Is it possible to be in a relationship where you cannot trust?
I have trust issues and I know that it requires trust to be in a relationship. Thing is, that I've been let down too many times in my past. Too many wounds have been created and I just don't feel like I can deal with the pain anymore. Honestly I don't think that I can be in another relationship. I am currently 20 years old and I trust absolutely no guy and no one overal
2007-10-15 17:44:29 · 7 answers · asked by . 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is very possible to have been in a relationship in which you have lost your feeling of trust. Trust is a very valuable gift that is given and when that wall crosses apart in so many ways , it is very difficult to give that trust to anyone else. Yes you may still be in that relationship and keep hearing promises and try to believe and trust until the same conditions return,and it hurts so much, Betrayal is hard to deal with. Relationships can only take but a small amount of that denial and then it hurts so verymuch and is dificult to decide what you may have to deal with. It is not uncommon to have been in a relationshion a long amount of time and they abuse that love and trust. You seem to be a very highly intelligent person.You do need to trust yourself , relax a litte in yourself.Try to get away from the stress for a small amount of time, just to sort through and learn to understand what you are going to try and work positively through the reaction. It is a confusing, hurtful time right now. I am so sorry for your pain and it is going to be difficult to continue to do the same thing over and over always.You are young. Some people will tell you to go on and get someone else and things will turn aroung. Only thing is; you are 20 years in this relationship right away Trust that has been abused and taken for granted hurts desparately. I will try to help you and wish so much for you to get the answers that will help you. With trust I have learned that is one of the most important type of a lifetime relationship.Would you please realise that trust is one of the most important parts of a loving relationship necessarity in your lives together. There is absolutely no law that proves that you have to go from one relationship to another one right away. You have alot of hurt to deal with and become the individual that you want to become. Trust has to be earned and along with that comes respect and other parts of a relationship. You seem like you are in a heavy mode of depression and lonliness. But I promise you that life will become honourable and worthwhile to be with someone you care for. That is the rest that we all experience. Some worse than others. But, I promise you that you will learn of someone that will be there for you and no one else. If you just take your time and get to learn a new person. There are some very good guys out there and when you are ready you will find that person. He/she will be trusteworthy,kind, and true. Take your time, learn to restful , laid back, and listen. Give him a try. Maybe you will learn that he will be there. Trust your judgement you will be surprised and learn of what you will really see. There are good people that care and you will be able to determine one from another. Sleep well and love will be there for you. Do not rush. Take care and do not shut your heart out. You are young but you also have so much to offer to a person that is good and enough to make a partner very appreciative of you, your trust, and your precious love. Take time and learn your love is worth waiting for. Take care and may you find the emotional support that you are interested in and deserve. Do not give up on love. It is so worth trying.So much that you may have a wonderful relationship with and will love you ever and ever do much. Take your time and take care of yourself. Best Wishes always,PgB
2007-10-15 19:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it really isn't possible to be in a good relationship if you don't trust any one. Relationships are built on trust.
Would you be happy if you were always wondering what someone was up to all the time? Would you be happy if you thought the only reason someone was with you was that they wanted something from you?
20 is far to young to give up on trusting people. I think if you start very slowly in a relationship, you could learn to trust.
Allot of relationships end, and you will have to learn from your mistakes.
I have been through some very terrible things in my life, abuse both mentally and physically. Every time I was hurt, every bruise and broken bone taught me what I didn't want in a relationship. Finally I got to the point were I wouldn't accept these things in my life, and I found a great man. We have been together for 7 years, and I am happier than I have ever been in my life.
2007-10-15 18:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you rush into a relationship often times you don't know the important parts about that person until you are stuck (via papers).
It sometimes takes months for the "person within" to show itself, for the "true colors" to finally manifest, and that usually happens after so many months, and so that's why it's so difficult to negate all of that time spent, but once a huge fight or distrust errupts, it will usually become a regular thing.
2007-10-15 17:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but it will be at a cost for you. The way you feel now, is what you will continue to feel until you let go of your old baggage.
Here's where I say get some counseling to help you let go of your fears of relationship let downs. If you don't figure it out you will sabotage all and any furture relationships.
2007-10-15 18:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Trust is the foundation of a relationship. If you can't trust the person, then the relationship won't last anyway.
2007-10-15 17:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you can stay in a realionship like this its very possible...but if you don't learn to trust someone you are cheating yourself.....If we don't face our pains and our fears they control us and we get cheated life is full of people who can't be good but life is also full of people who are good...take time and heal then wipe yourself off and go on or be alone until u die
2007-10-15 17:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by nurses_givetlc 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no trust equals no relationship
2007-10-15 17:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by princess yahoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋