2007-10-15 18:32:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
People see what they want to see.
Bottom line for whatever reason you have seen bad in these people...
go home.. and take a sheet of paper.. write down their name. and then write down 10 good or positive things about them.
Those things can be as simple as "he dresses nice" to as complex as "He is a devout in his religion."
Okay..??
Then whenever you're around that person.. and you start to think bad or negative of them... start thinking of good things about that person there.. maybe they said thank you to someone.. maybe they smell nice that day.. maybe they have pretty color eyes.. whatever..
but this technique will force you to concentrate on traits that person has that you do find becoming.. as opposed to negative ones.
Bottom line is this.. everyone has good things and bad things about them.. but we all see what we want to see..
and bad is easier to recognize than good.. so force yourself to recognize positive things about the people you don't like.. and in time you'll learn to appreciate them.
2007-10-15 20:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple.If you just accept a law of nature that between two extremes there is a vast space that forms a major part of it.Like wise,within humans,there shall be few on the extremes of Good and Bad and majority being just plain and ordinary.This majority group in the middle are a combination 'of some good and some bad',ie like you and me.And we aren't that Bad,are we?
2007-10-15 18:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most loving thing you can do is ask people questions that will make them talk....and then sit back and listen.
Hearing a personal story will help you recognize each persons uniqueness and plight.
2007-10-15 18:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as Mother Theresa.
Love love love, whether or not it is returned.
That is the single gift of God that cannot be taken from you, and will give you utmost peace throughout your entire life - and leave you fulfilled in your old age.
2007-10-15 18:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by 98765 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the opposite problem...I always thought everyone was good...and was shocked when they turned out to be bad!!! lol
2007-10-15 18:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change your opinion. the way is to accept people with thier own characters.If you accept people as it is with thier own characters you will never get disterbed in any way.
2007-10-15 18:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋