Do most women in my age range still want sex? The women I date are fairly traditional and not into early or promiscuous sex, so I can put off telling them for awhile. But I want to be fair to them. I said "partially impotent" earlier because I think I can perform in some rare situations, but not often and not without physical help from a woman. Do you think women my age are willing to receive oral sex from a man in my situation as a substitute for the real thing? Any ideas will be appreciated.
2007-10-15 18:08:50 · 20 answers · asked by don1862 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is interesting how life changes. When I was younger I always had a sex drive that seemed stronger than any woman I dated (or married). Now I am embarrassed about not being able to keep up.
2007-10-15 18:34:59 · update #1
Sure plus you have hands and fingers right?
I think you need to tell them when you are thinking you will have sex soon; after you know each other; before the day or night.
Can I assume you have seen a doctor about this recently? There are various new treatments... :)
2007-10-15 18:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by SC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be honest and tell them. But I would put off telling them until you are sure that sex may happen. Most women of that age group still want sex. Of course sex isnt just intercourse, it can be oral or just stimulation with fingers or a vibrator.
Someone who cares a lot about you will not let this be a problem.
Also is it possible for you to use viagra. If it is then speak with your doctor. Also see a urologist about the impotence.
Good Luck
2007-10-16 01:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lynda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 55 and speaking for myself, Many of women this age are maniacs and other do not care. So you need to find out how they feel about it. by the time of the 3rd date, they subject of sex can come up and that may be an ok time to bring up the subject. If you are willing to give oral sex that should be brought up at that time. If it does not seem like the right time to bring it up at that time wait until the time is right.Get to know the woman first.
2007-10-16 01:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by littlerascal711 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking there are HUGE differences between 45 and 60 year old women. Most women I know in their 40's ----even the traditional ones---- are more into the real thing than they were when they were younger. I think it is only fair to be honest right up front.
2007-10-16 01:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to speak up as soon as it appears that the action is about to get hot and heavy. Do try some of the ED medications now available, and if that fails, there is an outfit called Boston Medical Group which specializes in such problems. I have no data on their competency or success rate.
2007-10-16 01:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure they'll be very happy with you as long as you are honest. some of the impotent stuff is about not feeling comfortable or secure. with the right woman, all things are possible. i'd just take my time and wait until and if you need to bring up any impotence problems. you might not have any!
2007-10-16 01:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyEddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them ANYTHING. YOU don't want to lose very "special friendships." There is no need to run yourself down with these folk. Let the people know that you are "divine" and well worth being with. A lot of women don't like such immediate business with the "sexual" bouts. They want to feel that they are going to be respected. If you succeed, YOU will be the "man of choice" by many, dear friends who happen to respect and love you as a person. Remember this, What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. I wish you well. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-10-16 01:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will just have to find out from the woman involved.
Your question is too subjective, as I feel everybody is different, with different partners.
You may find exactly the one that "does it" for you, and you don't need any help.
Think positive and you never know what will happen.
Everybody is different in their desires and preferences, so you will just have to ask them at the appropriate time, or they will tell you.
2007-10-16 01:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, women are usually open about oral sex. Most women will understand about your situation and help you out. Have you tried Viagra or any other male enhancement?
2007-10-16 01:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by TechGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the women you date are already into their menarche! You say you are partially impotent, then congrats, your girl friends are probably fully impotent. Instead of thinking when you will tell them, think when you will hear from them that they are impotent.
In any case, it is better to be truthful in the beginning.
2007-10-16 01:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋