I've been told that if God really wanted me to be in a boy-girl relationship, I would eventually do so on his timing. I shouldn't "chase after" the guy I like or make excuses like “Oh, since I see him so much at this one thing, that must mean that God is telling me to get closer to him”. How do I know it's the right "timing" then if I'm not supposed to try?
2007-10-15 16:26:05 · 5 answers · asked by vanillaxsugar 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What makes you think God wants you to be in a "boy-girl relationship"?
Personally, I think God thinks the whole dating game people play is stupid and dangerous. What he wants is for you to be in a personal, committed relationship WITH HIM! If you are chasing after a guy or trying to figure out if something is right for you without his help, you are not focusing on God, you are focusing on yourself and on another person.
I firmly believe that if you focus your sights on him and give him the desires of your heart, he will give you those desires when HE knows you are ready for them. ...and when that time comes, you won't have to ask if some guy is "the one"...God will make it crystal clear to both of you.
I don't know about you, but I know that what I want isn't a relationship with a man...been there done that and the result is always unsatisfying. What I want is a man that loves God more than he loves me...just as I love God more than I will ever again love another man. When I find a man that follows Jesus with all his heart, all his soul, all his mind, and all his strength, then I'll know it is right...and that kind of man doesn't have time for a "boy-girl relationship".
Until that happens, I don't care to take the chances I've taken in the past...thanks, I prefer to keep my rose colored glasses in a locked box until I'm married. All that romantic haze associated with "boy-girl relationships" can cloud your judgment and make it virtually impossible to hear what God is really saying to you! Seek God first and in all things...when you do, you won't need to ask this question!
2007-10-15 16:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by KAL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to burst your bubble but whoever told you that is lying. See, the problem is that whoever is interpreting God's "speak" isn't doing a very good job. The advice that was given to you is not correct. If you find a person you may think is compatible with you go for it. Do not wait for "God's will", that's just a bunch of bologna. If you did that you'd be waiting for your entire life. Maybe you should start taking things your preacher or whoever told you that with a grain of salt. Just my opinion though.
2007-10-15 16:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't exist.
You'll know you're in the right relationship if you both have strong feelings for each other and you get along well. You also have to be in a time of your life that a serious relationship makes sense. That decision is up to you and is a personal thing. Everybody is different.
2007-10-15 16:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by nondescript 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It usually happens when you least expect it. It may not be with this boy, it may not even happen until MANY years later!
Be patient. This may not be in the Bible, but, it is true, "good things come to those who wait".
GOD bless
2007-10-15 16:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Exodus 20:1-17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been maried twice....good luck!
2007-10-15 16:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Old guy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋