s is old in any way, just that majority of women in mid-20s have mature mind-set, which is what I like.***

The trouble is not approaching them but it's holding a conversation. The intro is easy but when it comes to "what do you do for a living?" they seem to lose interests so easily. Why is this? Apparently financial stability plays a larger role than expected, am I not right?

What I'm asking is ladies, what is a guy who knows what he wants w/ good looks and a great personality to do, to have a serious relationship with an older woman if it's not money?

Insights greatly appreciated and perhaps even take this into further discussion..

Answer 1

Of course, financial stability plays a huge role. Women between the ages of 25-35 are in their prime baby-making years and look for potential partners that they feel will be good providers for a family. At 21, you're just not there yet. I don't know what to tell you to make it better right now although as you get older and more established it should become easier. I don't want to imply that we are gold-diggers or anything like that, we just want to be confident that if we entered into a serious relationship that led to marriage and family that our man could take care of us.

Answer 2

I personaly love older girls they know how to keep a man happy because they know what men want they got us figured out head to toe at their age. They also find us sexualy apealing because we can last longer in bed and keep up. Most men lose drive when they get older and the amount of test drops like a big hit to a company competitor. The competition is the younger stronger more agile men. They can do things in bed most men over 50 cant anymore. Women want to be satisfied in bed just as much as us younger guys want an expierienced woman to show us how its done. So Im a cougar hound because I love to have someone whos willing to be old fasioned and well mannered. Not like these 19 22 year olds who are fixed on their phones more than the actual date itself. It pisses me off when a girl dates her phone instead of me than to actualy have an intellegent appropriate conversation one on one.

Answer 3

Dude, I know exactly what you mean, but older women aren't hard to crack once you understand their mindset. Women who are 35 and up secretly want to get down with a young dude, but won't admit it because its still taboo and they don't want to explain how they're not exactly robbing the cradle. And in your case, even the women in the 28 - 34 age group wants to be able to tell her girlfriends "a few years ago, I had me a 21 year old boy toy." Women who are 25 - 27 are in your age group, so they shouldn't have sh*t to say.

Understand that its all about image with women, but I did previously say that they love younger men, but they don't want just any younger man. They want younger man who's going to have sex with her a few times a month without doing the relationship thing and more importanty, without the dude getting all clingy. Its is so important when dealing with older women that you project yourself to be mentally mature for your age, but at the same time be a 21 year old when you get her in bed. Relationships with these women are out the question though.

So when you're approaching older women, make sure you're dressed like a mature man. A dress shirt with some slacks will suffice. Sweaters and sportscoats are also excellent. Quit dressing up in jeans and t-shirts like your fellow 21 year olds do. The reason dressing the part is so important is because she's going to conjure up her image of you through your appearance. When she envisions you of a mature stature, she's not going to ask those loaded questions because she's going to assume that she needs to get on YOUR LEVEL. Have a short conversation with her, exchange numbers, call her up, set up a date (very breif phone conversation), then when you're out on a date, ask questions about herself so you can get her to talk about her favorite person: HER! If she's talking about herself, she won't have time to ask you those loaded questions that you dread. Now you're in!


Chi-Town Flawless
author of,
The Nice Guy's Manual on How to Stop Simpin and Attract the Woman That You Really Want
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Answer 4

Its not money its just that most women around or at that age are looking to settle down or at least find a man who is stable enough to not only take care of himself, his home (apartment, house etc), groceries, but to also take care of the bill on the date (does not mean he will be paying). It is also that most women in that age group have a college degree and want a sophisticated man. Unless you can show/prove that you are out of luck.

Answer 5

If you are going after cougars you are not going after your equal. You are going to be more of a plaything for them.

You have to be complimentary to them, focus on them, and make it all about them. Listen to what they have to say and ask them more questions. Keep it sweet and charming. Ask them to dance with you. Kiss their hands.

Keep the questions about their jobs out of it until you are dating. You are young and are still very much in the process of building a career, so that needs to be minimized.

Pick up some pointers from some of those trashy romance novels that women devour.

Answer 6

a hot body and a sense of humor. if ur younger u should play ur immature card and try to make her laugh as much as possible.

Answer 7

Be yourself.