I'm a 30 year old gay man and for the last year have been feeling quiet low when i think of kids. I've been feeling really broody and am just gutted to think that in all reality i'm probably never going to be a Dad. I have so many thoughts and views on how to be a good, loving and caring parent and feel cheated.
2007-10-15 15:16:31 · 20 answers · asked by Buripuk 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What year is this again?
Plenty of options for you to become a parent! If you are in a stable relationship go for adoption! or adopt from places like india or guatamala.
No one should have kids without being stable though. Career, permanent relationship-straight or gay, and a steady income, house and all that. Hope is not lost
2007-10-15 15:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
The way I see it is that you have not chosen to be the way you are, it's just the way that you have been made and I feel you deserve/have the right to be a parent just as much as anyone else.
Some gay men/couples use a friend to carry a child for them, I'm not sure of the legalities of it but, do you have anyone like that?
I am sorry you feel the way you do and I hope you find an answer.
2007-10-16 04:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by mummymoomoo 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Same as regualr parents...
hould bring up a kid to be more openminded about nice people and see relgion for the repression it is.
Kid needs influence off both sexes though however this can come from regualr contact with an extended family ie close friends, cousins etc of both sexes
2007-10-16 03:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think as long as a child recieves love, and is well looked after then the sexuality of their parents is unimportant!
I do however feel that kids need both male and female role models in their lives, whether in the form of a mother, aunt, gran etc!
2007-10-16 05:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are just as entitled to be a parent as everyone! I think there are options out there for a gay couple, surogracy, adoption or even fostering. So dont feel cheated!
2007-10-16 02:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Children need the infulence of both genders. That's why there are both genders available. If we keep allowing gay couples to either adopt or have childen by any other means, there will be, I believe in time many more mixed up people in the future. And don't you think that there are enough mixed up people already?
Here in NZ there has been a story about a young person who, having been brought up by a gay couple, has done her very best to be NORMAL by not telling anyone that she has 2 parents of the same gender. See what I mean?
You might be better to get involved in helping children by teaching or tutoring. That way you can have the benefit of being involved with children (I hope you are not a paedophile) and not have all the bother of the downside of being a parent. Of which there are many. Adolesence for instance!
All the best for the future
PH
2007-10-15 22:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by Phil H 1 · 3⤊ 5⤋
I don't think it matters if you are gay or straight. If you are loving, responsible, socially conscious, hard working, and stable, you can and should be able to be a parent. Obviously there are some things working against you, but there are plenty of children who need love in this world, and if you are one of those who wants to give, you should be able to. Have you thought about Big Brothers/Big Sisters? It isn't parenting, but it is a very important commitment, and something you may be able to do now while you are figuring out whether or not you will be able to adopt a child, or some other option.
I wish you lots of luck!!! :)
2007-10-15 22:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by M2S 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
There are plenty of single parents out there that cope fine, I dont think that ones sexuality dictates what kind of parent they are going to be. On the other hand of course it is going to be a bit more difficult for you to actually become a parent but there are ways around this. You could look into surrogacy or adoption, even fostering.
2007-10-15 22:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I don't think sexual orientation plays a part in being a good parent at all. If you have the ability to love, and provide a good home for a child I am all for it.
2007-10-15 22:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Any parents who have to make an effort to become parents probably make better parents than those who get pregnant but never wanted kids to start with.
If you aren't ready/can't adopt maybe you could volunteer with Big Brother. I know its not the same but its a start.
2007-10-15 22:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋