my son is going through a time that he is so disrespectful and although he is still getting good grades how did he go into be a sweet young man into a mouthy disrespectful one
2007-10-15 15:19:36 · 11 answers · asked by kelly m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't say how old he is, but I assume he is middle school age, which would be 11 - 13 . . . . . he is beginning to go through puberty, more than likely, and testing the waters, seeing what he can and cannot get away with. Having had three boys myself, they were taught respect and honor of mother and father. Values were always placed on them, and yes, one of them, the youngest, had a mouth that shocked me. He picked up bad language on the school bus, in sports, but the minute he came into the house, the language was off limits. Today he is a investment banker! It takes both mom and dad to set the rules, make sure privileges are taken away, and these days, they can be: cell phone, ipods, t.v., computer privileges . . . . things that kids really like. You have to be consistent, which from experience, is very difficult. I allowed my sons to get angry, ask questions, "why", but they knew when either dad or I said you are grounded, we meant it. Best to you.
2007-10-15 15:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow do I know how that feels!! I had the exact same problem.
It is a really difficult time to deal with them like that. BUT it does pass. My son and I were always close, a lot of people said we were to much alike. He is 30 and we are great now and still close. No it won't last that long, but at times it does seem like forever.
Just continue to let him know it is not acceptable, he is testing you. He is growing up and trying to find out just what he can get by with. Good Luck, it will pass.
EDIT: I bet the people that are giving the thumbs down to some of these answers don't even have a child that is or has gone thru this.
2007-10-16 11:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are his parent, and it is your responsibility to guide him to the next level of growth that he has got to experience either from yourself or school officials or the law will get involved.
Even though our children grow up and become preteens, teenagers, or kindergarteners, our job as paretns do not stop just becausse they get taller than us. They are suppose to learn respect at home,1st, then if they run around with the tough guys outside of home, do not blame the tough guys, the world has always had better things to offer any kid that is looking for new and exciting things to do and new attitudes. But this attitude could land them in jail. Have a talk with him, find out where his head is, what are his problems, he is that same little boy just in bigger skin. And for goodness sakes LOVE HIM!! babysister
2007-10-15 23:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by babysister 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now there are a ton of questions I can think of....
When is he the mouthiest?? Friends??? No Friends?
Do you yell back?
Usually teens like to act like the alpha of the group. The thing as the parent it to hold your ground... after all, you are the alpha.
Talking is a good thing, and allowing some freedoms. This is the age where "Do as I say... not as I do" applies. Compromise with him, and give him some freedoms. Not a ton. Still stand true to your ground rule, and just make some leniencies, just to give him the sense of trust. Remind him that trust is a fickle thing, you abuse it, it won't be around anymore. Respect his privacy... keep open lines of communication.
2007-10-15 22:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a typical teen. They go to bed one night all sweetness and light and wake up the next day with an attitude that resembles Linda Blair in the Exorcist. He'll out grow it....right after he knows EVERYTHING and the parents don't have a clue......(.that was my personal favorite) :) He will be his normal sweet self along about the time he turns 25.
2007-10-15 22:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot be best friends with your kids.
You lay down the rules at your house.
You have to be the parent, which means doing whatever it takes to instill respect, responsibility, ethics and morals.
That includes the well-placed slap on the face or the doubled-up belt across the fanny to establish supremacy.
You do what you have to do to get this little mongrel trained. Take away prized toys. Ground him. Whatever it takes.
2007-10-15 23:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is obviously something bothering him. something happen either at school or at home that has had a negative impact.
ask about school, friends, teachers, and be ready to read between the lines, sometimes kids will not tell you directly but if you ask the right questions you will get the answers you need
2007-10-15 22:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Al Martin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you didn't set clear boundaries and you let him. Him having good grade has NOTHING to do with him being disrespectful and mouthy.
2007-10-15 22:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by Amy Clark 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You got to look at his age too. If he is a teen they are going to do that it's just how they are.
2007-10-15 22:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by adria_kimbrel21 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
keep an eye on his freinds and and see how they act.he might be under a lot of peer pressure.
2007-10-15 22:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by morningstar6707 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋